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My resolution is to keep progressing with my outward appearance and attempts to blend in the the general population as best as possible and to try harder at creating friendships.

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I came out to all my facebook last night.  Changed name, profile picture, gender  and wrote a message. It went incredibly well

that's great

Three letters HRT
Lol my therapy begins on the 28th of december, shes even going to adjust the books to take advantage of my limited benefits ($500 yearly) so ill score a few bonus sessions next year on this years benefits!

For now im doing the herbal thing placebo or not its making me feel better until i get in for real HRT.

~Shan~

My resolution is to fully come out to my family and friends. Hopefully it goes well. My mom is kind of a wild card.... Not sure if she will accept it or flip out. Irregardless I'm going to move forward and finally be me.

I've only made one New Years resolution that I've ever kept...and that was to make no more New Years resolutions. All has been well ever since! But I do use the new year to reevaluate things in general and just try to "be better".

Thinking back to the 2012-13 new year...I had no idea then that my long repressed dysphoria would explode a mere six weeks later leading me to where I am now.

I just want to be at least a little bit happy. My self esteem is so cripplingly low that it's ruining my life.

And folks, don't forget that you don't have to manifest your resolution by yourself, get all the help and support you need if necessary...there's a much better chance of success that way.

I don't want to make it a resolution, because I don't want the pressure and guilt if I am not able to keep it.  But my goal for 2016 is to come out to my wife.  :o

Find a therapist.  Maybe go on HRT.

I want to get rid of my facial hair.  That's really starting to bother me lately.  I just wish it wasn't so expensive.


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looks like we're all off to a good start

Quote from: KathyLauren on December 24, 2015, 04:05:28 PM
I don't want to make it a resolution, because I don't want the pressure and guilt if I am not able to keep it.  But my goal for 2016 is to come out to my wife.  :o

that's  why I use the words trying instead of doing, atleast by trying I'm accomplishing some and moving towards it.

never been real big on resolutions but this years I'm going to have a " try to work on " list....

try to get started on electro on the face hair, try to start low dose hrt, continue my therapy that has been so positive an experience and try and make this all work with a well paying job that I will lose if I transition and a job that keeps me away from home over 250 days a year on average. I think it''s going to take some creative juggling but one day and one step at a time to a happy real me !

2016 will be the year that my partner gets herself all surgically fixed... and that we get married. (Although in reality that has pretty much already occurred - she moved in last week and is now a regular visitor around the medical school).

You may have noticed we have both been posting less and less. This may even be our last ever post on this forum, but honestly would you have time to post much with someone so adorable around? I love her so much - thank you Susans for bringing us together. So Happy Christmas to all and a prosperous new year. Farewell in 2016 friends and I hope it brings you all a step closer to your dreams.

With much Love Jenny & Susan

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Quote from: Ms Grace on December 24, 2015, 02:58:52 PM
I've only made one New Years resolution that I've ever kept...and that was to make no more New Years resolutions.

I did the same thing Grace. I am kinda breaking it this year because I've promised myself to be more aggressive about meeting my own needs rather than deferring to the needs of others. However, since I made that promise at the beginning of December, perhaps it doesn't count.

And, by the wat, Jenny, Susan, you look adorable!

i am nomally not one to resolve to do anything but with this last year and the hope i have for the new year, its slightly easier than before.

I'd love to come out to my  dad. He's a tough cookie and ive  been anguishing over how that will go, but I know I will need to do it soon. Be a happier person, hrt helps a great deal with that one. Love and be kind to others more... you just never know what they are dealing with :)

Oh yeah, lose some weight... right after all the Christmas sweets I'm cutting myself off!!

Merry Christmas girls!!

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FFS in 2016

Quote from: Rejennyrated on December 24, 2015, 07:05:03 PM
2016 will be the year that my partner gets herself all surgically fixed... and that we get married. (Although in reality that has pretty much already occurred - she moved in last week and is now a regular visitor around the medical school).

You may have noticed we have both been posting less and less. This may even be our last ever post on this forum, but honestly would you have time to post much with someone so adorable around? I love her so much - thank you Susans for bringing us together. So Happy Christmas to all and a prosperous new year. Farewell in 2016 friends and I hope it brings you all a step closer to your dreams.

With much Love Jenny & Susan

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sorry to see you go, now we need a new Doctor.

Loose weight.
Finish electrolysis
GCS
Some small face work needed due to allergic reaction to cinnamon
Get my act togather regarding helping others with insurance needs
Paper accepted on HRT procedures
New job

Jennifer

Quote from: Rejennyrated on December 24, 2015, 07:05:03 PM
2016 will be the year that my partner gets herself all surgically fixed... and that we get married. (Although in reality that has pretty much already occurred - she moved in last week and is now a regular visitor around the medical school).

You may have noticed we have both been posting less and less. This may even be our last ever post on this forum, but honestly would you have time to post much with someone so adorable around? I love her so much - thank you Susans for bringing us together. So Happy Christmas to all and a prosperous new year. Farewell in 2016 friends and I hope it brings you all a step closer to your dreams.

With much Love Jenny & Susan

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I know you probably won't read this, but it's nice to see another MTF/MTF couple out there. ;)

Anyway, my resolution is to figure out my actual gender identity by next year's end, and start taking whatever steps are necessary to get my body to match it. Also, getting my girlfriend started as soon as possible would be a good idea.

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 24, 2015, 02:58:52 PM
I've only made one New Years resolution that I've ever kept...and that was to make no more New Years resolutions.

I find you kindred in so many things, Ms. Grace.  In 1995, I resolved to never resolve.

Quote from: sparrow on December 25, 2015, 01:34:24 AM

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 24, 2015, 02:58:52 PM
I've only made one New Years resolution that I've ever kept...and that was to make no more New Years resolutions.

I find you kindred in so many things, Ms. Grace.  In 1995, I resolved to never resolve.

I cannot tell if you've already failed or succeeded ???

So I'm going to:

• Find some love :icon_archery:♥
• Lose 15 lbs
• Start doing music again

Can't wait to see what this new year brings!

I'm going to get into really, really good shape and get laser done. Once those two are accomplished, I will probably be failing boymode so hard that when I'm out with my family they'll see why I need to go fulltime. If not I'll move out.

lose weight so I can fit in that black lace low cut dress I'm determined to buy.

I'm still inside the closet and I can't do anything with this issue before I'm 18 years old. Now I'm 15. So my new years resolutions is coming through this year and hope it would be a nice year. 2015 was very slow, so I hope 2016 is faster.

Not really a resolution, but the beginnings of work on a goal: facial hair OBLITERATION!  Already have the first appointment set for the 19th of January with the pro my Endocrinologist recommended.  So looking forward!  Otherwise, just keep on keeping on.

Plan on getting back to my music and getting out more with friends.  Need to socialize myself and get out of the doldrums of post kid raising.

Expand my wardrobe and finally organize my closet. SHOPPING!   8)

Goals for me:

- Get a passport (never had one before)
- take some vacation with (and without) my husband
- continue researching and setup actual FFS for 2017
- Try harder (practice more) to keep up a more feminine voice

Not all necessarily 'trans' goals but hey, you know.

seems to me if your trans they are trans goals

I need to get my life organized

I don't do resolutions but what I wish for, for 2016 is a relatively quiet year, after a year of massive changes, I just want to plod along for a while and let things settle. Seems easy enough, right?

Quote from: Squircle on December 24, 2015, 03:05:47 PM
I just want to be at least a little bit happy. My self esteem is so cripplingly low that it's ruining my life.

How can a gorgeous, level 9 crayola ninja possibly have low self esteem?!

None here. Operating year-to-year would be too big steps for me. If not limiting as well.

I operate day-to-day. If I want it, work on it starts as soon as possible, likely the same day, and every of the following days. If I succumb for a day, I make up in coming ones. But never succumb two days in a row, golden rule to avoid spiraling down.

*hugs*

Hi All

I want to donate more time into helping anyone in our community that just even need some to talk to. It can be a very  tough journey and there is nothing worst than being lonely. I know this as I have been there many times my self. No one should be alone. Please feel free to pm me if you would like to talk. I have met a lot of wonderful people on here and it has helped me so much. I have had so much support and have made lots of true new friends. I feel blessed to have found this web site. Thank You Susan and all the moderators for being there for me.

Big Hug's
Lyndsey

Lose weight
Start HRT by March at the latest
Start electrolysis
Maybe some college classroom outreach

My resolutions are;

- come out to family and friends
- get laser beams pointed at my face (already booked so a nice easy one for me!)
- find some trans friends who I can spend time with IRL :-)
- HRT (slightly out of my control!)


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Well 2015 was not really a great year,  but rather than go into that and get upset,  my resolution is to take back control of my life,  get everything in order and be successful.

I hope I can get a better job and save for my sugeries (ffs, ba and srs), I think srs is probably going to push down some years tho, because I need ffs first, and then a ba (but maybe if hrt is going to work nicely then no)... Or maybe find a rich guy to pay for my surgeries too, I have one in line but I don't want to get married u_u that's probably tmi.
Also I want to go back to college, and find a nicer boyfriend.

Mine is to come out to everyone. I just told my dad today, so that is like 80% of the emotional battle. Facebook is next, complete with new pics and the works.


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Mine is to finally build a social life and not basing so much of my self worth on what other people think of me.

Quote from: Ⓥ on December 25, 2015, 02:52:53 AM

QuoteIn 1995, I resolved to never resolve.

I cannot tell if you've already failed or succeeded ???

By making the resolution before the new year, I neatly avoided the paradox.  I've held it ever since though!

• Work on my voice
• Find the right surgeon for my FFS

Start Therapy and proceed with the rest of my life
Convince my wife this is something I need to move forward with and keeping it inside just between the two of us is tearing me up.  I hope to stay married and that she will move forward with me, but I am prepared to lose it all.  I am 50 this year and the past 40 have been hell.   I wish I would have had the nerve in the early 80's while in high school to be truthful to those around me.  I was caught several times and my parents sent me to a therapist, and I did not have the balls to say I did not want to have balls and would have been much happier with breasts.

don't dwell on blaming yourself. I wish I could of told people, but I had a secret and was too afraid to talk about it. I took me 60 years to admit it. I had a lot of therapy in my life , but my little secret wouldn't budge from its hiding place until the road was no more.

Gain weight
Drink more
Start smoking
Eat more junk food
Make bad decisions

Quote from: Jill F on January 03, 2016, 05:03:51 PM
Gain weight
Drink more
Start smoking
Eat more junk food
Make bad decisions

So you ARE getting back into a band!

Get fitter and trimmer in prep for T. And what comes after.

I guess that's more of a mandatory than a resolution... my therapist is saying so anyways.

Move out of were I live in MA and into my new house In Tamworth NH

Lynn

Not resolutions but what is ahead this year so far:

Divorce and rebuilding after divorce,
Part of a workshop at the PTHC
volunteering with the kids at the PTHC,
clearings for gcs (6)
BA & GCS
consult with DR. Spiegel.

Resolution
Go to the beach.

-Start HRT this month
-Start electrolysis
-Move away from my transphobic mother
-Be more social in college as the real me

Hopefully I'll be able to reorganize my life such as getting getting a job that's both easy and I'm actually good at, get out of my current living situation (As much as I don't want to it needs to be done), and hopefully start HRT.

 

Hi All

I wish for all of us to have a very good year as we have became very noticed in the public eyes and we need to get respect from everyone.

Lyndsey

Vive la révolution transgenre

Mine was to try hard to lose weight around tummy and slim the waist as much as possible.

In order of priority:

-accept and try to like myself, not just the description of being trans
-start HRT (3 weeks and counting)
-meet with the local group
-get a wig that works for me
-get some fully female outfits(wearing only undies and pants all the time right now, sorry TMI)
-make my first and second and ... public appearance
-continue electrolysis
-continue therapy
-come out to more family and friends

Considering the hours I work during my busy time of the year, it's hard to believe I can do any of that. However, considering where I was  year ago, who knows.

Hope you all have an inspiring, creative, positive year and I hope to be able to communicate with many of you.

With warmth,

Joanna

PS  Jenny and Susan, good luck. I will miss your insights and I bet I am not the only one.

Quote from: Jill F on January 03, 2016, 05:03:51 PM
Gain weight
Drink more
Start smoking
Eat more junk food
Make bad decisions

Jill,

If I can give you any of my weight, let me know. However, I'm keeping my drinking;) And send links to your "new band's" files.

Joanna

Nothing really trans related for resolutions. Only thing I promised to myself for this year is that I'm going to spend a month on Oahu.

Not really trans specific, but this is what I posted on FB:

My primary resolution for 2016: Never surrender, never accept that final defeat that says you will never accomplish your dreams.

I will accept failure because failures are merely lessons learned on the path to success. If the tower comes crashing down then I will rebuild my life even better than before.

I will rid myself of procrastination in despair over what seems insurmountable, that fear of not being good enough, not being capable, or not knowing where to begin is only illusion. Any obstacle may be overcome with a combination of direction, perspective, intention and a willpower to break through.

I will accept fate when it comes, but I will continually shape my destiny as I am a divine conscious being. And all divine conscious beings may through the power of intention alchemized into desired results shape the future of what they want to become.

I will maintain my true compass, my connection to my higher self that is love for myself and all my fellow beings. And with this compass I will continually check my course, that I am aligned with the direction of my true dream, a dream that is not only love for myself, but love for all.

Which is why I know I will never surrender, because while my love is deeply compassionate, my love is also fierce in purpose. It is a light that will never be consumed because there is an infinite supply of it available to all. And I will always have access to that source, because I know that the source of my being at all levels, in all forms, and in all realities is that divine love. ♥♥♥

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Sorry everyone

New Hampshire is The Best.

Lyndsey

So much. Kind of why I've been lurking around here more.

Basically, the whole social side of my transition is done, and I have a reasonably stable job that I actually like well enough, with good coworkers, decent pay, etc. So life is good. But I had to put so much on the backburner with respect to transitioning and general health.

But like a lot of the medical/physical side of transitioning kind of went on hold because I just didn't have the capacity to deal with it, and it kind of sucks. So basically, that's my resolution: Deal with all of that.

The amount of bureaucracy and paperwork and so-forth that goes into the whole process is just overwhelming to me sometimes, and because of that it has been really slow.