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Title: My third visit with my therapist
Post by: Brandii on March 12, 2016, 06:17:10 PM
Post by: Brandii on March 12, 2016, 06:17:10 PM
I had my third visit with my therapist and I like her alot. She says she will have my letter ready next week and I can schedule my new doctor after that. I was reading something in another post here that someone else (?liljames) had almost the same experience I have enjoyed. She said based on all I have told her it was totally obvious that I have ALREADY transitioned most of the way and to wait would be wrong.
But here's the rub-I feel guilty for my part in my present situation and am trying still to protect my wife from this. I already know it might not work but I must at least try until trying does not work anymore. My therapist thinks I can do it. She also knows that I am ready to move forward regardless of what happens. Love is what rules in my house and will always be that way-even if it means I listen to crap that is not mine. As long as she will have me here I will stay.
All this is being paid for with my retirement savings and I am trying (unsuccessfully so far) to get disability as I can't hold much with my left hand. If I use my insurance I come all-the-way out of the closet sooner than I am ready to so I am avoiding this for now. In spite of my gender struggles I am very stable mentally and my therapist thinks I am ready. I spent so many years not even aware it could be done. I have waited so long since that day for this one. I am a work in progress-but I'm doing ok. 8)
But here's the rub-I feel guilty for my part in my present situation and am trying still to protect my wife from this. I already know it might not work but I must at least try until trying does not work anymore. My therapist thinks I can do it. She also knows that I am ready to move forward regardless of what happens. Love is what rules in my house and will always be that way-even if it means I listen to crap that is not mine. As long as she will have me here I will stay.
All this is being paid for with my retirement savings and I am trying (unsuccessfully so far) to get disability as I can't hold much with my left hand. If I use my insurance I come all-the-way out of the closet sooner than I am ready to so I am avoiding this for now. In spite of my gender struggles I am very stable mentally and my therapist thinks I am ready. I spent so many years not even aware it could be done. I have waited so long since that day for this one. I am a work in progress-but I'm doing ok. 8)
Title: Re: My third visit with my therapist
Post by: Brandii on March 17, 2016, 03:42:44 PM
Post by: Brandii on March 17, 2016, 03:42:44 PM
I see alot of reads but no responses. Again. Oh well, I was looking for somewhere I can belong and develop friendships along the way. Since noone will step up and earn my friendship here I certainly won't be back. Please feel free to delete me Susan.
Title: Re: My third visit with my therapist
Post by: Devlyn on March 17, 2016, 03:54:34 PM
Post by: Devlyn on March 17, 2016, 03:54:34 PM
I know it's disappointing when a thread doesn't get replies. I can't count how many of mine have bombed. I never quit the site over it, though. Best wishes to you and good luck!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: My third visit with my therapist
Post by: Dena on March 17, 2016, 04:14:55 PM
Post by: Dena on March 17, 2016, 04:14:55 PM
There is a bit of an art form to getting replies to posts. If you make a statement, the post may not receive any responses. If you provide something informative, you may get requests for more information. If you pose a question, you may get many responses.
As a moderator, I read many posts and I saw your post when you made it. Replies take time and I tend to make between 20 and 30 replies a days so I save them for people who need help. Yours suggested you might need help with your wife but there wasn't enough information for me to write a useful response. Had I seen a follow up where you described more of a problem, I would have responded but I tend to avoid congratulation or I am sorry posts.
If I receive a PM, it always deserves a response even if I am not asked a clear question and that option is always open to you.
As a moderator, I read many posts and I saw your post when you made it. Replies take time and I tend to make between 20 and 30 replies a days so I save them for people who need help. Yours suggested you might need help with your wife but there wasn't enough information for me to write a useful response. Had I seen a follow up where you described more of a problem, I would have responded but I tend to avoid congratulation or I am sorry posts.
If I receive a PM, it always deserves a response even if I am not asked a clear question and that option is always open to you.
Title: Re: My third visit with my therapist
Post by: Emileeeee on March 17, 2016, 05:19:00 PM
Post by: Emileeeee on March 17, 2016, 05:19:00 PM
I've been on here for the past 3 days, highly unusual for me, and today is the first day I saw this pop up on my unread posts. I'm assuming it was on page 2 or 3 those other days. I rarely go beyond the first page. But it does read like a statement instead of a question or platform for discussion. It's harder to respond to stuff like that, for me at least.