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Well my wife took my child to a children psychologist that advised her to go to a family advocate. They are trying to take visitation rights away from me now. She is claiming that my child doesn't know who she is because one day I am a man and then a woman. It looks like a revenge thing. She is trying to force me to stay a man or something.

Why must this turn ugly. She got what she wanted she divorced in an uncontested divorce. Now she want to make my life even more miserable after I thought we had an agreement.

We repeat, get to a lawyer. You can't trust her to keep her word as she wants to get as far away from you as possible. Without legal protection you are fair game and children with child support are up for grabs.

I had my psychiatrist write a letter for me to the court stating that I was not a danger to my children. You may not need it, but it will definitely help.

Edit: It was an immense help and changed the entire hearing. It was a lifesaver.

I am getting a lawyer. We have an appointment with the children pshycologist that initiated this whole thing with my wife. They are discriminating against me also for being trans! By telling me I am a bad parent and unstable because I am trans. That falls in the same level as racism for me.

I will look up my trans rights but maybe this therapist got little experience with children of trans people. She is looking past the fact that my wife emotionally abused me in front of my child physically abused me in front of my child pushed me down a flight of stairs in front of my child. Then her cousin physically assaulted me in front of my child. Not even that I czan say that my wife is the best parent and did not physically abused my own child and screamed at my child for minor things. It is much easier just blaming the childs trauma on the trans person. But I will not stand down I will open my mouth and this woman will pay if that is the game she wants to play.

I would be very careful about seeing a therapist who is in your wife's camp without a lawyer or witness. Having one person lying is bad enough but two will sink you. Any moves you make should be reviewed with a lawyer because you can't afford to make any mistakes. Your wife will pounce on them and it will be all over for you.

Quote from: Dena on February 18, 2016, 04:00:47 PM
I would be very careful about seeing a therapist who is in your wife's camp without a lawyer or witness. Having one person lying is bad enough but two will sink you. Any moves you make should be reviewed with a lawyer because you can't afford to make any mistakes. Your wife will pounce on them and it will be all over for you.

ditto

Hugs, Amore. This is awful - about as bad as it gets. Please give yourself credit for being strong in the face of a really, really hard situation.

I like your direction: Don't give up, don't back down. Show them how tough a trans woman can be.

"I've only got one match, but I can make an explosion."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xo1VInw-SKc

I would say don't sign anything and don't ever go alone. Always take a witness with you and fight for the right you as a parent has to see your child. There are 2 sides to every story and until you get to tell yours, I am certain your ex wife is certainly telling hers. Just how much of that is the truth remains to be determined.

Trans people are no more threat to their children than hetro sexual people are.

Best of luck to you.

Love,
Clare

What do you want to accomplish by going to meet with someone who has decided you are an unfit parent without even meeting you?  Do you think that you can accomplish what you want?  Really? 

Get a letter.  Fight!

Hugs

Jen