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Title: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: stephaniec on February 24, 2016, 10:44:29 PM
I have been totally afraid of going to the Starbucks I hang out at fully in proper gender mode for a long time .It was my last hurdle to overcome and a couple days ago I threw caution to the wind and went in the Starbucks when it so happened that a lot of people that know me were in there. I just got the feedback from a female Barista that the shift manage who happens to be female told her that I looked good. So yea, I'm on my way to the rest of my life.
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: WholeNewDrew on February 24, 2016, 11:50:05 PM
I suspect that most people's fears about transition are greatly inflated. People get away with far worse than just trying to express who they are inside by being confident and nobody bats an eye.  It's all about confidence girl, you've just gotta own it!
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: stephaniec on February 25, 2016, 12:03:31 AM
yea
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: Obfuskatie on February 25, 2016, 12:09:27 AM
I will say, a lot of transition is getting used to anticlimax, at least in my experience :)


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Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: stephaniec on February 25, 2016, 12:21:12 AM
yea, pretty weird
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: allisonsteph on February 25, 2016, 05:49:12 AM
Quote from: stephaniec on February 24, 2016, 10:44:29 PM
I have been totally afraid of going to the Starbucks I hang out at fully in proper gender mode for a long time .It was my last hurdle to overcome and a couple days ago I threw caution to the wind and went in the Starbucks when it so happened that a lot of people that know me were in there. I just got the feedback from a female Barista that the shift manage who happens to be female told her that I looked good. So yea, I'm on my way to the rest of my life.

Congrats, it's a great feeling isn't it? I think the best comment I got from a barista at Starbucks the first time I went in in full femme was "You look happy".
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: abd789 on February 25, 2016, 05:59:26 AM
I was talking to my wife about something... it occurred to me that short of wearing womens clothing and some makeup... I dont really look all that different. Now at first that might sound odd ... but Im curvy, Ive always had boobs, Ive always had fem mannerisms and sing song voice... though its deep. Im just wondering how much it would really surprise anyone if I have a nice top and some makeup on. And yes our fears are blown out of proportion in our own minds... anticlimax is a great descriptor
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: Colleen M on February 25, 2016, 06:06:33 AM
More and more I find truth in the saying that at 20 we worry about what others think of us, at 40 we stop worrying about what they think of us, and at 60 we realize they were never thinking of us anyway. 
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: cheryl reeves on February 25, 2016, 08:29:36 AM
When I was younger I didn't care what people thought,I did my own thing and if someone took offense they left me alone and kept their opinions to themselves. They found giving me their opinion they were soon told to f off,i've done my own thing since I was 13.
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: Ashey on February 25, 2016, 03:54:57 PM
Hehh this has been my experience too. I was so afraid to come out to my parents that I put off transitioning for several years. Then when I finally told them, it wasn't a big deal and they've been perfectly fine with it. Major facepalm situation, lol. I also told all my friends and the rest of my family. Almost all of them were just like 'okay, that's cool' and weren't surprised hardly at all. Plus, I still have my old ID and anytime I get carded, I almost never get so much as a slightly odd look. I think we definitely blow things out of proportion in our heads, but hey.. that's a rather typically female thing to do anyway. :P

Grats on getting over that hurdle. Hopefully it gets easier now. :)
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: Mermaid on February 25, 2016, 04:27:23 PM
Congratulations =)

I can sort of relate... I don't think there comes a time when you feel "ready"... just need to stop caring and worrying, and just do it. Then you end up realizing you've been ready all along. That was my experience at least...
Title: Re: I think my fears have turned out to be greatly overblown
Post by: stephaniec on February 25, 2016, 04:33:19 PM
Quote from: Ashey on February 25, 2016, 03:54:57 PM
Hehh this has been my experience too. I was so afraid to come out to my parents that I put off transitioning for several years. Then when I finally told them, it wasn't a big deal and they've been perfectly fine with it. Major facepalm situation, lol. I also told all my friends and the rest of my family. Almost all of them were just like 'okay, that's cool' and weren't surprised hardly at all. Plus, I still have my old ID and anytime I get carded, I almost never get so much as a slightly odd look. I think we definitely blow things out of proportion in our heads, but hey.. that's a rather typically female thing to do anyway. :P

Grats on getting over that hurdle. Hopefully it gets easier now. :)
yea, pretty weird, I went into Starbucks today and was greeted with my proper name. I don't know how that happened because the Barista that called me by my proper  name I wasn't aware that she knew anything about it.