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Title: I'm not sure if my mother's in denial or just being nice
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on March 17, 2016, 08:31:00 PM
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on March 17, 2016, 08:31:00 PM
So this story gets a little complicated.
I've recently moved back to the US from overseas, I shipped several parcels to myself as part of the process (both for space and customs reasons). I arrived about 2 weeks ago and spent last week with my parents. I wanted to come out to my mother in that period but chickened out. This week I moved to the east coast where I will be living for the foreseeable future. My mother was going to ship some of my clothes to me while I was in transit. Unbeknownst to me the last box I had shipped to myself arrived while I was in transit. It contained 3 skirts, a dress, and a bra. These were all in the shipment of clothes that arrived today.
On the one hand I realized, hey circumstances have given me the perfect opening to come out. At the same time I remember everything I went through when I first realized I was trans, and I just can't do that to the people I love. I sat there staring at my phone trying to will myself to call my mother and talk about this but I just couldn't. So I sent an email saying "I saw you opened the box, please let me know when a good time to discuss this is."
Her reply stated that she wasn't sure what I was talking about, that she just stuffed what had been in the box with the rest of the shipment. My first instinct is that she is letting me out of talking to her about this. Or she might just be trying to convince herself that she didn't see what she clearly saw. It's not an outright rejection so I guess there's that.
Any words of wisdom?
I've recently moved back to the US from overseas, I shipped several parcels to myself as part of the process (both for space and customs reasons). I arrived about 2 weeks ago and spent last week with my parents. I wanted to come out to my mother in that period but chickened out. This week I moved to the east coast where I will be living for the foreseeable future. My mother was going to ship some of my clothes to me while I was in transit. Unbeknownst to me the last box I had shipped to myself arrived while I was in transit. It contained 3 skirts, a dress, and a bra. These were all in the shipment of clothes that arrived today.
On the one hand I realized, hey circumstances have given me the perfect opening to come out. At the same time I remember everything I went through when I first realized I was trans, and I just can't do that to the people I love. I sat there staring at my phone trying to will myself to call my mother and talk about this but I just couldn't. So I sent an email saying "I saw you opened the box, please let me know when a good time to discuss this is."
Her reply stated that she wasn't sure what I was talking about, that she just stuffed what had been in the box with the rest of the shipment. My first instinct is that she is letting me out of talking to her about this. Or she might just be trying to convince herself that she didn't see what she clearly saw. It's not an outright rejection so I guess there's that.
Any words of wisdom?
Title: Re: I'm not sure if my mother's in denial or just being nice
Post by: Jacqueline on March 18, 2016, 04:06:04 PM
Post by: Jacqueline on March 18, 2016, 04:06:04 PM
:-X Gulp. Nope.
I never had anything like that happen. No. No way. Nope.
Still have not spoken to her clearly about it. -sigh-
Denying to you , herself, someone. Probably. I have no wisdom(at least about this). Just good thoughts.
Good luck.
With warmth,
Joanna
I never had anything like that happen. No. No way. Nope.
Still have not spoken to her clearly about it. -sigh-
Denying to you , herself, someone. Probably. I have no wisdom(at least about this). Just good thoughts.
Good luck.
With warmth,
Joanna