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I hate how small they are and seeing transgenders with implants makes me feel so jealous and insecure. My boyfriend even says they look like 12 year old girl boobs.... He won't even touch them cause he said there's not enough there. I don't even take my bra off wen we fool around cause I'm so insecure. I wish I could get implants but I don't hav the money :/.

*hugs*

accept yourself for the wonderful woman that you are.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 01:31:29 PM
My boyfriend even says they look like 12 year old girl boobs.... He won't even touch them cause he said there's not enough there.

Wait, what?

I dont want to alarm you, but, I think the real problem here are not your breast  size... I think you need a real man, not a boy!

I'm not sure I should say that, but... for real, you need someone who makes you life better, not the opposite!

Is this the same one that said "your all right for now"

Quote from: stephaniec on February 22, 2016, 02:04:15 PM
Is this the same one that said "your all right for now"

yea....

I would of never of guessed

Quote from: stephaniec on February 22, 2016, 02:10:22 PM
I would of never of guessed

ik y'all said break up with him... It's just I don't want to be single again. He's my first bf.

well, it's your choice , I don't know him so I can't say , but I really think you sell yourself short.

Quote from: stephaniec on February 22, 2016, 02:16:51 PM
well, it's your choice , I don't know him so I can't say , but I really think you sell yourself short.

hes really nice Most of the time. He just says things that makes me insecure. I mean he has no issues with my face.... He says he thinks I'm beautiful in the face but my breasts could be bigger along with my hips.

He should understand that you are just starting HRT.  I worry a lot of my butt and my hips too but.. hormones need time to work sadly :( ...   I would love a kardashian butt but impossible for now if i dont get implants or wait long enough for hormones and even when it will be at its full potential from hrt, i will still want more lol.. i know myself.

My genital is more a problem to me then my body for being with a boyfriend to be honest.

like I said I don't know him , but your describing a tactic that abusers will use so they keep you around so they have a punching bag. Like I said I don't have the slightest idea what kind of person he is , but your description would appeal to me as a boy friend I personally couldn't deal with and believe me I more than would love to have a warm body next to mine. Naked of course.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 02:14:12 PM
ik y'all said break up with him... It's just I don't want to be single again. He's my first bf.

First partners are just for practice.

and I wonder what it would be like to have a bf.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 02:19:27 PM
hes really nice Most of the time. He just says things that makes me insecure. I mean he has no issues with my face.... He says he thinks I'm beautiful in the face but my breasts could be bigger along with my hips.

Like Stephanie said:  I don't know him either.  But this part of your post throws up a HUGE red flag for me.  It really is up to you though, only you can decide if the good outweighs the bad.

As far as insecurity about your body I totally understand, I wish I was further along too.  It takes time......  relax, it'll happen!

Hugs

Tell him even 12 yr old Girls don't wake up the next day suddenly with Model Boobs. Educate him on what Female Puberty is. ;)

He had only dated transgenders who hav had breast implants and years of hormones so maybe he's just not use to the fact that I  just started hrt 3 months ago.

Sounds like HE needs to grow up because he cannot appreciate your inner and outer beauty.  He should be lucky to have a woman as beautiful as you.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 02:19:27 PM
hes really nice Most of the time.

He's supposed to be nice ALL of the time.
Why is he no longer with the other girls?

Ask him how he is going to feel about you when you finally have GRS.

I don't like your BF...he sounds like an A%% to me, sorry to say. You have to realize many guys would love to date you and be your partner for life. Go out, meet people...you will realize this.

As far as breast growth, it can take time or you can see doctor for a HRT adjustment, explaining your concerns.

As far as butt, progesterone seems to help with this. Very effective, combined with an adequate dose of E, for you.

has he mentioned any reasons for him breaking up with the other trans girls.

Quote from: KarinMcD on February 22, 2016, 03:33:49 PM
He's supposed to be nice ALL of the time.
Why is he no longer with the other girls?

Ask him how he is going to feel about you when you finally have GRS.

i have. He said he's no longer with them because they were mean, heartless, and over all not good people. He dated them back wen he lived in Hollywood. I hav brought up the surgery n he supports me if I decide to get it.

I'm also on a really high dose of estradiol and spironolactone so I don't think I can go any higher. I am goin to talk to her bout progesterone my next appointment next months.

interesting

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 01:31:29 PM
. . . My boyfriend even says they look like 12 year old girl boobs.... He won't even touch them cause he said there's not enough there. I don't even take my bra off wen we fool around cause I'm so insecure.

Classic behavior of an abuser.  He is consciously stirring up emotional insecurity in you, because he can use your insecurity to manipulate you and make you more dependent on him.

If that's how you would like to live, that's up to you.  If it's not, show this loser the gate.  You deserve better than this.  I think this is the third thread you have started in recent weeks about this same guy, and people are mostly offering the same advice each time.

By the way, you might want to talk with a therapist about this.  Trans folks often think of therapy only in connection with gender transition.  But another very useful application of therapy is to gain insight into relationship behaviors that are self-defeating or self-destructive.  A good therapist can help you develop emotional tools and behaviors that can help you find and keep better relationships.

Really, this guy is poison.

ditto

If I were with something that said that I would just end up giving them the finger. I don't see why it should matter. Boobs are like...when you're in Jr. High and they announce a pizza party. You might not know what kind of pizza you're getting, but you're excited anyway! Personally, I think small ones are just as good, if not better in some cases. I don't ever plan on implants myself. I'm more of a fan of natural. But, if it makes YOU feel better (you you you, not them, but you), then go for it.

I am going to offer another option. Try the Noogleberry and Gluteboost cream. I know there is possibility of failure but, I have seen without even HRT one complete size up in my breast in 2-3 months before starting HRT. I am now pushing a B size after 2 months of HRT. This advice comes with a warning if all else fails it is another possible avenue and it is natural. The Gluteboost is non hormonal it builds fat in the breast area by supposedly 12-20%. Do some readings by users at Amazon.com in regard to Gluteboost cream even though it is for buttocks it is also for breast development. My butt has rounded in response to this cream and HRT. Noogleberry is a British
Company that builds a better breast pump than most read what users are saying about it.

👠Hugs,
Michelle

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 03:11:11 PM
He had only dated transgenders who hav had breast implants and years of hormones so maybe he's just not use to the fact that I  just started hrt 3 months ago.

I've never met knowingly met any transwomen until recently and he's dated more than one? How's that work?

It sounds like he's making an effort and going looking for them, and combined with the rest of it I'd be a bit worried. Do you know anything of his past, socialize with his friends (and not just men)?

I'm new around here so I hope it's ok for me to chime in here but you really need to discuss this with your bf. I don't think he is speaking in any positive way. You need support, love and caring not negative things. I think you need to have a conversation and listen carefully to what he says. I know you don't want to be single but it is better to be single and happy than in a relationship and be made unhappy by comments such as that. A few people have said already that this is a classic abuser tactic and I'm sorry to say that I agree. Be careful and take care of yourself. You are beautiful and don't forget it. Don't let anyone tell you any different.

I'm walking along the street now and it suddenly struck me that I must add something. This is an issue of respect and love and caring. It is not limited to any of us here, or this community. It is universal and so is unacceptable for your boyfriend to speak to you in that manner.

I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but I felt I must add that.

xxx

Quote from: AnonyMs on February 22, 2016, 10:45:53 PM
I've never met knowingly met any transwomen until recently and he's dated more than one? How's that work?

It sounds like he's making an effort and going looking for them, and combined with the rest of it I'd be a bit worried. Do you know anything of his past, socialize with his friends (and not just men)?

idk of he goes out looking for it. I don't think he does since he hasn't dated a transgender in 2 years while living in Louisiana. He told me in Hollywood you see them all over the place.

You DO have 12-year-old girl boobs! Since you just started HRT 3 months ago, you are at the point in puberty that a 12-year-old cis girl would be. (If not less; many of them spend a year or more with just tiny breast buds while their bodies are getting ready to develop.) Cis girls take 5-10 years to grow breasts; there's no reason to think you would overnight either. Similarly, those women you're comparing yourself to have probably been on HRT for years, not months.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 03:46:34 PM
I'm also on a really high dose of estradiol and spironolactone so I don't think I can go any higher. I am goin to talk to her bout progesterone my next appointment next months.

You are definitely NOT on a really high dosage of estradiol, TRUST me. I have taken much higher and I know several transwomen from Sydney who've taken 2-3 x your dose. Ditto for spironolactone doses as I have read about much higher doses being prescribed. Your doses are typical of what is prescribed to transwomen. I'm not suggesting you increase your doses but I'm just stating these are not really high doses.

Progesterone might or might not increase breast size. It varies from one person to another. Progesterone is anti-estrogenic and in some, might even lead to breast shrinkage.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on February 23, 2016, 11:10:21 AM
You DO have 12-year-old girl boobs! Since you just started HRT 3 months ago, you are at the point in puberty that a 12-year-old cis girl would be. (If not less; many of them spend a year or more with just tiny breast buds while their bodies are getting ready to develop.) Cis girls take 5-10 years to grow breasts; there's no reason to think you would overnight either. Similarly, those women you're comparing yourself to have probably been on HRT for years, not months.

Exactly!

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 22, 2016, 03:11:11 PM
He had only dated transgenders who hav had breast implants and years of hormones so maybe he's just not use to the fact that I  just started hrt 3 months ago.

So, a guy starts dating you, knowing that you have only just started HRT. He then makes snide comments about your 'small' breasts, making you feel insecure and jealous to the point you want to hide them?

Not even the most sexist, misogynous, testosterone-ravaged guys I know -- who email each other porn, swap sex stories, and think the breasts of the woman who just walked past are prime conversational material -- would ever say something so insulting to a woman they were sleeping with.

Why? Because normal men don't care. Yes, they may have their types, their preferences, their 'perfect catch'. But normal men think sex is sex -- who cares how what colour her hair is, or how big her breasts are, if you're getting some? And if that woman happens to be your wife or serious partner, there's no way you're getting any if you've crushed her self esteem and made her feel worthless by telling her she's not sexy.

Sorry Angélique, but your boyfriend isn't a normal man, and however many nice things he says, he demonstrably does not care about you as a person. You may be happy to put up with that for now, and knowing other women in similar situations, I doubt very much that anyone here is going to change your mind. But the fact is, he is a manipulative person, and no amount of you trying to please him is ever going to change that.

More than anything else, though, you need to start loving yourself for who you are. Millions of woman have small breasts, but it does not make them any less beautiful, or less sexy. And that includes YOU! If you want to keep your boyfriend around for the "benefits", well, I can't blame you... but please, whatever you do, don't ever buy into his objectifying trash talk that you, we, and every normal man and woman on this Earth knows is a lie.

 :)
Hey, they're your breasts, and if you like them ( I know I am forever grateful to have mine), your boyfriend should like them too.  If he doesn't, he ain't your boyfriend, dear.  Chances are, he's not comfortable with his, either.  I know I wasn't, and secretly always wanted them, but had to wait 50 years for the opportunity. 

I am going to refer to my old self on this one that I told my wife when she had questions about her breasts. More than a mouthful is a waste. Now this may sound disgustingly funny and it is. But what I am trying to say is don't give in to your BF. It's whats in your heart that's important. If he's only looking at your breasts. He's not looking deep enough. Dump him