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Title: Moved the schedule up 6 months - told my brother today
Post by: Denise on May 07, 2016, 03:18:51 PM
Post by: Denise on May 07, 2016, 03:18:51 PM
I have a very strange family, emotions are never expressed nor shown to anyone. But today was an extreme example.
A little background:
My sister is my biggest supporter, I came out to her first (before my wife!) I talk to her every day, she lives about 750 miles (1200 km) from me and we email/text/chat multiple times per day.
My brother lives down the street. I see him 1/2 dozen times per year, we never talk. For reasons I don't want to discuss here I had to move my time schedule up to today and tell him about my transitioning.
His reaction was - oh okay.
I think it will take some time to sink in and for him to come up with questions but his stoicism was beyond what I had expected. He's supportive to the LGBT community so at least that's a good thing.
For other reasons I just spent an hour+ at his place at a party and he was his normal self towards me. So I guess I dodged a bullet there.
After 45+ years, every step seems surreal and scary.
A little background:
My sister is my biggest supporter, I came out to her first (before my wife!) I talk to her every day, she lives about 750 miles (1200 km) from me and we email/text/chat multiple times per day.
My brother lives down the street. I see him 1/2 dozen times per year, we never talk. For reasons I don't want to discuss here I had to move my time schedule up to today and tell him about my transitioning.
His reaction was - oh okay.
I think it will take some time to sink in and for him to come up with questions but his stoicism was beyond what I had expected. He's supportive to the LGBT community so at least that's a good thing.
For other reasons I just spent an hour+ at his place at a party and he was his normal self towards me. So I guess I dodged a bullet there.
After 45+ years, every step seems surreal and scary.
Title: Re: Moved the schedule up 6 months - told my brother today
Post by: Jacqueline on May 07, 2016, 03:48:35 PM
Post by: Jacqueline on May 07, 2016, 03:48:35 PM
I hope you are okay with having to move it up sooner.
I am glad it went as well as it did with your brother. I am 51 and hope for similar reactions from my family as well.
This. Yes.
Wishing you a smooth journey.
With warmth,
Joanna
I am glad it went as well as it did with your brother. I am 51 and hope for similar reactions from my family as well.
QuoteAfter 45+ years, every step seems surreal and scary.
This. Yes.
Wishing you a smooth journey.
With warmth,
Joanna
Title: Re: Moved the schedule up 6 months - told my brother today
Post by: Denise on May 07, 2016, 08:50:12 PM
Post by: Denise on May 07, 2016, 08:50:12 PM
Quote from: Joanna50 on May 07, 2016, 03:48:35 PMThings are good. But his lack of interest was a little disheartening. Oh well. Better than a hundred other reactions he could have had.
I hope you are okay with having to move it up sooner.
I am glad it went as well as it did with your brother. I am 51 and hope for similar reactions from my family as well.
This. Yes.
Wishing you a smooth journey.
With warmth,
Joanna