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Title: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: WildPollyAppeared on January 26, 2016, 10:11:45 PM
Post by: WildPollyAppeared on January 26, 2016, 10:11:45 PM
Hi everyone! So I'm happy that I finally worked up the courage to make my first post. So I guess I should say something about myself, and I hope this isn' an over share, but forgive me in advanced. So I'm 31 and a MtF transgender, well not yet... I'm pre everything. But ever since I was around 12 I knew I was meant to be female. I've never told anyone basically out of fear for during my teenage years and in my 20's its importance was pushed to the side basically because like (and death) got in the way. What I mean by that was when I was 21 my Dad was diagnosed with cancer and I kinda stopped living for myself and focused only on helping my family anyway that I could. Unfortunately my Dad lost his battle with cancer when I was 25, and frankly it messed me up... like a lot. I still haven't been able to deal with it, and finally just a few months ago I started therapy to help properly deal. But now that I'm in therapy I've been thinking its time to talk to my therapist about wanting to be female. I came here cause I was hoping to get some advice because I still have one reservation. That reservation is sometime I'm worried that I'm just faking that I'm not really trans, I say this cause I don't remember ever crying about being stuck in the wrong body. I know it sounds crazy, but the fact is it hasn't made me have a big emotional outburst. It makes me feel like it might not be real. Honestly when I think about being born the wrong sex it makes me feel kind of numb like there should be emotion but there just isn't. I'm just wondering if anyone else experienced the same kind of feeling? Well I feel like I have successfully rambled enough, and if you read all of this thank you.
-Polly
-Polly
Title: Re: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: Mariah on January 26, 2016, 10:17:50 PM
Post by: Mariah on January 26, 2016, 10:17:50 PM
Hi Polly, Welcome to Susan's. I know it can be daunting when we first start and as a result we may have reservations in regards to our being trans. It's completely normal to have those feelings. You might want to consider seeing a therapist to help you sort through your feelings. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah
Mariah
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Title: Re: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: Dena on January 26, 2016, 10:25:24 PM
Post by: Dena on January 26, 2016, 10:25:24 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. It's pretty common for us to question our feelings and wonder if it might be fake. That question was in the back of my mind all the way through the transitions. I am now post surgical 33 year and the question hasn't been asked after surgery and I know it was the right decision for me. The simple answer to your question is it's not normal for people comfortable with their birth gender to ask these questions and the fact that you are indicates you are transgender. It is very possible your are transsexual but that is something you and your therapist will need to decide as I don't have enough information to be sure at this point. Feel free to ask more questions on this thread and we will do our best to answer them.
Title: Re: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: V M on January 26, 2016, 10:31:10 PM
Post by: V M on January 26, 2016, 10:31:10 PM
Hi Polly :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: JLT1 on January 26, 2016, 11:13:57 PM
Post by: JLT1 on January 26, 2016, 11:13:57 PM
Hi Polly!
Welcome to Susan's....
We all experience things differently. I don't known where you are at on the gender spectrum. I do know that you are asking the right questions....
That alone takes courage.
Hugs,
Jen
Edit because my phone chaged "are" to "ate", which was really bad. Sorry
Welcome to Susan's....
We all experience things differently. I don't known where you are at on the gender spectrum. I do know that you are asking the right questions....
That alone takes courage.
Hugs,
Jen
Edit because my phone chaged "are" to "ate", which was really bad. Sorry
Title: Re: Saying hello, and here is my story.
Post by: Devlyn on January 27, 2016, 08:32:06 AM
Post by: Devlyn on January 27, 2016, 08:32:06 AM
Suddenly a.... :laugh:
Welcome to Susan's Place, Polly! I'm the resident Bostonian and Grand Poobah of the Entertainment Committee! ;)
I agree with the others, most people never even consider the fact they might be transgender, it's a really strong indicator. Get busy making friends and I'll be seeing you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Welcome to Susan's Place, Polly! I'm the resident Bostonian and Grand Poobah of the Entertainment Committee! ;)
I agree with the others, most people never even consider the fact they might be transgender, it's a really strong indicator. Get busy making friends and I'll be seeing you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn