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Everyone knows Florida is the best state to be transgender in. Lol beautiful weather year round awesome clubs and nice people.  If you reply( you do not have to put your current state) just paint me a picture for me on where you have been as a transgender.[emoji175] (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160104/823bc319e03715f5648ebea294a4f094.jpg)

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Everyone knows it's Massachusetts! Four seasons, friendly folks everywhere, and because Provincetown!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

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Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 04, 2016, 01:20:58 PM
Everyone knows it's Massachusetts! Four seasons, friendly folks everywhere, and because Provincetown!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

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I would say Massachusetts is one of the tops as well.

As for Florida, I would think it's one of the worst states to be trans in. Other than the nice weather, there isn't much in terms of rights and protections. Trans people and pretty much all LGBT people can be discriminated against in the terms of housing, employment, education, there are no laws against trans exclusions in health care policies. All the nice weather and awesome clubs wont mean anything when you cant find a job or an apartment because you're being discriminated against.

I've heard Florida is one of, if not the worst, state to be in for trans people. I can't personally attest to this, but I trust the source.

I believe that the best state by far is Washington. Specifically Western Washington. The people laws are both very progressive and supportive of trans people generally. I would go so far as to say that Seattle may be the safest city for trans people as well, due to our large liberal and alternative population. We also have many universities, and therefore many educated people compared to other places, which certainly helps understanding.

I'm not saying New Mexico is any sparkling diamond of an example, but Florida always sounds terrible for trans people. I'd rather stay here with all the dust.

Washington sounds great though, but I was unfortunately stuck in the Eastern part of the state while I was there. Spokane is no Seattle.

Florida here, too and I have to say that so far I had no negative reactions. I'm not living full-time yet but whenever I go out as the "real me" I'm getting smiles and compliments. The only "problem" I have down here is that I very rarely get to wear my cute "winter" boots...

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-Jessie

Maryland has been very good to me. My area has strong anti-discrimination laws and a very supportive attitude toward us. I've never been harassed. My job has me dealing with all sorts of people, most of whom must have heard my history, and not once has anyone seemed to have the slightest problem with my being trans.

I'd have to say Washington also.  But, I live in the southeast corner so Spokane is closer to me.  Haven't had any problems per se, just some restaurants are totally backwards, so I go elsewhere! 

I live in Washington and I have had literally NO issues with being openly trans here. It's almost like a paradise in downtown Seattle. 


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It sure ain't Arkansas. I mean, it could be worse, but the resources are nil and except in a few of the more liberal towns (Fayetteville, Eureka Springs, parts of Little Rock) discrimination oozes from the pores.

The great Commonwealth of Virginia, of course. Multiple LGBTQ clinics that offer HRT, two very accepting regions to live in (northern VA or Richmond), and just about any kind of touristy destination you could want - we have mountains, lakes, rivers, beaches, cities, cute towns - ALL OF IT. Easy peasy requirements and low costs for changing your name and gender marker on your IDs. No bathroom bills. I can only think of one instance of anti-trans violence, and that was in a part of the state that I'd recommend avoiding anyway (Norfolk).

Plus my city has the highest concentration of Korean BBQ restaurants in the state. This is clearly an important consideration.

I will also give my homeland of Maryland a loving shout out. Mostly for Old Bay, but also for being fairly cool to all manner of LGBTQ folks.

Quote from: crazycool86 on January 04, 2016, 01:07:31 PM
Everyone knows Florida is the best state to be transgender in. Lol beautiful weather year round awesome clubs and nice people.  If you reply( you do not have to put your current state) just paint me a picture for me on where you have been as a transgender.[emoji175] (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160104/823bc319e03715f5648ebea294a4f094.jpg)

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Best thing I can say about Florida is that you're in it, crazycool86!  Looks like you're the one who puts the sunshine in the Sunshine State!

Look at a political map and note the colors. In terms of opportunities, protections, basic rights, and recognition of your chosen gender will likely best follow the colors. The western coast and the north east have always seemed the best to me. I used to travel a lot and I never had issues in those states.

Now, my cake is baked, it doesn't seem to matter much.

Cindi

Quote from: michelle666 on January 04, 2016, 01:28:11 PM
I would say Massachusetts is one of the tops as well.

As for Florida, I would think it's one of the worst states to be trans in. Other than the nice weather, there isn't much in terms of rights and protections. Trans people and pretty much all LGBT people can be discriminated against in the terms of housing, employment, education, there are no laws against trans exclusions in health care policies. All the nice weather and awesome clubs wont mean anything when you cant find a job or an apartment because you're being discriminated against.

michelle  your too serious! but your right hopefully with other states making laws against transgender people hopefully florida will follow suit

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 04, 2016, 01:20:58 PM
Everyone knows it's Massachusetts! Four seasons, friendly folks everywhere, and because Provincetown!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

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Seattle WA

You didn't even mention a State. I thought the O/P was looking for a fun discussion of where we've been and where we are?  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

you are right, edited didn't mean to hijack the thread

Quote from: crazycool86 on January 04, 2016, 01:07:31 PM
Everyone knows Florida is the best state to be transgender in. Lol beautiful weather year round awesome clubs and nice people.  If you reply( you do not have to put your current state) just paint me a picture for me on where you have been as a transgender.[emoji175] (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160104/823bc319e03715f5648ebea294a4f094.jpg)

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Florida here also!

As bad as NJ is with high property taxes, being crowded, lousy winters and let's not forget all the NJ jokes (which exit?). As far as being transgender, it's a great state to live in with transgender rights (despite Chris Christie being the current governor.) We have anti-discrimination laws statewide that protest sexual orientation and gender identity being used against us for employment, housing and public accommodation. We are also protected against hate crimes and it's really easy to get of gender marker's changed on our Driver's License. (But not NJ Birth Certificated thanks to Chris Christie, but since I was born in TN that doesn't affect me.) Still though transitioning in this state was easy compared to if I had to in TN where I last lived.

Ohio doesn't suck. Not the best though. I heard California is really good. I've been thinking about moving out there since I was young. Cost of living is rediculous.

Honestly Ohio is pretty LGBT friendly, it had a huge pride and it even hosted the gay Olympics (lgbt Olympics) a year or two ago - next one  is in Paris, France if that means anything... still not as good as some other states though.

stuck in Tucson,Az atm from what ive seen Phoenix seems to be the only trans friendly city,Tucson not really sure,i dont like it here though because it seems to have alot drug users around,not talking 420 but hard drugs and pill popping,isnt my thing really. I really miss the seattle area

California is the place to be, from San Diego, Hollywood, to San Francisco, you can't go wrong. There are technology companies, to fashion, to film... Opportunity abounds! And they're all backed by anti discrimination laws.

Housing can be expensive, I actually live outside of Hollywood proper and it's relatively affordable versus living in the city.

I feel like I'm at the center of the world here! Disney, Knott's, six flags...just a drive away. We got it all , diversity, education, and organic produce.

Come visit, maybe I'll show you around, and I'm sure you'll agree (:


Audree

P.s. traffic here is the worst though.like... The. Worst.

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I really appreciate all the replies. I almost had nervous break down the other night. had to give up alot to start transitioning. I was a former President Of an MC. Its people like each and everyone of you that help people like me thats just starting out. thanks again and atay beautiful (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160107/bdc22e3f8a7fb6bc832a15ee26600aa7.jpg)[emoji175] [emoji175] [emoji175] [emoji175] [emoji175]

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Maryland #1!

Statewide LGBTQ laws protecting citizens of this fine state on both Gender Identity and Sexual orientation in all aspects from bathroom usage to housing.

Plus! we have Old bay =p

(I've been to provincetown! I loved it!)

You mean Old Bay the seasoning, right?  :laugh:  'cuz I loves that stuff!

The most moved to state in the union for the last three years is Oregon.  For most people that means Portland and Eugene where housing and jobs are tight.  Just met four new people (trans) out here from Georgia who are out looking.  The climate of tolerance and a rainforest go well together. 

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 07, 2016, 06:57:58 PM
You mean Old Bay the seasoning, right?  :laugh:  'cuz I loves that stuff!

The very same! It's like $3 here for a big container... when I lived in TN for a stint... omg the same size was $15... I had to have my family ship me some... it was cheaper xD

You can't have seafood without it......OK, I put it in lots of other stuff, too!  :laugh:

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 07, 2016, 07:36:38 PM
You can't have seafood without it......OK, I put it in lots of other stuff, too!  :laugh:

You'd fit right in lol

Meats, Popcorn, Pastas, Fried food, (Some even do Ice cream), We have a whole bunch of alcoholic beverages flavored like old bay lol we put it on just about everything

Quote from: Kclaire86 on January 07, 2016, 07:40:28 PM
You'd fit right in lol

Meats, Popcorn, Pastas, Fried food, (Some even do Ice cream), We have a whole bunch of alcoholic beverages flavored like old bay lol we put it on just about everything

Wat? O_o
Is it just in the seasoning section of the grocery store? Or is it one of those boutique fancy things?

Quote from: Kclaire86 on January 07, 2016, 07:40:28 PM
You'd fit right in lol

Meats, Popcorn, Pastas, Fried food, (Some even do Ice cream), We have a whole bunch of alcoholic beverages flavored like old bay lol we put it on just about everything

Yes! My roommate looks at me like I'm crazy. It goes on everything. I get a few big containers for Christmas every year :)

Quote from: itsApril on January 07, 2016, 03:02:42 PM
MC?  Motorcycle Club?

yes

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I lived in Michigan when I started my transition and it was okay. For as conservative the town I lived in was, I didn't have too many issues when I came out. There were also several transguys at my school (at least 4 others that I knew of), which is pretty surprising but it was nice to have a community.

I live in Washington now, about 20 miles north of Seattle. The town I live in isn't nearly as liberal as the city, but I'm stealth there so there's really not a whole lot for me to judge as far as acceptance goes. The only thing I've noticed is that, for as liberal as the state is, you'd think there'd be a lot more options as far as doctors go. I have to drive 17 miles just to see my endocrinologist, and there's only one top surgeon in the whole state that I know of.

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MC?  Motorcycle Club?

Yes

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Quote from: crazycool86 on January 06, 2016, 10:52:08 PM
I really appreciate all the replies. I almost had nervous break down the other night. had to give up alot to start transitioning. I was a former President Of an MC. Its people like each and everyone of you that help people like me thats just starting out. thanks again and atay beautiful

Are the members of the MC giving you a hard time about it?  I've met some bikers, and I've noticed they have a really macho culture.  They think it's an insult if someone accuses them of being like a woman.

Haha Chicago seems pretty lovely regarding trans women. I'm sure there are bad places to be in, but growing up here my whole life, I have found that most people just let you be what you want.

I'm not really out publicly but one of the reasons is that New York State doesn't seem to be the friendliest when it comes to the TG scene. I also live in the middle of nowhere.

Quote from: Kova V on January 05, 2016, 10:31:42 PM
Ohio doesn't suck. Not the best though. I heard California is really good. I've been thinking about moving out there since I was young. Cost of living is rediculous.

Honestly Ohio is pretty LGBT friendly, it had a huge pride and it even hosted the gay Olympics (lgbt Olympics) a year or two ago - next one  is in Paris, France if that means anything... still not as good as some other states though.

I thought the same thing but I transplanted myself anyway. I got used to it. Everyone does. People are paid more too here, so it isn't as hard as you think.

Quote from: Cindi Jones on March 08, 2016, 06:42:58 PM
I thought the same thing but I transplanted myself anyway. I got used to it. Everyone does. People are paid more too here, so it isn't as hard as you think.

I don't really have a preference between Northern California and Southern California, I figure there are more techy jobs in Northern California though. I've just started looking for a job out there, I'd rather get a job first, then move out there, rather than the other way around - you know anyone that needs an e-commerce marketing manager? I've also got to sell my house in Ohio but that's it for things tying me down.

Quote from: in.Chains on January 04, 2016, 03:41:05 PM
I've heard Florida is one of, if not the worst, state to be in for trans people. I can't personally attest to this, but I trust the source.

I think that depends on the area. I don't have any issues, but I have heard from others who had problems. Several counties and cities have local LGBT protections -- Orange (Orlando), Osceola (Disney World), Volusia (Daytona), Hillsborough* (Tampa), Broward (Ft. Lauderdale), Dade (Miami), Monroe (Key West), Palm Beach, Alachua (Gainesville), and Leon (Tallahassee) have county protections.

I used to live in the "Redneck Riviera" and I ran into bigotry, but that was over a decade ago. The Orlando area is a lot better.

*Hillsborough is not listed on Wikipedia as having protections, but I am almost certain I saw something about them passing an ordinance.

Name Changes -- Not too difficult (at least around here) and take about 2 weeks to 1 month, but are costly. Also, they don't require you to take an AD out in the paper like a lot of other states.

Gender Marker -- For State ID/Driver's License, we follow the same rules as the SSA and Passport people. A Doctor's letter saying they are treating you and you are transitioning. SRS is no longer required since 2011. Unfortunately, Birth Certificates are another matter. You can get them amended, but only after SRS. Sadly, that is still better than some states.

Medical-- I don't know about the rest of the state, but we have several doctors around here that provide HRT for trans* persons. There are at least 4 options for trans* HRT just in Orange and Seminole. Some are better than others, though.

Quote from: Kova V on January 05, 2016, 10:31:42 PM
Ohio doesn't suck. Not the best though. I heard California is really good. I've been thinking about moving out there since I was young. Cost of living is rediculous.

Honestly Ohio is pretty LGBT friendly, it had a huge pride and it even hosted the gay Olympics (lgbt Olympics) a year or two ago - next one  is in Paris, France if that means anything... still not as good as some other states though.

You must live near Columbus. Southwest Ohio is a wingnut's dream.

Quote from: diane 2606 on March 09, 2016, 10:34:26 PM
You must live near Columbus. Southwest Ohio is a wingnut's dream.

Yeah, I should have said Columbus is okay. I've heard Cleveland is okay too. Cincinnati is in Southwest Ohio, which I assume that's where you are : )

Once you get out into the rural areas (of any where to be honest) it's a random grab bag.

I use to live in MD it was alright now I'm I FL Osceola county neck to Orlando the transgender community here is not very open it's more like a secret group that you have to hunt down, Lisarenee I would love to chit chat with you seem to know about the community around here every one I have found so far lives down south of me they have invited me to come visit them but I need someone up here that can help me out with things if you don't mind.

BY FOR NOW

Crazycool86 I'm a biker I have a 1975 Honda 750 and a 1976 Yamaha 650 four cycle, I love to gust go ride and forget about the world nothing relaxes me more than that, I'm glad the weather is turning now I can get back out there.

BY FOR NOW

Oregon. Simply, Oregon.

I did some looking in to FL laws as of last year 54% of FL countess had transgender discrimination laws for work,housing and medical treatment.

BY FOR NOW

I live in NH, but work in Mass, near Boston. I just switched my PCP to a full transgender hospital in Boston! First appointment is Wednesday. I'm so excited and nervouse. I think I'm optimistic that Mass is a great TG place. I grew up here. Woot for progress!

Not Indiana.

Quote from: DAWN MID GIRL on March 10, 2016, 02:36:21 PM
I use to live in MD it was alright now I'm I FL Osceola county neck to Orlando the transgender community here is not very open it's more like a secret group that you have to hunt down, Lisarenee I would love to chit chat with you seem to know about the community around here every one I have found so far lives down south of me they have invited me to come visit them but I need someone up here that can help me out with things if you don't mind.

BY FOR NOW

Dawn and Lisarenee, I'm in Brevard, and would love to chat with a couple of local girls.  I definitely haven't found any local groups to me.

Quote from: Tommi on April 21, 2016, 08:57:45 AM
Dawn and Lisarenee, I'm in Brevard, and would love to chat with a couple of local girls.  I definitely haven't found any local groups to me.

Right now, it is in flux. We have/had a support group at the Center on Mills, but when the Center moved people stopped coming. There are folks trying to organize new groups in the area and my understanding is that they are close to starting another group in the Orange/Seminole area. There are a few other groups, but they aren't very good about advertising, so it is basically word of mouth.

Here in Oregon there are anti-discrimination laws towards the transgender community. When I was going through my real life year I went to human resources and disclosed my plans. They were extremely supportive. Next I disclosed to my immediate manager, same as human resources, very supportive. I announced my plans in a weekly meeting to 20 plus co-workers, all but one was supportive.

During my RLT (Real Life Test) I was fortunate to pass both visually and spoken word but always had to deal with things like gender marker on my driver's license and credit cards with my male name yet never had an issue. Once a sales lady said, your mother had a sense of humor giving you that first name.

If one was to live in say Portland or Salem Oregon then you are no more than one or two hours away from the ocean or the mountains so there is lots to do. I live in Salem Oregon and love it but many times head off to Portland for big city life on the weekends.

So I can't say enough about Oregon if you are looking for a great place to live either pre-op or post-op.