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Title: FtM at all girls school
Post by: elliot 56 on February 28, 2016, 08:03:56 PM
Post by: elliot 56 on February 28, 2016, 08:03:56 PM
So nobody knows that I'm transgender and going to an all girls school really depresses me. I want to tell someone there however i fear they'll kick me out. Should I tell anyone or is this one of the things that can ruin my future forever?
Title: Re: FtM at all girls school
Post by: LordKAT on February 29, 2016, 12:16:56 AM
Post by: LordKAT on February 29, 2016, 12:16:56 AM
I don't know about ruining your future, it can be bad to be in a place where you are totally uncomfortable. Are there no none segregated schools you could attend?
Title: Re: FtM at all girls school
Post by: Matthew on February 29, 2016, 05:41:01 AM
Post by: Matthew on February 29, 2016, 05:41:01 AM
Quote from: elliot 56 on February 28, 2016, 08:03:56 PM
So nobody knows that I'm transgender and going to an all girls school really depresses me. I want to tell someone there however i fear they'll kick me out. Should I tell anyone or is this one of the things that can ruin my future forever?
I know 4 transmen at a local all girl's school - all of them are out and 3 of them have their preferred names on the register, I think some have even been able to legally change their name and remain at the school.
Legally, your gender will remain female until you have it changed following gender therapy (and possibly other restrictions depending on your location). The school should not be allowed to kick you out for being trans, doing so would surely be discrimination.
Title: Re: FtM at all girls school
Post by: DiamondBladee on February 29, 2016, 10:40:31 AM
Post by: DiamondBladee on February 29, 2016, 10:40:31 AM
Quote from: Matthew on February 29, 2016, 05:41:01 AM
I know 4 transmen at a local all girl's school - all of them are out and 3 of them have their preferred names on the register, I think some have even been able to legally change their name and remain at the school.
Legally, your gender will remain female until you have it changed following gender therapy (and possibly other restrictions depending on your location). The school should not be allowed to kick you out for being trans, doing so would surely be discrimination.
Exactly this.
Title: Re: FtM at all girls school
Post by: Kylo on March 02, 2016, 02:22:49 PM
Post by: Kylo on March 02, 2016, 02:22:49 PM
If it depresses you is it a good idea to stay?
I went to an all-boys school in sixth form for two years. They allowed girls in the sixth but there wasn't many of them, the effect was largely that I was attending a boy's only school. I hated high school but my two years in sixth were fantastic. Much more relaxed and I actually had fun, and friends... that I made almost immediately and went out clubbing and drinking with. For the first time in my school life I wasn't on edge and growing shoulder knots. I didn't know at the time why I felt so comfortable but after that experience I'd say it DOES make a difference which school you attend, some are awful and the experience will end up a bad memory... and some can be great, if you make the effort to make the change and find a school that suits you better.
I'm just gonna suggest here that an all-girl's school is intimidating even for girls, never mind for an FTM. My father wanted me to attend an all-girl's private school at one point and I said hell no. I'm not sure how you'll become comfortable in that environment whether you tell anyone or not?
I went to an all-boys school in sixth form for two years. They allowed girls in the sixth but there wasn't many of them, the effect was largely that I was attending a boy's only school. I hated high school but my two years in sixth were fantastic. Much more relaxed and I actually had fun, and friends... that I made almost immediately and went out clubbing and drinking with. For the first time in my school life I wasn't on edge and growing shoulder knots. I didn't know at the time why I felt so comfortable but after that experience I'd say it DOES make a difference which school you attend, some are awful and the experience will end up a bad memory... and some can be great, if you make the effort to make the change and find a school that suits you better.
I'm just gonna suggest here that an all-girl's school is intimidating even for girls, never mind for an FTM. My father wanted me to attend an all-girl's private school at one point and I said hell no. I'm not sure how you'll become comfortable in that environment whether you tell anyone or not?