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Title: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: redhot1 on April 30, 2016, 11:30:50 AM
Post by: redhot1 on April 30, 2016, 11:30:50 AM
What are the questions or tests I need to be asking myself, before I go off seeing a gender therapist to figure other stuff out if I'm actually Transgender, cross dresser, or if I just do nothing etc. ?
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: Satinjoy on April 30, 2016, 11:39:05 AM
Post by: Satinjoy on April 30, 2016, 11:39:05 AM
I think they will ask them. Be as honest as you can.
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: Megan. on April 30, 2016, 12:03:25 PM
Post by: Megan. on April 30, 2016, 12:03:25 PM
Go along with an open mind, your therapist should help you explore those questions. When I initially contracted mine, I simply said I had some confusion with my gender identity.
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: Laura_7 on April 30, 2016, 12:12:16 PM
Post by: Laura_7 on April 30, 2016, 12:12:16 PM
You could have a look here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KfXQxn98Q6I&feature=youtu.be
There are other experienced online therapists too...
- would you be a bit more happy if your body was a bit more female ?
- how would you feel in female clothes ?
Did you have dreams of being female, or some memories from childhood ?
You could think a bit about those.
hugs
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: Denise on April 30, 2016, 03:18:16 PM
Post by: Denise on April 30, 2016, 03:18:16 PM
This is my opinion, others probably will disagree - I suggest NOT doing a lot of research. It might taint your opinions. It will take time, but be 100% honest with your therapist. I found when I finally got everything out I was a wreck and needed another session the next day. I wish I had the foresight to tell all. No matter how embarrassing or non-related you believe something is, it's important to tell the truth, the whole truth and don't lie (okay - nothing but the truth.)
The therapist is there to help and ask questions. Some of the most "AH-HA!" moments I've had was when my therapist asked some very benign questions. One was: Why did you come out to that person in particular. WHAM - a huge light bulb turned on for me about coming out to others.
But to answer your question "what questions should I be asking myself?" There are a bunch but at the end of the day "Will I be happier living as a Male/Female/something-in-between?" That is impossible to answer until later.
The therapist is there to help and ask questions. Some of the most "AH-HA!" moments I've had was when my therapist asked some very benign questions. One was: Why did you come out to that person in particular. WHAM - a huge light bulb turned on for me about coming out to others.
But to answer your question "what questions should I be asking myself?" There are a bunch but at the end of the day "Will I be happier living as a Male/Female/something-in-between?" That is impossible to answer until later.
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: redhot1 on May 09, 2016, 05:07:43 PM
Post by: redhot1 on May 09, 2016, 05:07:43 PM
I sometimes even wonder if being simply confused about my gender itself means something about it.
Title: Re: What questions should I be asking myself?
Post by: Laura_7 on May 09, 2016, 05:12:43 PM
Post by: Laura_7 on May 09, 2016, 05:12:43 PM
Quote from: redhot1 on May 09, 2016, 05:07:43 PM
I sometimes even wonder if being simply confused about my gender itself means something about it.
It may.
Usually cis people do not question their gender so it could be a sign in itself.
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