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Title: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Denise on March 16, 2016, 09:19:32 AM
My mother smoked during pregnancy with me.  Just wondering if there could be a relationship?  I doubt it, but when I come out to them in May, my mother will blame herself and the smoking.

I want to be able to say, nope. Not that.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Devlyn on March 16, 2016, 09:57:04 AM
I was born in 1961. Everyone in the maternity room was probably smoking!  :laugh:
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: DawnOday on March 16, 2016, 10:00:24 AM
Two packs a day whether she needed them or not.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Eva Marie on March 16, 2016, 10:16:38 AM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 16, 2016, 09:57:04 AM
I was born in 1961. Everyone in the maternity room was probably smoking!  :laugh:

:D

I was born in 1962 - I have pictures of my mom holding me in one hand as a very young kid with a cigarette in the other hand. EVERYBODY smoked back then including EVERYBODY in my family. That's probably why many of them are not around these days.

I had severe allergies to cigarette smoke as a kid so I never wanted to pick up the habit. I dreaded long car trips in the summer with the windows up and everybody chain smoking.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: TG CLare on March 16, 2016, 10:27:10 AM
Hey, it was 1954! The doctor probably smoked in the delivery room after all, who didn't back then?

Doubt there was/is any correlation to smoking and being trans.

Love,
Clare
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Deborah on March 16, 2016, 10:36:43 AM
Yes, she did.  My father didn't.  Unfortunately, smoking became connected with dysphoria in my mind so when the dysphoria got bad I always started smoking again.  The mind makes weird connections.


Sapere Aude
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: kittenpower on March 16, 2016, 10:57:46 AM
My Mom did, and she would "rather fight than switch" (boomer & gen x reference), but I don't hold it against her, since it was the culture of the time; she wasn't a drinker and did not use any other substances, though.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: donnanewgurl on March 16, 2016, 11:24:40 AM
In 1955 I think it would of been hard to find many women that didn't smoke. Yes she did, and it was a two pack a day thing. But thinking about it, I don't think it has much to do with me being transgender. Longing to be a female has always been a part of me,a battle everyday. Now it is almost over!
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Eevee on March 16, 2016, 11:35:52 AM
Nope. My parents hate smoking. My mom especially hates it because of her father's addictive nature. I was born in 1986, so I guess it was a dying trend by then as well.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Claire on March 16, 2016, 01:11:37 PM
I was born in 1954 and there is a picture of my mother in her hospital bed holding me or one of my siblings in one hand and a cigarette in the other. Yeah, not much to do with being trans, otherwise there would be a lot more of us.


Claire (née Dori)
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: stephaniec on March 16, 2016, 01:56:25 PM
my mother died of lung cancer. born in 1951
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: big kim on March 16, 2016, 02:24:35 PM
1957 model, even footballers smoked then!My parent's smoked for many years.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Eva Marie on March 16, 2016, 03:09:54 PM
So..... this topic got me thinking. I did a quick search on the net and found mention of estrogenic compounds like cadmium and benzoapyrene in cigarettes that were studied and were found to be endocrine disruptors. One study is entitled "Effects of cigarette smoking on reproduction" - it is a study done by oxford journals if you want to search for it.

Maybe there is something to this? Who knows what chemicals the cigarette companies were adding to cigarettes back then, or what chemicals the farmers were using on their crops? There was no EPA back then.

Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Ashey on March 16, 2016, 05:01:05 PM
I was born in '86. My mom smoked, I believe throughout the duration of the pregnancy.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Ayden on March 16, 2016, 06:25:26 PM
No, but she smoked when she wasn't pregnant and for most of my life, and I was raised around smokers.

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Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: kk on March 16, 2016, 08:30:45 PM
No one in my family smokes and they never have; the only time I was around smoking was when I went to friends' houses.  The only addiction my mom had when I was a fetus was Cheetos and Dairy Queen.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: MichelleZelda on March 16, 2016, 10:47:07 PM
My mom says she didn't, but I somehow suspect that isn't exactly the truth. She's smoked for my whole life basically.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Adchop on March 16, 2016, 11:49:12 PM
My mom & dad have smoked their whole lives, even while my mom was pregnant. It's amazing that I've been so anti-smoking my whole life
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Avinia on March 17, 2016, 12:31:08 AM
I know both of my parents used to smoke, but not sure about if my mom was smoking around the time I was born. But in the end, both of my parents quit smoking, and instead ended up getting addicted to energy drinks(my family struggles with addiction, one of the reasons I avoid smoking, and am likely going to avoid drinking).
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Adchop on March 17, 2016, 12:37:25 AM
Quote from: Avinia on March 17, 2016, 12:31:08 AM
I know both of my parents used to smoke, but not sure about if my mom was smoking around the time I was born. But in the end, both of my parents quit smoking, and instead ended up getting addicted to energy drinks(my family struggles with addiction, one of the reasons I avoid smoking, and am likely going to avoid drinking).

In the words of Abraham Lincoln

"It has been my experience that folks who have no vices have very few virtues"
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: laurenb on March 17, 2016, 07:25:14 AM
I was born in 61 too and both she and dad smoked like chimneys. They both died of lung cancer. In fact, dad's doctor found a "spot" on his lung around 65. The doctor recommended he switch to cigars because they were safer. which he did and proceeded to inhale just like a cigarette. Not to mention the two martini lunches...

My mom was on DES because of a previous miscarriage (brought on perhaps by smoking and drinking? very possible). DES has a strong correlation to TG/TS outcomes. This is more likely your causal link if there is one (if you were born prior to 1974ish when the banned DES).

L
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: schwarzwalderkirschtort on March 17, 2016, 08:09:37 AM
'00 here.

mom smoked while pregnant
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: MichelleZelda on April 23, 2016, 02:23:28 PM
My mom denies it but I suspect she smoked during pregnancy with me

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Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: ryokohimura on April 23, 2016, 02:50:20 PM
My mom didn't, but my dad did. I was born in 1983 and raised around smokers. Both grandparents, my uncles, my aunts. Was a smoker myself from 1996-2012. Yup, 13-29, with the last 10 years at a pack a day on average. All my friends smoked.

My mom is a respitory therapist. She lost it when she found out. She tried but she used that horrible scare tactic that doesn't work on addicts and others who hold no value in their lives. Smoking to me was a way of slowly killing myself. I mean I was going nowhere, I was under employed and just going through the motions of my day. It felt good having that ten minutes to myself. It was therapeutic.

Sorry, I went to a dark place.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Kylo on April 23, 2016, 04:19:54 PM
Smoked, drank, almost certainly did some whacky baccy and funky pills while I was in there too.
Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: arice on April 23, 2016, 05:38:04 PM
No.

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Title: Re: Did your mother smoke while pregnant with you?
Post by: Laura_Squirrel on April 23, 2016, 05:48:30 PM
How would I know? I was in the womb. Just chillin' & whatnot.