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Title: New and have a few questions for older individuals
Post by: FreysAsh on January 05, 2016, 09:20:20 PM
Post by: FreysAsh on January 05, 2016, 09:20:20 PM
So here is our story. I have known my SO for over a year, we have been a couple for over 4 months. It took us a while to be together as we both had someone else in our lives. Savannah has been open with me, I have known about the transgender MTF part although I have done very little research on the topic. I just knew this person had to be in my life, that I totally fully was in love.
I am 15 years older than Savannah, she says that doesn't matter. I am the 2nd person who knows. New Years Eve we both dressed up, did our make up and went out. It helped that there was a large gay population at the event we attended. We both had a great time and I was very much attracted to her. Why not, she is still the same person?
I also introduced her to a friend of mine who has a FTM son. My friend had a lot of information and was able to speak to us frankly. All of this has prompted Savannah to finally make an appointment with a therapist.She made sure the appointment was a time that I could go with her. I am very excited for her and for us as a couple.
I have been reading and am finding out that I have some of the same concerns as other wives. I have a fear Savannah will find someone else, even though she tells me that I am the one for her. She wants no one else. My other concern is that I am 52, mother nature will take it's course and I will be thrown into - ugh - menopause. With me in that state, and Savannah wanting the start HRT I am sure things wont be so rosy. I am a pretty even tempered person so am hoping that will show through during this time. I am just worried about the future, our future and how we will cope with each other. I adore her, love her with all my heart, and she me. Has anyone gone through menopause with SO starting HRT?
I am 15 years older than Savannah, she says that doesn't matter. I am the 2nd person who knows. New Years Eve we both dressed up, did our make up and went out. It helped that there was a large gay population at the event we attended. We both had a great time and I was very much attracted to her. Why not, she is still the same person?
I also introduced her to a friend of mine who has a FTM son. My friend had a lot of information and was able to speak to us frankly. All of this has prompted Savannah to finally make an appointment with a therapist.She made sure the appointment was a time that I could go with her. I am very excited for her and for us as a couple.
I have been reading and am finding out that I have some of the same concerns as other wives. I have a fear Savannah will find someone else, even though she tells me that I am the one for her. She wants no one else. My other concern is that I am 52, mother nature will take it's course and I will be thrown into - ugh - menopause. With me in that state, and Savannah wanting the start HRT I am sure things wont be so rosy. I am a pretty even tempered person so am hoping that will show through during this time. I am just worried about the future, our future and how we will cope with each other. I adore her, love her with all my heart, and she me. Has anyone gone through menopause with SO starting HRT?
Title: Re: New and have a few questions for older individuals
Post by: Jacqueline on January 06, 2016, 08:14:49 PM
Post by: Jacqueline on January 06, 2016, 08:14:49 PM
FreysAsh,
Not quite sure what to say but welcome. I am sorry you are in such a precarious situation.
I am not the SO but the MTF. Don't lose hope. Humans are pretty odd adaptable things.
I will step back now in case someone with real experience and maybe an answer to your question steps in.
I wish you luck and love on the journey you two are on.
With warmth,
Joanna
Not quite sure what to say but welcome. I am sorry you are in such a precarious situation.
I am not the SO but the MTF. Don't lose hope. Humans are pretty odd adaptable things.
I will step back now in case someone with real experience and maybe an answer to your question steps in.
I wish you luck and love on the journey you two are on.
With warmth,
Joanna
Title: Re: New and have a few questions for older individuals
Post by: Dena on January 06, 2016, 08:31:39 PM
Post by: Dena on January 06, 2016, 08:31:39 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. I am not what you are looking for as I am MTF but I may have some of the answers you are looking for. No relationship is guaranteed to last however the longer the relationship stays together the longer it will last.
I have gone through the equivalent of menopause as I have been off hormones for 10 years and I will agree that it't not normally ones idea of fun but it also wasn't all that bad. Yes, some women feel it more than others but given time, the discomfort will pass. If there are physical issues that are a problem, you may be treated with HRT to control the issues. You may feel a little different emotionally but you still should be attracted to others and enjoy sex. If menopause hits you hard, make sure you tell your doctor because it can be treated.
The other side is your partner. If your partner is being honest with you, her attraction toward you will not change as the result of HRT. We have many couple on the site that where a MTF has remained with their wife and have no desire to be with anybody else. We do have a few cases where honesty was an issue and the couple broke up. As long as both of you are honest with each other, I see no reason why you can't be a happy couple for a long time to come.
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I have gone through the equivalent of menopause as I have been off hormones for 10 years and I will agree that it't not normally ones idea of fun but it also wasn't all that bad. Yes, some women feel it more than others but given time, the discomfort will pass. If there are physical issues that are a problem, you may be treated with HRT to control the issues. You may feel a little different emotionally but you still should be attracted to others and enjoy sex. If menopause hits you hard, make sure you tell your doctor because it can be treated.
The other side is your partner. If your partner is being honest with you, her attraction toward you will not change as the result of HRT. We have many couple on the site that where a MTF has remained with their wife and have no desire to be with anybody else. We do have a few cases where honesty was an issue and the couple broke up. As long as both of you are honest with each other, I see no reason why you can't be a happy couple for a long time to come.
We issue to all new members the following links so you will best be able to use the web site.
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