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Title: Thoughts
Post by: KittyKat on February 10, 2016, 01:37:29 AM
Post by: KittyKat on February 10, 2016, 01:37:29 AM
Has anyone ever wondered if transition just came too easy, or it was meant to be? I certainly have had issues along the way but I meet so many people who've had a harder time. Sometimes I feel guilty that I don't have a whole lot of issues. I never had an adam's apple, I've been gendered as female on the phone since I was "male", and even before I really started hormones if I took time on my makeup, I would pass in public mostly. I've been a member on the forums for over 2 years and I have trouble doing more then reading what goes on in people's lives because I really can't relate. While I have lost my wife, I've honestly become more of a "free spirit" in terms of partners lately, and I definitely wish I could afford GRS, but over all everything has just worked out so well I find myself so much happier. I still deal with a host of mental health issues, but I'm so much happier in daily life that they seem more manageable.
Title: Re: Thoughts
Post by: Ms Grace on February 10, 2016, 02:08:29 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on February 10, 2016, 02:08:29 AM
There are pluses and minuses along the way for everyone, I just feel fortunate that most of my minuses are relatively trivial or have a bit of a work around most of the time.
Title: Re: Thoughts
Post by: stephaniec on February 10, 2016, 08:35:34 AM
Post by: stephaniec on February 10, 2016, 08:35:34 AM
my only problem was a wasted 40 years
Title: Re: Thoughts
Post by: Emileeeee on February 10, 2016, 08:54:11 AM
Post by: Emileeeee on February 10, 2016, 08:54:11 AM
I had the luck of the draw too with no adam's apple, a small frame, small hands, small feet, naturally wavy/curly hair, and only slightly tall for a woman. I thought my voice was lower than it is, but it turns out my natural voice is fairly close to the female range too. It's not passable without effort, but pitch isn't an issue. My T was also excessively low. Around the time I turned 40, prior to HRT, I started getting gendered female while in male mode. So yeah I've had it pretty easy as far as presentation goes. 100% of my friends were accepting too.
But I didn't have it quite so easy on the family side. Out of 150 family members, 7 still talk to me. Two of those are aunts, one is a parent, the rest are cousins. I lost the other parents, siblings, and nieces/nephews. I try to stick with the attitude that if they don't like me for me, it's not worth the effort, but it still brings me to tears about once a week knowing that all these people that have known me for 40 years were capable of walking away that easily.
But I didn't have it quite so easy on the family side. Out of 150 family members, 7 still talk to me. Two of those are aunts, one is a parent, the rest are cousins. I lost the other parents, siblings, and nieces/nephews. I try to stick with the attitude that if they don't like me for me, it's not worth the effort, but it still brings me to tears about once a week knowing that all these people that have known me for 40 years were capable of walking away that easily.