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Title: Greetings! Just another MTF
Post by: LucyNewport on August 09, 2016, 12:14:32 PM
Post by: LucyNewport on August 09, 2016, 12:14:32 PM
Hi y'all!
I thought I'd come out of the shadows and post a short bio since I have been lurking here for long enough! I'm a 39 y.o. transitioning TS (MTF). I'm currently married with two grade school kids.
I told myself for years that I wasn't going to transition, and I meant it. I tried to be content just to wear the clothes and be Lucy in the cosmetic and social sense. For anything medical, I would say to myself "not in this lifetime". I really thought that the window had closed on it. However this arrangement did not last forever. Gradually, my sense that things were wrong grew and became impossible to ignore. I finally broke down in the spring of 2015 and decided to deal with my issues for real.
I've been seeing counselor since that time & he has helped enormously. He gave me the space to do my own self discovery and what I found was that, yes, I really do need to transition. I have been removing my facial hair via laser since for about a year, and I've been on HRT since late March of this year (closing in on 5 months as I'm writing this). I've also had a hair transplant a few months ago to correct my receding hairline. So far all are progressing, healing & growing as hoped.
It's not all smooth sailing by any means. I may still lose my marriage over this. I'm sure that I have lost friends already. I have not explicitly come out to the kids – they are too young to really get it – but they notice the changes. I'm still closeted at work. It's too early to call it a success.
I want to thank all the brave people here whose posts have helped me in my own journey of self acceptance. The very least I can do is contribute my own experiences in turn, no?
Until next time!
Lucy
I thought I'd come out of the shadows and post a short bio since I have been lurking here for long enough! I'm a 39 y.o. transitioning TS (MTF). I'm currently married with two grade school kids.
I told myself for years that I wasn't going to transition, and I meant it. I tried to be content just to wear the clothes and be Lucy in the cosmetic and social sense. For anything medical, I would say to myself "not in this lifetime". I really thought that the window had closed on it. However this arrangement did not last forever. Gradually, my sense that things were wrong grew and became impossible to ignore. I finally broke down in the spring of 2015 and decided to deal with my issues for real.
I've been seeing counselor since that time & he has helped enormously. He gave me the space to do my own self discovery and what I found was that, yes, I really do need to transition. I have been removing my facial hair via laser since for about a year, and I've been on HRT since late March of this year (closing in on 5 months as I'm writing this). I've also had a hair transplant a few months ago to correct my receding hairline. So far all are progressing, healing & growing as hoped.
It's not all smooth sailing by any means. I may still lose my marriage over this. I'm sure that I have lost friends already. I have not explicitly come out to the kids – they are too young to really get it – but they notice the changes. I'm still closeted at work. It's too early to call it a success.
I want to thank all the brave people here whose posts have helped me in my own journey of self acceptance. The very least I can do is contribute my own experiences in turn, no?
Until next time!
Lucy
Title: Re: Greetings! Just another MTF
Post by: V M on August 09, 2016, 07:00:10 PM
Post by: V M on August 09, 2016, 07:00:10 PM
Hi Lucy :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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V M
Title: Re: Greetings! Just another MTF
Post by: gennee on August 09, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Post by: gennee on August 09, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Hi Lucy and welcome to Susan's. Thank you for sharing your story.
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Title: Re: Greetings! Just another MTF
Post by: jessicadee on August 10, 2016, 08:05:37 AM
Post by: jessicadee on August 10, 2016, 08:05:37 AM
Nice to meet you! Society is a strange beast! On one hand it wants you to be happy and free and on the other hand you have to be the same as the next person even if it makes you depressed and imprisoned in your own self. Not sure where I was going with this but I share your frustrations!
Title: Re: Greetings! Just another MTF
Post by: Anne Blake on August 10, 2016, 03:10:04 PM
Post by: Anne Blake on August 10, 2016, 03:10:04 PM
Hello Lucy, welcome to Susan's. Your story is compellingly similar to so many here at this site. I am excited for you being able to finally pursue the path that allows you to be you, trite comment but one that I believe many of us fully understand. I am not as long into hrt and am working on both hair removal and hair restoration. The losing friends issue is big for me at this time also. All of this to say that I can empathize with your position, kind of a combination of really exciting new horizons ahead but really scary waters to navigate to get there. I have not been on this site long but can tell you that there are some wonderful folks here that have walked these paths and can offer support and guidance. Please keep us updated as your story unfolds. Anne