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Title: double standards, ignorant assumptions
Post by: Amy413 on February 24, 2016, 12:09:48 AM
Post by: Amy413 on February 24, 2016, 12:09:48 AM
as an mtf, I have found myself drawn to friendships with women, but sometimes, not always, seeking those female friends appearing to the world as male, some women will back off.
It's as if some people assume just because a person has a penis, they are on a constant quest to stick it in something.
I just want to be friends.
I'm having 'it' tucked away, I don't want to stick it in anything.
It's as if some people assume just because a person has a penis, they are on a constant quest to stick it in something.
I just want to be friends.
I'm having 'it' tucked away, I don't want to stick it in anything.
Title: Re: double standards, ignorant assumptions
Post by: Cindy on February 24, 2016, 12:50:55 AM
Post by: Cindy on February 24, 2016, 12:50:55 AM
Hey Hon,
Slow down. If you are presenting as male most women will see you as a guy and be a bit cautious.
Ahh a little secret, once you present as female, men appear to be a little bit intimidating at times!
Slow down. If you are presenting as male most women will see you as a guy and be a bit cautious.
Ahh a little secret, once you present as female, men appear to be a little bit intimidating at times!
Title: Re: double standards, ignorant assumptions
Post by: sparrow on February 24, 2016, 01:10:44 AM
Post by: sparrow on February 24, 2016, 01:10:44 AM
Yeah, this has been the most consistent dysphoria I've had over the years. Early in life, all my friends were female. As we matured sexually, I found it harder and harder to be friends with women, and harder and harder not to objectify them. I was sad about the difficulty in making friends, and extremely uncomfortable with the objectification. Thanks to HRT, the reflexive objectification is almost entirely gone, and women find me less threatening now!
Title: Re: double standards, ignorant assumptions
Post by: suzifrommd on February 24, 2016, 05:43:30 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on February 24, 2016, 05:43:30 AM
Quote from: Amy413 on February 24, 2016, 12:09:48 AM
as an mtf, I have found myself drawn to friendships with women, but sometimes, not always, seeking those female friends appearing to the world as male, some women will back off.
It's as if some people assume just because a person has a penis, they are on a constant quest to stick it in something.
I just want to be friends.
I'm having 'it' tucked away, I don't want to stick it in anything.
I'm with you Amy. This is the main reason I knew I had to transition (as opposed to just wanted to). It was next to impossible to make the sort of friendships I wanted as a married male. It's also the reason why I insist upon being able to pass pretty well.