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So I'm six months post op... I've written many posts on my living my dream and this is another.

Always wondered what my sexual preference would be and I now feel that I'm capable of being attracted to males, females and TG a far cry from what I used to think. Dated all of genders and had sexual relationship..what has suprised me is my recent encounter ...

I now have a gorgeous hunk, blue eyed and blonde, of 39 years old ...a swimming instructor ...6ft 3ins, 185 lbs. I have to be honest I told him I was 48....Mmmm. I first asked him if he was an escort also in addition to being a swim coach, he was flattered but firmly denied this. Such a good looking male why go for someone older? Never got a proper response but he wants to see more of me...

I'm not interested in relationships ..for me the joys of love are overrated and the breakup heartaches are ever so devastating. So I guess a 39 year old is ok bit he thinks he has feelings for me...

I reflect on my hetro sexual relationship  and non deviation from this as a male and yet now I am so liberal in my sexual orientation...never thought this would happen but I'm living my dream.

I'm wondering where I will be heading in my sexual orientation.  Living in Bangkok I have a diversity and freedom to pursue what I enjoy.

Wondering if others have had these diverse changes.

To cut a long story short.

Oh Yes!!!!!!!!
The changes/acceptance, whatever, came and once I was mentally liberated it was extremely easy to fall very naturally into a world where the previous boundaries had no relevance and it was time to accept me.

Given a variety of interruptions in my life over recent times, it has not diminished my love of life and all that goes with it.

Indeed it may have enhanced it.

Enjoy, but remember; you are not a predator. So be careful of transferring previous life experiences to your new one.

Warlockmaker so totally can be a predator if thats what she wants to be. It isnt without it's risks but if that is where she is at then good luck to her.Personally I love being in love and thats what works for me and what works for someone else...well that's their story isnt it.

Hi Vicky ...I'm 68 and can pass as being in my forties...I've married 3 times and have 4 children. I understand that you younger ones want a relationship and that's wonderful. It's just me relating my journey in my journal and I sometimes post mental changes in the forum just to see what others have to say or if there are other who are thinking the same way.

I'm the predator but when the male is 6ft 3 ins and 185 lbs and a professional athlete I finally don't feel like a predator..

At 68....saying I'm 48 and having a hot 39 year old ....Mmmm. .just can't resist..  >:-)

You go girl!  ;) It is interesting so many girls notice changes in sexual orientation during transition, I don't really understand why. On a side note, I've always wondered why so many late transitioners are lesbian, while most younger transsexuals are straight.

There was no chance I would ever want anything other than another woman. 
I'm still pre-op but living full time and still married.

yea..... so as the walls crumbled and I really stopped fighting who I am I realized I'm now bi.  Them dreams, you know the ones, involve men more often than women.  I still like women a lot. 

I have to figure that if I transitioned when I was in my 20's I'd be a hetrosexual woman.  I'm double that though so I'm like this.  I hope to get SRS this fall and at that point I may find myself even more attracted to men.

It is not unheard of for sexual orientation to shift.

Wow !!!

You are such a lucky girl. Enjoy every moment and take care. So jealous!!! >:-)

I am still waiting for GCS and men scare me, but I long to be able to try out my vagina after surgery. My ex wife had no idea that I wanted to be her when we made love. Transition has been hard and I am unable to function due to hormones. Your posts and others at Susan's help me keep going.

Thank you

Love Jools x 

I did have GCS 3 weeks ago.  My mind is definitely different but not around my orientation.  I am attracted to both still.  What did change, for me, is a feeling like I finally made it to the bottom of the cliff I've been sliding down all my life.  It isn't easy to explain.  The internal gauge that measures dysphoria now registers zero.  I don't feel 'off' when I go to a restroom, wear jeans, etc..  That's just me though and hardly a statement on what anybody should do. 

I don't have any expectations that my orientation will vary further.  My head still turns when I see a hot woman though what I feel of course is half desire and half jealousy. 

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My 'old school' counsellor from the 1990s would go bonkers if he read this thread.  He frequently, sternly told me that I had my operation to have sex with men, not women.  I had a Lesbian girlfriend during the mid-1990s.  I wanted to share my thoughts, but that counsellor's attitude hindered my joy.

Allow my thoughts about orientation from my observation.  I suspect that for most, the absence of pro-creation sexuality once post-op frees one's orientation - even those who may have been married and have children from their pre-op days.  That freedom opens the field to so many possibilities.   You realise that you no longer must be straight to share intimacy.

Creativity and experimentation are more fun.

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