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Title: Copying some else's body gestures unconsciously
Post by: KarlMars on August 09, 2016, 11:58:43 PM
Post by: KarlMars on August 09, 2016, 11:58:43 PM
I don't know if it relates to gender at all but what does it mean when you copy someone else's body gesture's unconsciously?
I was sitting watching wrestling with my (now ex) husband and John Cena was on tv and he made a gesture. I was mesmorized by the tv and without thinking copied the arm movements of John Cena. My ex husband turned and gave me a death stare like I had done something wrong. I don't completely understand it.
I was under the impression that people unconsciously copied the body language of people they like. Do people copy people they are sexually attracted to or does that mean they want to be like that person such as if a man was looking up to a bigger alpha male would he copy the gesture or would the person only copy the gesture if they were sexually attracted to the person?
I was sitting watching wrestling with my (now ex) husband and John Cena was on tv and he made a gesture. I was mesmorized by the tv and without thinking copied the arm movements of John Cena. My ex husband turned and gave me a death stare like I had done something wrong. I don't completely understand it.
I was under the impression that people unconsciously copied the body language of people they like. Do people copy people they are sexually attracted to or does that mean they want to be like that person such as if a man was looking up to a bigger alpha male would he copy the gesture or would the person only copy the gesture if they were sexually attracted to the person?
Title: Re: Copying some else's body gestures unconsciously
Post by: VeronicaLynn on August 10, 2016, 12:24:45 AM
Post by: VeronicaLynn on August 10, 2016, 12:24:45 AM
Kent Sayre suggests in his book Unstoppable Confidence to copy others' gestures to gain rapport and when they start copying your gestures you've done it...
He said it in better words, that book helped me quite a bit. Don't quite know what to make of your interaction, it could have been too obvious.
He said it in better words, that book helped me quite a bit. Don't quite know what to make of your interaction, it could have been too obvious.
Title: Re: Copying some else's body gestures unconsciously
Post by: KarlMars on August 10, 2016, 12:49:29 AM
Post by: KarlMars on August 10, 2016, 12:49:29 AM
So I must have been going back to my basic animal nature and unconsciously trying to gain rapport with John Cena on tv...lol
Title: Copying some else's body gestures unconsciously
Post by: Deborah on August 10, 2016, 06:40:19 AM
Post by: Deborah on August 10, 2016, 06:40:19 AM
Quote from: VeronicaLynn on August 10, 2016, 12:24:45 AMYes, that's actually a technique that you're supposed to use in certain situations. It works and I deliberately do it sometimes in interviews.
Kent Sayre suggests in his book Unstoppable Confidence to copy others' gestures to gain rapport and when they start copying your gestures you've done it...
He said it in better words, that book helped me quite a bit. Don't quite know what to make of your interaction, it could have been too obvious.