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So For the first time I got to wear a dress in public, last night! I was going to my sisters drama club awards ceremony, it held both middle and high schoolers and the event was a formal/semi-formal event. When I got there, I was sooooo nervous! Like it dawned on me, that I was going out in public for the first time in a dress and interacting with people. I felt so exposed because a dress doesn't exactly have pants so I was like. "omg what if someone tries to get a look up my dress. I was complimented on my dress though which helped me calm down a bit. Since my sister has told all of her friends in her Drama club they said I looked good too! So as the night went on I got more comfortable with a dress. It was an amazing experience and I can't wait for the next time I get a chance to wear a dress :)

Oh and if anyone is curious, this is how I looked in the dress :P

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Quote from: link5019 on May 21, 2016, 04:46:02 AM
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Love it!

Definitely cute.  Congratulations.

Quote from: suzifrommd on May 21, 2016, 05:21:43 AM
Love it!

Quote from: pj on May 21, 2016, 07:00:15 AM
Definitely cute.  Congratulations.

Thank you :3 It was an amazing night last night :3

You look great! You are one up on me. I wore a dress to a transgender conference, but haven't to a mainly cis gender event. So glad to see you "rocking it." Have you worn skirts anywhere? For some reason, I am nervous about dresses but feel very comfortable being out in a skirt. Just curious!
Moni

Congratulations, the dress looks great.

Quote from: link5019 on May 21, 2016, 04:46:02 AM
So For the first time I got to wear a dress in public, last night! I was going to my sisters drama club awards ceremony, it held both middle and high schoolers and the event was a formal/semi-formal event. When I got there, I was sooooo nervous! Like it dawned on me, that I was going out in public for the first time in a dress and interacting with people. I felt so exposed because a dress doesn't exactly have pants so I was like. "omg what if someone tries to get a look up my dress. I was complimented on my dress though which helped me calm down a bit. Since my sister has told all of her friends in her Drama club they said I looked good too! So as the night went on I got more comfortable with a dress. It was an amazing experience and I can't wait for the next time I get a chance to wear a dress :)

If you EVER wear a dress again... And you get that anxiety, try leggings! :D I have pulled off SO many cute styles with dresses and leggings. If they are shorter, I will wear capri leggings to give it a summery look. I wear dresses as much as I can lol. I am so sick of wearing jeans and a shirt like society expects me to XP

You wore it well :)

I love dresses too. Wish I could wear them all the time!

OMG you are the cutest thing.  I LOVE those boots.  And I want to steal them.  ;)

I'm really happy for you, these firsts are always scary.  Glad that you got such a positive response.

Quote from: HappyMoni on May 21, 2016, 08:47:40 AM
You look great! You are one up on me. I wore a dress to a transgender conference, but haven't to a mainly cis gender event. So glad to see you "rocking it." Have you worn skirts anywhere? For some reason, I am nervous about dresses but feel very comfortable being out in a skirt. Just curious!
Moni

I actually haven't worn skirts yet, but I'm definitely going to try soon. If I can rock a dress I can rock a skirt :3

Quote from: jessilynn on May 21, 2016, 10:12:03 AM

If you EVER wear a dress again... And you get that anxiety, try leggings! :D I have pulled off SO many cute styles with dresses and leggings. If they are shorter, I will wear capri leggings to give it a summery look. I wear dresses as much as I can lol. I am so sick of wearing jeans and a shirt like society expects me to XP

I will wear a dress again :) I actually was wearing legging, they only went about mid thigh though XD.

Quote from: sparrow on May 21, 2016, 10:47:48 AM
OMG you are the cutest thing.  I LOVE those boots.  And I want to steal them.  ;)

I'm really happy for you, these firsts are always scary.  Glad that you got such a positive response.

Thank you!! I love these boots too but I never get a good chance to wear them! *hugs*

I knew a lot of cis girls that wore shorts or hotpants under particularly short skirts or dresses, if you want to wear tights instead of leggings

+ i like your boots, they're piratey

congrats

Purely adorable.

I have not had the chance to take myself out in a dress as of yet, but there will come a time for that. I do have a few, but just on the one occasion I had gone in public with a skirt had struck a nerve seeing as I was compared to the pacific islander base (males) with their ethnic wraps, which is definitely not the same.

Kate <3

I've gotta agree with the others. You look really cute!

Quote from: Peep on May 21, 2016, 12:36:01 PM
I knew a lot of cis girls that wore shorts or hotpants under particularly short skirts or dresses, if you want to wear tights instead of leggings

+ i like your boots, they're piratey

I know right? I get kind of a steam punk/pirate feel from them. And ooh I didn't know that, I should really look into some shorts then!! :D

Quote from: Katiepie on May 21, 2016, 02:13:16 PM
Purely adorable.

I have not had the chance to take myself out in a dress as of yet, but there will come a time for that. I do have a few, but just on the one occasion I had gone in public with a skirt had struck a nerve seeing as I was compared to the pacific islander base (males) with their ethnic wraps, which is definitely not the same.

Kate <3

I'm sowy, *hugs* I bet you looked great in that skirt!!

Quote from: Eevee on May 21, 2016, 02:24:34 PM
I've gotta agree with the others. You look really cute!

Aww thank you :3 

You look absolutely gorgeous! I think it's amazing and incredibly admirable that you have the confidence to be who you truly are in public. Go you! (And those boots are really cute, too  :) )

~Axel

Quote from: AxelM07 on May 21, 2016, 07:14:23 PM
You look absolutely gorgeous! I think it's amazing and incredibly admirable that you have the confidence to be who you truly are in public. Go you! (And those boots are really cute, too  :) )

~Axel

Aww thank you!!! :3 I was really nervous and kind of thought I wasn't going to pass that night, because I didn't have any time to do any make up, but thankfully I did pass so it made it much much better :3 *hugs*

You look amazing! Congratulations! :D

Quote from: Willowicious on May 29, 2016, 09:02:50 AM
You look amazing! Congratulations! :D

Aww thank you ^_^

Congrats <)

I completely understand how you felt going out in public dressed for the first time. The first time I did it was at work for a party. I showed up and had some coworkers really like what they saw (even knowing that it was me). Others had to be told who was the woman was. And once they realized they were even more surprised. Everybody was supportive. I was nervous going in, but soon was able to relax, and just be me. One thing that was surprising to some of my friends was how well I could walk in high heels. I t was one of those moments that boosted my confidence. And helped in confirming the real me. As a result I continued to go out in public as me.
Congrats on your first public outing as you. May you enjoy more positive times.

Quote from: Tomika on May 29, 2016, 10:03:14 PM
I completely understand how you felt going out in public dressed for the first time. The first time I did it was at work for a party. I showed up and had some coworkers really like what they saw (even knowing that it was me). Others had to be told who was the woman was. And once they realized they were even more surprised. Everybody was supportive. I was nervous going in, but soon was able to relax, and just be me. One thing that was surprising to some of my friends was how well I could walk in high heels. I t was one of those moments that boosted my confidence. And helped in confirming the real me. As a result I continued to go out in public as me.
Congrats on your first public outing as you. May you enjoy more positive times.

That's amazing that some people didn't even recognize you! I was around complete strangers so that made things really scary, but I'm so glad I got to do that! Walking in heels is kind of natural to me, for whatever reason XD but I'm glad you had a good first time too!!! :D

When I decided to go out in public for the first time I really took my time concerning what I would wear and what to choose for makeup. I spent a lot of time in the store picking out the dress. And making sure I picked the right shades and colors for my makeup.
Thanks, Link, for the kind words.

It is your bravery that I admire most!  Choosing to be yourself is a big challenge, and I honor you for having stepped across that threshold.  It is a badge of honor that you acknowledge yourself and you are, and don't allow society's prejudices to rule your live!

You have reminded me of my first moment, long, long ago, and I look back on it fondly.

Remember:  You are YOU, and you have every right to feel joy in being exactly who you want to be!

I wish you love and good luck on your journey to the self!

Quote from: HappyElderGeek on May 30, 2016, 01:50:06 PM
It is your bravery that I admire most!  Choosing to be yourself is a big challenge, and I honor you for having stepped across that threshold.  It is a badge of honor that you acknowledge yourself and you are, and don't allow society's prejudices to rule your live!

You have reminded me of my first moment, long, long ago, and I look back on it fondly.

Remember:  You are YOU, and you have every right to feel joy in being exactly who you want to be!

I wish you love and good luck on your journey to the self!

It was so challenging because my mother isn't very accepting of my transition, so going out in public next to her while I was in a dress was a challenge in of itself because she wasn't happy with it. I was seriously scared she was going to do something or someone was going to call me out but nope it all went perfectly fine and there was nothing to worry about o.o

Quote from: Tomika on May 30, 2016, 09:53:10 AM
When I decided to go out in public for the first time I really took my time concerning what I would wear and what to choose for makeup. I spent a lot of time in the store picking out the dress. And making sure I picked the right shades and colors for my makeup.
Thanks, Link, for the kind words.

I still haven't done makeup other than my nails XD And you're welcome!!! :) I hope it's gotten a lot easier for you to go out in public since then!