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Title: Came out to everyone, it was fantastic!
Post by: confusedlauren on July 03, 2016, 10:18:13 AM
Post by: confusedlauren on July 03, 2016, 10:18:13 AM
Hello Everyone,
Some of you might remember me from February. Dysphoria was getting too strong for me not to come out to my wife. I did it, and quite honestly, I can't believe where I am 4.5 months later.
I came out at work on Wednesday, had been mostly full time for a couple of months already, but since I work from home, only my closest co workers knew. So I told everyone and this opened the flood gate. Seeing my profile picture on our internal chat, with my girl name changed everything. I decided to spend the next day writing my facebook coming out letter, then changing name/gender on all my social media profiles.
It was particularly stressful because I'm heading a project with significant following across the world.
Woke up on Friday, I was hesitating still... but I figured, I'm going to come out in the summer anyway, so why wait? I had no more excuses. My last excuse was that I didn't have a good enough picture to accompany the coming out post. I had one now. I had to do it and get to the other side.
I posted, and started updating things everywhere.
We're now two days later. It's fantastic. Everybody knows. The project community picked up the change to my instagram and wondered if <boy name>'s account was hacked by their daughter or wife :)
There was a couple of threads on Facebook and our forum discussing this change. Our community manager and forum mods helped a lot and explained what was going on. I couldn't believe the amount of support I received.
Overall, negative comments were about 1% of the total messages posted and they were not really negative, just people expressing their opinion. No insults. I think some either changed their view on transgender people, and many others got interested in the topic for the 1st time.
I'll consider this my first step helping us all get more visibility and acceptance :)
Family and friends on Facebook were 100% supportive. So many nice comments about being as surprised as they were happy for me.
Hugs to all of you!
L.
Some of you might remember me from February. Dysphoria was getting too strong for me not to come out to my wife. I did it, and quite honestly, I can't believe where I am 4.5 months later.
I came out at work on Wednesday, had been mostly full time for a couple of months already, but since I work from home, only my closest co workers knew. So I told everyone and this opened the flood gate. Seeing my profile picture on our internal chat, with my girl name changed everything. I decided to spend the next day writing my facebook coming out letter, then changing name/gender on all my social media profiles.
It was particularly stressful because I'm heading a project with significant following across the world.
Woke up on Friday, I was hesitating still... but I figured, I'm going to come out in the summer anyway, so why wait? I had no more excuses. My last excuse was that I didn't have a good enough picture to accompany the coming out post. I had one now. I had to do it and get to the other side.
I posted, and started updating things everywhere.
We're now two days later. It's fantastic. Everybody knows. The project community picked up the change to my instagram and wondered if <boy name>'s account was hacked by their daughter or wife :)
There was a couple of threads on Facebook and our forum discussing this change. Our community manager and forum mods helped a lot and explained what was going on. I couldn't believe the amount of support I received.
Overall, negative comments were about 1% of the total messages posted and they were not really negative, just people expressing their opinion. No insults. I think some either changed their view on transgender people, and many others got interested in the topic for the 1st time.
I'll consider this my first step helping us all get more visibility and acceptance :)
Family and friends on Facebook were 100% supportive. So many nice comments about being as surprised as they were happy for me.
Hugs to all of you!
L.
Title: Re: Came out to everyone, it was fantastic!
Post by: Cindy on July 03, 2016, 10:22:00 AM
Post by: Cindy on July 03, 2016, 10:22:00 AM
Lovely!
Congrats darling!
Love
Cindy
Congrats darling!
Love
Cindy
Title: Re: Came out to everyone, it was fantastic!
Post by: Kitty June on July 03, 2016, 12:20:21 PM
Post by: Kitty June on July 03, 2016, 12:20:21 PM
That is awesome. I did the same recently and was surprised at how accepting people have been. It is a real relief to not have to worry about accidentally outing yourself and it really seems to lower stress levels all around.
Congratulations on being who you are to the world.
Congratulations on being who you are to the world.
Title: Re: Came out to everyone, it was fantastic!
Post by: Rachel on July 03, 2016, 01:52:30 PM
Post by: Rachel on July 03, 2016, 01:52:30 PM
Congratulations
Title: Re: Came out to everyone, it was fantastic!
Post by: KathyLauren on July 03, 2016, 02:31:23 PM
Post by: KathyLauren on July 03, 2016, 02:31:23 PM
Congratulations! I am glad it went well for you. :)