Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Morgan-Kate on December 23, 2015, 12:05:52 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Gift labeling?
Post by: Morgan-Kate on December 23, 2015, 12:05:52 AM
Post by: Morgan-Kate on December 23, 2015, 12:05:52 AM
I didn't know where to post this, and its probably a dumb question, but... I've been having a bit of a conflict: should I label my gift to my mother as being from me as my female or male self? Do you think that would make her uncomfortable? I fought the urge when wrapping gifts to other family members and actually had to redo labels a couple times. But it just seems more right to label it as from Morgan. She still hasn't addressed me as such and I don't think she notices how much it hurts my feelings. I'm just really torn by this. Opinions are very welcome because I really don't know what to do...
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Title: Re: Gift labeling?
Post by: Cindy on December 23, 2015, 12:09:07 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 23, 2015, 12:09:07 AM
As soon as I began to transition I only ever used my female name. If people didn't like it their hard look. I also handed back presents addressed to my former name. They weren't meant for me.
I laid the law down firmly so it was over and done with. I also refused to respond to my former male name.
I laid the law down firmly so it was over and done with. I also refused to respond to my former male name.
Title: Re: Gift labeling?
Post by: Mariah on December 23, 2015, 12:25:09 AM
Post by: Mariah on December 23, 2015, 12:25:09 AM
Once I started I only labeled things as being from Mariah. Where it was more difficult was dealing with my nieces. I opted for not putting aunt in front and Just put it was from Mariah. Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
Title: Re: Gift labeling?
Post by: Morgan-Kate on December 23, 2015, 01:30:01 AM
Post by: Morgan-Kate on December 23, 2015, 01:30:01 AM
I feel like I should specify that I'm not out yet. My mom knows because she confronted me on my behavior when I was still trying to figure everything out.
We're doing a big family gift swap on Friday and I'm wondering if I should label my mom's gift from Morgan or Tim. However, the opinions are appreciated. I'm just not a very confrontational girl and find it hard to be like that.
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We're doing a big family gift swap on Friday and I'm wondering if I should label my mom's gift from Morgan or Tim. However, the opinions are appreciated. I'm just not a very confrontational girl and find it hard to be like that.
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Title: Re: Gift labeling?
Post by: Tamika Olivia on December 23, 2015, 06:14:07 AM
Post by: Tamika Olivia on December 23, 2015, 06:14:07 AM
I'm kinda in the same boat with my folks. They are not using my birth name, but they are still adjusting to Tamika, so 99% of the time I'm "T". I don't want to press the issue this year, but I also don't want to give gifts from an initial, so I'm just not wrapping. Santa style, yo.
Title: Re: Gift labeling?
Post by: Deborah on December 23, 2015, 06:37:16 AM
Post by: Deborah on December 23, 2015, 06:37:16 AM
I just don't put my name at all on the from line. This year I just wrote From: The Unknown One. Let them ponder the meaning of that.
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