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I want to see if the majority of the trans population on this website are polyamorous or monogomous just out of curiosity. Please discuss.

I can't even imagine being with anyone else. 

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I'd have to put "Other." I was poly for years. At 26-27, I met my last partner, and we were monogamous for a couple of decades. I've been single for the past seven years, and I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone at all. I'm not sure where that leaves me.

Basically monogamous, but I can imagine having a triangle relationship (tried that a few years ago, didn't go well, but if it does, why not). I know that it's possible to love more than one person. Also, I think it's OK to have sex with other people, when the partner agrees (of course, you'll have to be honest and talk about STDs and safety).

I find it strange that "relationship" automatically means "relationship between two people", and everything else is out of scope, impossible, immoral, without legal framework.

Quote from: j-unique on August 10, 2016, 04:55:41 AM
Basically monogamous, but I can imagine having a triangle relationship (tried that a few years ago, didn't go well, but if it does, why not). I know that it's possible to love more than one person. Also, I think it's OK to have sex with other people, when the partner agrees (of course, you'll have to be honest and talk about STDs and safety).

I find it strange that "relationship" automatically means "relationship between two people", and everything else is out of scope, impossible, immoral, without legal framework.

That's why they call it friend with benefits.

I'm unabashedly polyamorous but I've been living monogamously for the past decade. I've always had difficulty making those kinds of connections and I almost never let them go. Only one in the past 35 years and it didn't last long.

I would never want to be with more than one person at a time. To me it would dilute the experience.

Not dating. Only having sex.

Monogamous in my current relationship. I wouldn't be opposed to a polyamorous situation but it's not something I would pursue. If a partner wanted it, I'd be cool with it.

Well over two decades of marriage and having a family together without expectation of monogamy. By practice it has been monogamous for long stretches of time, but there is no rule, vow or expectation on either of us.

I just could not see myself having more than one man.

Monogamous.

I'm all about building something together, being and having a special someone with whom something is shared and only with them. I deeply believe that having personal space, time, different friends and interests is of paramount importance, but things like our home, our sexual life, our life as a couple, can only be shared between two people exclusively in my viewpoint.

By the way, there's no wrong or right answer, but there may be a genetic one. My son is also poly and luckily in a loving relationship with a poly woman. I guess some of us are chimpanzees and some of us are bonobos.

Monogamous.  Dee is a better shot than I am and I'm pretty good.  LOL 

I'm monogamous. I don't think polyamory would ever work out for me, nor does it really interest me.

Monogamous,been married 28 yr and if something happened to her would be single not saying.

poly  :)

Monogamous.  I can't actually imagine myself as anything else.

I am monogamous but would love to try a triad relationship.

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My wife was polyamorous before meeting me.

Our relationship started off as monogamous, mainly due to my lack of experience with poly. Over the last few years we've developed our relationship to a point where our communication, openness and trust is at a level that we are now ready to move forward in a polyamorous way.

Monogamous.

There's no way my brain could deal with the idea of being that close to more than one person at a time. I put a lot of investment into friendships and even more into relationships; I don't form casual bonds and that energy and investment required for them is finite.

I can't imagine myself with more than one partner at a time.  I'm definitely a one-woman girl. 

Ive never really thought about it before, i've just always assumed any relationship I might have would be monogomous as thats kind of the norm. I think id give it a go if I had a partner who wanted that

Open to polyarmory but in a monogamous relationship - the thing is that I (and probably my partner as well) consider honesty very important and therefore would prefer polyarmory to cheating... because sooner or later, you/your partner will find out.

100% monogamous

Quote from: Platzhalter on August 23, 2016, 08:22:12 AM
Open to polyarmory but in a monogamous relationship - the thing is that I (and probably my partner as well) consider honesty very important and therefore would prefer polyarmory to cheating... because sooner or later, you/your partner will find out.

That's a good idea. If your partner knows and approves it's not cheating.

Monogamy for me.

Mono. I don't think I could bare the thought of my girlfriend being affectionate with someone else. Similarly I can't bare the thought of possibly hurting her by being affectionate with somebody else.

Been there as both and recognize significantly more effort seems needed to keep multiple people happy with each other.  In theory, and in my fantasies, everything can work out just dandy.  IRL people say and do the most unexpected things sometime and logistical issues add more to the likelihood of a poly relationship being shorter term.

It is wonderful to have the freedom to even consider the options eh? 

My partner and I are both poly; we're free to date other people outside of our primary relationship and if the right person ever came along, we'd be open to dating as part of a triad.   Speaking solely for myself, I consider being poly as part of my orientation - I could be monogamous, but it would feel unnatural and forced to me.   I don't think one or the other is better/right - people are just wired differently.

Quote from: prettyboy on August 29, 2016, 07:34:53 PM
My partner and I are both poly; we're free to date other people outside of our primary relationship and if the right person ever came along, we'd be open to dating as part of a triad.   Speaking solely for myself, I consider being poly as part of my orientation - I could be monogamous, but it would feel unnatural and forced to me.   I don't think one or the other is better/right - people are just wired differently.

It would feel forced to me.

It's a monogamous life for me. I get very invested in my partner when I finally settle into a relationship, so I don't feel I'd be able to equally share myself with anyone else. I'd be afraid of unintentionally showing favoritism and making one of my partners feel slighted. I fully support those who are polyamorous and make it work, though, props to you.

Quote from: alienbodybuilder on August 30, 2016, 09:12:08 AM
It would feel forced to me.

And that is exactly the point. For monogamous people poly feels forced. For polyamorous people mono feels forced. It's as biological as trans or gay. Neither is right or wrong. It's only tragic when a poly person end up with a mono person.

Dee
(Already lived THAT tragedy!)

But unfortunately most of society has been forced into the ways of monogamy without ever knowing there's another option all together. Also poly relationships have a habit of not always working out due to societal pressures placed on us and how difficult it can be navigating this hetero/mono world we live in.

Yes, exactly, Lady Oracle. How very like being trans (or gay) it is.

I'm totally chill with other people being poly, but I just couldn't do it, personally.  :eusa_snooty:

I would never want to be with two people at the one time, and nor would I accept a partner doing it too.
I couldn't do it

QuoteMonogomous or Polyamorous?

So, shouldn't this question be asking mono-amorous instead of monogamous?  One is sex with one person, the other is the state or custom of being married to one person at a time (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/monogamy). 

Despite the answer to the above:  I am monogamous.

I go solo.

As horrible as it sounds, I'd probably be Ok with being with multiple people, but I couldn't stand either one of my partners being with someone else. I'm a very insecure person, and very jealous.
for that reason I selected "monogamous" because I would hate to put that double standard into practice. it wouldn't be fair. And probably wouldn't be possible, I find it hard enough to find someone as it is.

Quote from: undautri on June 29, 2017, 03:31:00 PM
As horrible as it sounds, I'd probably be Ok with being with multiple people, but I couldn't stand either one of my partners being with someone else. I'm a very insecure person, and very jealous.
for that reason I selected "monogamous" because I would hate to put that double standard into practice. it wouldn't be fair. And probably wouldn't be possible, I find it hard enough to find someone as it is.

Pretty much same. I was the shared side piece with a couple once...And it was fine because I wasn't actually dating either of them and they had an agreement that I didn't count as cheating.... >_>;
I don't like to share though, I'm insecure, jealous and territorial.

I think so many world problems would be resolved if society would accept the idea that humans might be attracted to different partners at the same time. I think polyamory families should be recognized by the government and have same rights as other married couples.

Better yet, it would be nice if government gets out of marriage business and only cares about 'marriage contracts' (as much as any other civil contracts) and prevents abuse (as much as it does to any people living or not living under the same roof).

Let's say that we are mono 90%. We (me and my wife) have been involved in poly relations (with each other as part of the group) when younger. It was lot's of fun, but Oh, the Drama!

I don't see anything wrong with being polyamorous. But I don't think it would work for me. I wouldn't want to share a guy with another woman.  If I got into a relationship with a guy who was bi and he wanted to sleep with a guy sometimes I would be fine with that but I wouldn't want the guy around all the time or like living with us.

Quote from: Julia1996 on June 30, 2017, 10:00:45 AM
I don't see anything wrong with being polyamorous. But I don't think it would work for me. I wouldn't want to share a guy with another woman.  If I got into a relationship with a guy who was bi and he wanted to sleep with a guy sometimes I would be fine with that but I wouldn't want the guy around all the time or like living with us.

I would mind if my man sleeps around with another woman, but if we're all living together and I like her as a person, it's like having a sister... And wouldn't it be wonderful for an mtf? I think a lot of it comes with attitude.., I don't want to 'share' 'my man', etc. we are ingrained with negative feelings from the start, and it won't lead to anything positive from there. I personally would be really open to it, even thinking it might be ideal to me.

I would have to say monog.... whatever it is, im a one person girl :)

Monogamous, I can't imagine being with anyone else but my partner~


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Strictly monogamous! I'm territorial and rather dominant, maybe even somewhat proprietorial I suppose and I would never want to share my partner with someone else, I wouldn't be able to, I couldn't handle that and I would never under any circumstances agree to a polyamorous or open relationship.
It's just not for me.

When you actually stop and think about it, polyamorous is just wrong! 

I mean you just simply cannot combine a Greek root word (polloi) and a Latin root word (amor).

Quote from: BeverlyAnn on October 01, 2017, 03:58:44 PM
When you actually stop and think about it, polyamorous is just wrong! 

I mean you just simply cannot combine a Greek root word (polloi) and a Latin root word (amor).

Lol

Completely monogamous, we have been partners and soul mates for thirty four years and she has been there with me and encouraged me at every step along this journey. Neither one of us could conceive of changing this part of our relationship.

Selected other cause I'm both.  Monogamous relationship, but I have the biggest heart in the world it feels like. Haha. THough.... I might be like some others where I'm jealous if who I'm with is also poly. I know, I know, double standard, but just how I am.

Poly with guys and mono with others
Because guys will cheat on you no matter how much he love you or how much pretty you are
I see it waste of time to stay with one guy and waste your youth on him then at the end he cheat on you

Unless he become a real man in the relationship and spend money on me ( I'm middle eastern and its my culture that man provide his woman with money )
I don't see any reason to only stay with one man

My bad experience in life made me learn it in the hard way
Men are never to be trusted

Undecided/other. Cause technically I am polyamourous, in the sense that I sometimes am in love with more than one guy at once, but in practice I'm monogamous in the sense that I only ever date one guy at a time. I can only devote myself to one partner as I love unequally, meaning in such situations I always love one guy more than I love the other or other ones and that's unfair. I also don't like the idea of being in a poly or triad relationship. It seems too messy, stressful and complicated. If a future partner of mine would suggest such, I'd say no.

I prefer open mono relationships though, and of course that goes for both me and my partner. I'm really not the jealous kind of person, and I'd want for both me and my partner to not be restricted to only each other sexually. My idea of an ideal, would be to have 'one love, and many lovers'.

I've been single for a little over a year now, but my past 2 relationships were open and I really liked that kind of arrangement. I think it was me who brought it up as a suggestion/question both times, and it was positively accepted. For now I enjoy being single and not in love with anyone, but also enjoy to sleep around and have friends with benefits. It's comfortable, but I also know I'm most likely gonna fall in love again at some point. But I hope not too soon.

I'm polyamorous. I believe it's almost related to sexual orientation, like some people are just naturally going to need multiple partners while most are content with just one.

I'm currently in a long-term relationship with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, but I'm also active on dating sites and I've been seeing this other girl a bit lately. I'm pretty convinced that she's the [other] one, actually. I think two is the magic number for me.

My partner and I are monogamous, though we have a few poly friends.  After watching the drama that it has brought to them over the years, there simply is no appeal to that life and so we remain boringly mono.  We have been approached as a couple regarding having a poly relationship, but we chose to decline.

Heather and I discussed things early on in our initial friendship.  Both of us expressed our feelings that a solid relationship with one person can be difficult enough without entering in to it all of the energies of a second or third person, so we stay mono.

Well I'm single now but I would want monogamous because I can only really have feelings for one person at a time in a romantic and sexual relationship. I can like someone alot and not see them in that way.

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I wouldn't have nothing against anyone who wanted multiple partners, but as for me that would be too much. It would just get my head spinning too much. I am a one guy gal.

I am REALLY surprised to see such a topic, but not all that surprised that the majority are mono.

Me personally, I thought I was fine being poly, but after I discovered I was trans, now I more seek a mono relationship.