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I don't know why I made this..I just feel bad right now..

I was hard to pick a lot of those things bother me but it is defiantly the $$. I wish thing weren't so expensive.

Sorry your feeling down write now, if you would like to talk about it your in the rigth place. ;D

Quote from: CrazyCatMan on May 08, 2016, 04:09:35 PM
I was hard to pick a lot of those things bother me but it is defiantly the $$. I wish thing weren't so expensive.

Sorry your feeling down write now, if you would like to talk about it your in the rigth place. ;D

I agree. Thank You by the way.

The near constant depression I had to live with until I was well into my transition. In 1964 there wasn't any treatment available so there wasn't much point in coming out. It was my problem until 1974 when I came out and the nearest treatment was 400 miles away. Consider the fact the internet was a long ways in the future and my only source of information was a few news paper articles and a few books I found in the college library. My first regular source of information was a newsletter that was mailed to me in the late 70's. You are far better off that I was and have a much brighter future ahead of you than I did.

I hate it when cisgender people tell us who we are. From gatekeepers to right wing bathroom ideologues, if people would just accept our identities, a lot of our problems would disappear.

Probably the guilt of everything bothered me everything first started happening I had my parents and my aunt aske me a couple of times why I couldn't just live to love my body.
They don't necessarily understand what made me feel really sad and more confused, honestly they didn't help the situation and they're still not really helping the situation has gotten better to a extent. Every time he gets a little better I'm more happy. My parents probably still think this is not going to be some things i will remove on my body but the topic hasn't been spoken about again and never will be i'm just going to do it for me they don't need to know why or understand it's not about them.

The only thing that upsets me is seeing my wife upset.

I guess it will be society for me. Being being born with the wrong body is tough. but society is making it worst.  I got triggered the other day by my cis gendered colleague who was looking at a really pretty trans model from Thailand. and her remark was transphobic on the point that she is cis. It will be nice if her reply would be just compliments on how much the girl has probably worked to achieve that.

With me it was waiting way too long to fully transition, I struggle with this as the unknown is where would I be today if I had transitioned earlier in life, overall it's hard to say but that's all in the past now and don't think about it much until there is a question such as this one.

The fact I will never know what it's like to have a normal life? Or have regular sex the way I would like it? Or an average kind of relationship?

That said, I don't place a lot of value in being normal or average, or in sex. It's just an annoyance that life will never be as easy for me as it is for most. There are a lot of things in life that are not exclusionary and still cool, nonetheless. I accept it will be harder for me, and I'll still get to the top of that mountain regardless.

People not knowing how much of a daily struggle it is being trans. How it effects everything we do like something as mundane as shopping hoping the cashier doesn't misgender us or worse 'correct' themselves when they do get it right; being afraid for our safety using a public toilet or not being able to try on clothes in a shop. Also being afraid to go outside. Or never knowing what it feels like to feel comfortable and whole as person.
Most importantly would probably being the hoops we have to go through to get medical help or simply to be believed; which most cis people do not have to go through.
I guess less importantly would be not able to go to most countries because it'll be too dangerous or simply because we can't go due to principle; due to how those countries treat their LGBT citizens. I'd also like to know what sex feels like with a penis or simply to have the freedom to hook up with anyone I want. But I'm not really into sex anyway.

I came out a decade later than Dena but I faced the same challenges. I didn't even know WHAT I was. But I got through it. What I face now is the stigma society has against us in relationships. Gay or straight doesn't matter. People don't want to date a transgender person. It is hard to live life alone.

Definitely society. If it wasn't for the way society treats us, it wouldn't have taken me so long to find the courage to do it. Nobody should ever be terrified of being themselves.

Being born in the wrong body, because if I was born in the correct one, I wouldn't have to deal with trying to be able to afford hormones/surgery, (I absolutely hate that I can't produce enough testosterone by myself and that I need assistance) I wouldn't have to deal with societal bs, I wouldn't have to deal with hearing "But you're such a pretty girl!" either. Coming to terms with being gay/queer is almost never easy, but it'd be so much easier than coming to terms with being trans. And most of all, I wouldn't have to deal with the horrible experience of female puberty which psychologically damaged me brutally. I haven't completely healed from the experience, and I doubt I ever will. What happened is something no one, especially a ten year old, should never have to go through.   

Born in the wrong body all the way, hands down is what I hate the most.