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I really don't have a girl mode yet but anyway...

Yesterday I bought these "cord bracelets" (dunno if it's the right term), my first ones btw - was too timid to buy one until now.
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Which one do you think I could wear in boy mode (haven't done any laser etc yet) without awkward moments or gossip? (haha sorry)

Am I too paranoid?

It's as good a jump into girl mode as any! I think either one of the top two would be fine. The tasseled one might lend itself to the awkward moment, but you better get used to that, sweetie!  ;D

Hugs, Devlyn

Initially I wore only the black one, after a few days the pink/ white one with the little ropes. A girl in the lab commented that the "pink/ white one" was nice. Today I wore both the black and the tasseled one (same hand) At some point I was alone in the room and the same girl came inside, touched the new bracelet and said in a playful tone "hey {male name}, new color...what's going on here?"

I wonder how far I can go without hitting the "tipping point" with people (even guys) asking and gossiping about me...

The more feminine things I where, the more girls talk to me about it.

Guys probably will never ask about it though, but I bet gossiping is already going on among the girls.

If they ask like that again, just go with, "not much. I just like them."
They usually won't press for a more definitive answer.

Cord bracelets are a good feminine starting point. I like them.

Quote from: kelly_1979 on March 24, 2016, 05:21:08 PM
Am I too paranoid?

Yes!

barbie~~

Now I see what you people mean when talking about "awkward moment" and "slippery slope"
First of all, although it's still basically emotional changes (pre everything), even little things I do like wearing cord bracelets, trimming arm hair, wearing (during the winter) skinny women's jeans...I find it hard to stop doing it.

To come to the point, although I've been wearing the same "bracelets" for months. Last few days certain girls keep commenting about my bracelets – once they asked if I shave my arm hair. Today the same girls together with a guy (actually one  of the two girls "C." was more inquiring and curious. She (C.) said "I see you wearing different bracelets every day [not entirely true]. Yesterday you wore a pink-white one,  it's a summer color". Both girls and the guy then asked "do you wear an ankle bracelet?" to which I replied "no, I don't...". After "C." and the guy left "D." (we are rather "close" labmates) told me "I was trying to help you here" (she wasn't really asking – mainly C. and the guy were).

I know it's hard to answer these but....
1)   Why did it take so long for girls to ask about my bracelets? (I thought since they hadn't asked before they wouldn't - apparently not) Other girls have just said that they like my bracelets
2)   since they reached this point I'm pretty sure they is quite a bit of gossip among the girls about me - how can I handle this?
3)   Do they just see me as "feminine male" (kinda) or could they suspect I'm transgender (wearing "feminine" bracelets – usually meant for girls is close to being a "red flag")? (hard to say of course)
4)   obviously this is up to me but am I really on a tricky point – where people try to find out what is going on - what would be the "best" thing to do - limit myself and present mostly as male without feminine accessories or wear some so that I feel better?

Thanks for reading this!

Quote from: kelly_1979 on June 07, 2016, 02:10:15 PM
Now I see what you people mean when talking about "awkward moment" and "slippery slope"
First of all, although it's still basically emotional changes (pre everything), even little things I do like wearing cord bracelets, trimming arm hair, wearing (during the winter) skinny women's jeans...I find it hard to stop doing it.

To come to the point, although I've been wearing the same "bracelets" for months. Last few days certain girls keep commenting about my bracelets – once they asked if I shave my arm hair. Today the same girls together with a guy (actually one  of the two girls "C." was more inquiring and curious. She (C.) said "I see you wearing different bracelets every day [not entirely true]. Yesterday you wore a pink-white one,  it's a summer color". Both girls and the guy then asked "do you wear an ankle bracelet?" to which I replied "no, I don't...". After "C." and the guy left "D." (we are rather "close" labmates) told me "I was trying to help you here" (she wasn't really asking – mainly C. and the guy were).

I know it's hard to answer these but....
1)   Why did it take so long for girls to ask about my bracelets? (I thought since they hadn't asked before they wouldn't - apparently not) Other girls have just said that they like my bracelets
2)   since they reached this point I'm pretty sure they is quite a bit of gossip among the girls about me - how can I handle this?
3)   Do they just see me as "feminine male" (kinda) or could they suspect I'm transgender (wearing "feminine" bracelets – usually meant for girls is close to being a "red flag")? (hard to say of course)
4)   obviously this is up to me but am I really on a tricky point – where people try to find out what is going on - what would be the "best" thing to do - limit myself and present mostly as male without feminine accessories or wear some so that I feel better?

Thanks for reading this!

Girls like talking about fashion and makeup. You will have more female friends while chatting about beauty. Now women around me are very friendly to me, but about 15 years ago women hesitated to approach me when I was a guy. Both male and female young students during my class also no longer are afraid of me as I wear miniskirt.

You can enjoy those changes while you explore and express yourself gradually, deeper and deeper. Yes. Sometimes an embarrassing moment can happen, but it will also become your pleasant memory soon.

barbie~~

Funny.  I just bought four bracelets similar to those over the weekend.  I've been wearing them this week.  Only got a couple of comments,  both commenting how cool they are.

It's pretty much a gender neutral thing these days, but makes me feel a little bit better having something on.


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Thanks for the replies!

Today I bought another one:
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I suppose this is more feminine but what do you girls think?
I mean since I bought it I guess I'm going to wear it anyway. Point it how to wear it while still appearing as "typical-ish" guy.

Quote from: kelly_1979 on June 09, 2016, 01:36:34 PM
Thanks for the replies!

Today I bought another one:
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I suppose this is more feminine but what do you girls think?
I mean since I bought it I guess I'm going to wear it anyway. Point it how to wear it while still appearing as "typical-ish" guy.

I am not quite sure about the culture in your country, but here (S. Korea) a lot of young men wear that kind of bracelet. Traditionally both men and women wear Buddhist rosary, and I guess this is a partially factor why so many young men wear bracelets here.

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(https://joelsavage1.files.wordpress.com/2015/04/desmond.jpg?w=771&h=488)

And the pink color is now a trend for men's fashion.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Ffashion.chosun.com%2Fsite%2Fdata%2Fimg_dir%2F2015%2F04%2F15%2F2015041501806_0.jpg&hash=73249d351055852adddef57adb08051163dc3acf)

I also sometimes wear that type of bracelets.

(https://c2.staticflickr.com/8/7477/27496964291_f8eec5bc0d_b.jpg)

barbie~~