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Title: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Roni on January 30, 2016, 12:32:21 PM
Post by: Roni on January 30, 2016, 12:32:21 PM
Hi GCS Forums!
I am not usually a lurker here. I'm Roni! :angel: I have a very specific question on a topic pertaining to GCS. Answers to this question are what will probably help me decide if I want to get GCS at all. I am going to try as much as possible to write this post using forum-appropriate language. Mods feel free to delete or edit content deemed improper.
How does intimacy feel with your new genitalia compared to that of your old? *SPECIFICALLY* I would like to know how sensation has changed with 1.) masturbation and 2.) climaxing. Mainly directing this question towards MtFs, as I am a pre-op (or non-op? more on that in a few) trans woman.
My scenario: My current genitalia does not give me dysphoria. Hence if I were told I had to live non-op my whole life it probably wouldn't depress me, but I am certainly not opposed to getting the surgery in order to further align my body with my gender. HOWEVER, at the moment, I greatly enjoy the sensations I get from both self-stimulation and climax. I would not want to lose those sensations for sub par sensations post-op. Basically I would rather be non-op than go post-op and have lesser sensations.
Did intimacy feel better, different, the same, worse? For those deciding to answer, thank you so much for your time!
I am not usually a lurker here. I'm Roni! :angel: I have a very specific question on a topic pertaining to GCS. Answers to this question are what will probably help me decide if I want to get GCS at all. I am going to try as much as possible to write this post using forum-appropriate language. Mods feel free to delete or edit content deemed improper.
How does intimacy feel with your new genitalia compared to that of your old? *SPECIFICALLY* I would like to know how sensation has changed with 1.) masturbation and 2.) climaxing. Mainly directing this question towards MtFs, as I am a pre-op (or non-op? more on that in a few) trans woman.
My scenario: My current genitalia does not give me dysphoria. Hence if I were told I had to live non-op my whole life it probably wouldn't depress me, but I am certainly not opposed to getting the surgery in order to further align my body with my gender. HOWEVER, at the moment, I greatly enjoy the sensations I get from both self-stimulation and climax. I would not want to lose those sensations for sub par sensations post-op. Basically I would rather be non-op than go post-op and have lesser sensations.
Did intimacy feel better, different, the same, worse? For those deciding to answer, thank you so much for your time!
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Dena on January 30, 2016, 12:52:10 PM
Post by: Dena on January 30, 2016, 12:52:10 PM
What you are asking is very dependent on the surgery you receive. My surgery looks less realistic that what is provided today but may provide more sensation that some that look more realistic today. While I haven't had sex yet, the proper way to have sex involves two steps. The first is to become excited and the second is the actual act. I think women get the better end of the deal but women don't always climax.
In the end you will have to decide if the risk is worth it because there are no guarantee you will be happy that the surgery will provide the same level of enjoyment you currently have.
In the end you will have to decide if the risk is worth it because there are no guarantee you will be happy that the surgery will provide the same level of enjoyment you currently have.
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: jfong on January 30, 2016, 01:02:17 PM
Post by: jfong on January 30, 2016, 01:02:17 PM
In regard to your no 1, pre: it seems so easy I could just do it anywhere if I wanted to, post: I need more time and specific stimulation to achieve the O. For no 2, pre: it was just meh, especially after HRT, post: it varies, sometimes it is like "oh my god..with whole body shaking", sometimes it is "oh that's it?". Personally if I can combine them I will prefer question 1 pre and question 2 post.
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Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: OCAnne on January 30, 2016, 04:34:19 PM
Post by: OCAnne on January 30, 2016, 04:34:19 PM
'How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia...' - Powerful!
If you mean intimacy as in closeness then it's a dream come true. It's an incredible feeling that came with SRS. I can't get enough of having my sexual partners body next to mine. It's very difficult for this #GirlLikeUs to completely describe the change. It has enabled my ability to feel closeness, vulnerability and completely submit.
For me it's not about orgasm but experiencing true sexuality that had been kept from me.
G-d bless my surgeon for giving me the correct body to be me!
Thank you,
Anne
If you mean intimacy as in closeness then it's a dream come true. It's an incredible feeling that came with SRS. I can't get enough of having my sexual partners body next to mine. It's very difficult for this #GirlLikeUs to completely describe the change. It has enabled my ability to feel closeness, vulnerability and completely submit.
For me it's not about orgasm but experiencing true sexuality that had been kept from me.
G-d bless my surgeon for giving me the correct body to be me!
Thank you,
Anne
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: shoko on January 31, 2016, 02:36:25 PM
Post by: shoko on January 31, 2016, 02:36:25 PM
I'm curious about this, too. Especially for those MtF who are still attracted to females, like how does it work?
BTW Roni you look gorgeous did you have FFS before or no?
BTW Roni you look gorgeous did you have FFS before or no?
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Sarah.811 on February 03, 2016, 05:08:06 AM
Post by: Sarah.811 on February 03, 2016, 05:08:06 AM
It really depends on the surgery and on the person itself, there can also be accidently issues like the risks of every common surgery that nerves get damaged etc.
But to your question:
Pre-OP i could anytime anywhere even when i was not really in mood and it was - for me - 75% mechanical work and 25% fantasy depending. I got not much out from the sensations before climax... sure it was nice but nothing special. The O itself was mainly a powerful explosion and then i was finished.
Now 4 months Post-OP i can say i dont regret it (Thanks to my surgeon) My experience is only from masturbation i had no partner since the surgery: Now - to get feelings and to archieve an O - it depends 80-90% on my mood and fantasys, and the rest is mechanical stimulation. If i am not horny and dont have the right thoughts i can forget it. So it became a bit harder to get feelings down there. The feelings has changed in a way that is hard to describe: The foreplay is far more enjoyable, i get nice feelings from touching my whole body. I cant achieve every time an orgasm but that doesnt really matter because i can enjoy now the whole playtime far more. The orgasm itself is also very different: from 'really wondering if i had an O now' to 'fullbody-shaking-climax' (to be honest the last one happened only once) ... At the moment i am still exploring but it happened a few times that i could hold the Orgasm-level far longer and work on from that level of arousal (There is hope for being multiorgasmic i think :)).
Sorry for my poor english, i hope this 'helps'
kisses Sarah
But to your question:
Pre-OP i could anytime anywhere even when i was not really in mood and it was - for me - 75% mechanical work and 25% fantasy depending. I got not much out from the sensations before climax... sure it was nice but nothing special. The O itself was mainly a powerful explosion and then i was finished.
Now 4 months Post-OP i can say i dont regret it (Thanks to my surgeon) My experience is only from masturbation i had no partner since the surgery: Now - to get feelings and to archieve an O - it depends 80-90% on my mood and fantasys, and the rest is mechanical stimulation. If i am not horny and dont have the right thoughts i can forget it. So it became a bit harder to get feelings down there. The feelings has changed in a way that is hard to describe: The foreplay is far more enjoyable, i get nice feelings from touching my whole body. I cant achieve every time an orgasm but that doesnt really matter because i can enjoy now the whole playtime far more. The orgasm itself is also very different: from 'really wondering if i had an O now' to 'fullbody-shaking-climax' (to be honest the last one happened only once) ... At the moment i am still exploring but it happened a few times that i could hold the Orgasm-level far longer and work on from that level of arousal (There is hope for being multiorgasmic i think :)).
Sorry for my poor english, i hope this 'helps'
kisses Sarah
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Roni on February 03, 2016, 06:37:06 AM
Post by: Roni on February 03, 2016, 06:37:06 AM
Thanks for all the replies everyone! It is very much appreciated.
I guess the general consensus from people who have posted here is while results vary per surgeon, most everyone has experienced huge changes when it comes to both masturbation and climax---most of these changes being that it is harder and takes more work to feel good with the new genitals. I still don't know where this leaves me as I love the current sensations I get... I'll have to look more into this before even considering GCS.
I guess the general consensus from people who have posted here is while results vary per surgeon, most everyone has experienced huge changes when it comes to both masturbation and climax---most of these changes being that it is harder and takes more work to feel good with the new genitals. I still don't know where this leaves me as I love the current sensations I get... I'll have to look more into this before even considering GCS.
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Roni on February 03, 2016, 06:38:29 AM
Post by: Roni on February 03, 2016, 06:38:29 AM
Quote from: shoko on January 31, 2016, 02:36:25 PM
I'm curious about this, too. Especially for those MtF who are still attracted to females, like how does it work?
BTW Roni you look gorgeous did you have FFS before or no?
Thank you! Yes I did get partial FFS with Dr Cardenas. I'm looking into getting more work done though, in order to completely pass. Might go back to Cardenas.
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Jenna Marie on February 03, 2016, 07:09:11 AM
Post by: Jenna Marie on February 03, 2016, 07:09:11 AM
I would say it feels much better, overall. Not just from lack of dysphoria, but because my new genitals are MUCH more sensitive than before. (I don't know how it works, either.) Both masturbation and climax take more work, though; that's not the fault of the surgery but of estrogen, since it was true pre-op on HRT as well. I have to be mentally into it and focused and romance myself - or be romanced - and not get distracted.
As for how it works with my wife, well, the way it does for any pair of lesbians. ;)
As for how it works with my wife, well, the way it does for any pair of lesbians. ;)
Title: Re: How does intimacy feel with your new, corrected genitalia compared to pre-op?
Post by: Serenation on February 04, 2016, 02:51:40 AM
Post by: Serenation on February 04, 2016, 02:51:40 AM
harder to achieve for me, but 100 times better. Though I never really enjoyed it pre-op.