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Title: Coming out letter or comedy routine? (How not serious can I make this?)
Post by: OriginalJokeGoesHere on April 14, 2016, 05:43:09 PM
Post by: OriginalJokeGoesHere on April 14, 2016, 05:43:09 PM
So I finally (seriously, it took months) finished my coming out letter to my parents. Reading back over it I realized that most of it was (squarely mediocre) attempts at jokes, with only some being about the whole Trans Thing™
I'm not sure if that's really a great idea. The last thing I want to do is make it seem like I'm not taking this seriously and kill my credibility, but at the same time I don't want to make it too serious because that's not my personality and I want to be genuine in what I say. Also, it would maybe make it less stressful for them if I seem more okay about it?
I guess what I'm asking is A) does anyone have experience with less than serious coming out methods? How did people react? B) Should I rework and make it 100% bull->-bleeped-<- free USDA approved Serious Business? C) Is delivering it in one of those "It's a Boy!" cards a terrible idea?
I'm not sure if that's really a great idea. The last thing I want to do is make it seem like I'm not taking this seriously and kill my credibility, but at the same time I don't want to make it too serious because that's not my personality and I want to be genuine in what I say. Also, it would maybe make it less stressful for them if I seem more okay about it?
I guess what I'm asking is A) does anyone have experience with less than serious coming out methods? How did people react? B) Should I rework and make it 100% bull->-bleeped-<- free USDA approved Serious Business? C) Is delivering it in one of those "It's a Boy!" cards a terrible idea?
Title: Re: Coming out letter or comedy routine? (How not serious can I make this?)
Post by: Valwen on April 16, 2016, 04:38:12 PM
Post by: Valwen on April 16, 2016, 04:38:12 PM
At first all my coming out situations where serious and terrifying and difficult, but over time it got easier and easier and I started having fun with thing. Just out of the blue telling people things or my favorite was a woman I have know for more than a decade. "Jess I have known you a long time, I knew you before you needed a bra...and you knew me before I needed one"
with parents and therapists and doctors its likely best to be mostly serious about things at least at first, but feel free to have fun with it over time. I know several transgender people who don't approve of the fact that I make fun of parts of my transision. I take being transgender seriously but if I think smacking my new chest one something was funny I am going to laugh about it, I refuse to take my transision so seriously that I cant laugh at the silly things that happen.
Serena
with parents and therapists and doctors its likely best to be mostly serious about things at least at first, but feel free to have fun with it over time. I know several transgender people who don't approve of the fact that I make fun of parts of my transision. I take being transgender seriously but if I think smacking my new chest one something was funny I am going to laugh about it, I refuse to take my transision so seriously that I cant laugh at the silly things that happen.
Serena
Title: Re: Coming out letter or comedy routine? (How not serious can I make this?)
Post by: Rebecca on April 21, 2016, 02:18:14 PM
Post by: Rebecca on April 21, 2016, 02:18:14 PM
A) Told my friend between starter and main course in a nice wee Italian restaurant. He was totally unphased by it and we had a lovely meal. I prefer face to face where possible though. If not sure how they'll react invite them out for lunch and arrive after they do.
B) Not very helpful but depends on the reader. Different horses for different courses kinda thing.
C) Totally love that idea and just might borrow that plan someday but for Girl ofc
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B) Not very helpful but depends on the reader. Different horses for different courses kinda thing.
C) Totally love that idea and just might borrow that plan someday but for Girl ofc
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Title: Re: Coming out letter or comedy routine? (How not serious can I make this?)
Post by: Devlyn on April 21, 2016, 02:48:37 PM
Post by: Devlyn on April 21, 2016, 02:48:37 PM
You rarely have to plan much more than "I'm transgender" because as soon as you say that the questions start. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Coming out letter or comedy routine? (How not serious can I make this?)
Post by: Rebecca on April 21, 2016, 05:19:57 PM
Post by: Rebecca on April 21, 2016, 05:19:57 PM
Good plan. Short and sweet. Stealing that too ☺
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