Community Conversation => Non-binary talk => Topic started by: autumn08 on March 12, 2016, 09:07:02 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Am I Genderqueer/Non-Binary?
Post by: autumn08 on March 12, 2016, 09:07:02 AM
Post by: autumn08 on March 12, 2016, 09:07:02 AM
Using our western understanding of gender, I'm able correspond a preference of mine to a gender, but I find it difficult to correspond my innate self to a gender, because I don't know how malleable my preferences are. Since the proportion of my masculinity and femininity is ambiguous, I can't place my preferences on a male/female scale and determine to which gender my innate self is more analogous.
I consider myself a transgender female, because I unequivocally desire a female body, but since I can't define my innate gender, should I also regard myself as genderqueer? Whether I am genderqueer, or not does not change the fact that I want to transition, but I'm interested in joining a support group, so I would like to know how I should define myself based on the trans community's standards. Would not defining myself as genderqueer negate my masculine tendencies? Would defining myself as genderqueer negate my desire to fully transition? When should this term be used?
I consider myself a transgender female, because I unequivocally desire a female body, but since I can't define my innate gender, should I also regard myself as genderqueer? Whether I am genderqueer, or not does not change the fact that I want to transition, but I'm interested in joining a support group, so I would like to know how I should define myself based on the trans community's standards. Would not defining myself as genderqueer negate my masculine tendencies? Would defining myself as genderqueer negate my desire to fully transition? When should this term be used?
Title: Re: Am I Genderqueer/Non-Binary?
Post by: Elis on March 12, 2016, 09:27:09 AM
Post by: Elis on March 12, 2016, 09:27:09 AM
NB is an un umbrella term with many different aspects. Yiu can have gender queer means that on some days you feel male and the other female or agender were people don't feel they have a gender or third gender people were people feel they're another gender entirely. Some people who are nb and AMAB may not like expressing their gender identity by being fem; which doesn't mean they're not nb. Vice versa with people who are AFAB.
Some nb people feel they need hormones or surgeries to get rid of dysphoria and others are comfortable not taking that option; which doesn't make them less trans.
There are also many degrees of feeling nb. For me I feel 10%agender and the rest male. So don't feel pressured to fit a particular label or to express your gender in a certain way. Just live as you feel most comfortable :)
Some nb people feel they need hormones or surgeries to get rid of dysphoria and others are comfortable not taking that option; which doesn't make them less trans.
There are also many degrees of feeling nb. For me I feel 10%agender and the rest male. So don't feel pressured to fit a particular label or to express your gender in a certain way. Just live as you feel most comfortable :)
Title: Re: Am I Genderqueer/Non-Binary?
Post by: autumn08 on March 15, 2016, 09:40:35 AM
Post by: autumn08 on March 15, 2016, 09:40:35 AM
Thank you for responding Elis and I agree that we should live in the way we feel most comfortable.
Let me ask my question differently. I view gender as having two aspects; gender expression and gender identity. My gender expression (how I want to present) is consistently binary. My gender identity (how I view myself in relation to others) can oscillate (gender fluid), can not correlate to gender (agender), and can have elements of both genders (bigender). When gender identity is viewed as how masculine or feminine we currently are, I think everyone is genderqueer/non-binary, but it may still be possible to calculate to which gender we are more affiliated.
While my gender expression is manifest, my gender identity is ambiguous at the moment. This most likely will change as I transition, but would my current state be considered genderqueer?
Let me ask my question differently. I view gender as having two aspects; gender expression and gender identity. My gender expression (how I want to present) is consistently binary. My gender identity (how I view myself in relation to others) can oscillate (gender fluid), can not correlate to gender (agender), and can have elements of both genders (bigender). When gender identity is viewed as how masculine or feminine we currently are, I think everyone is genderqueer/non-binary, but it may still be possible to calculate to which gender we are more affiliated.
While my gender expression is manifest, my gender identity is ambiguous at the moment. This most likely will change as I transition, but would my current state be considered genderqueer?