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My husband posted this picture to facebook and his aunt said I make an ugly woman.  :'(

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I know it was a mean thing to say, but honest opinions are welcome.

Her treatment of family is the only ugly thing in this situation. I think you are lovely and are a super cute couple.

I don't see the ugly woman in that picture. Is she hiding behind the perfect family?

Sometimes relatives can't pull the sticks from their butts. The splinters that causes often make their digestive tract to work in reverse. Every hateful word they say will make them look worse in the end.

Well within the median range of generic female cuteness.

I really need to work on my vocabulary selection, spent so long proving I can think masculine, I can't even think of what would be appropriate reassurance.   

You look to be a fine, confident woman. 

Quote from: rwOnnaDesuKa on August 12, 2016, 01:28:32 PM
Well within the median range of generic female cuteness.

I really need to work on my vocabulary selection, spent so long proving I can think masculine, I can't even think of what would be appropriate reassurance.   

You look to be a fine, confident woman.

Hey that response is fine with me! I haven't exactly had a traditional female upbringing either. Thanks for the support :)

Oh hell no!  You are an absolute doll!  Like, seriously.

Pity your husbands poor aunt.  The ugliness she sees all around her is emanating from deep inside her own heart.  DO NOT let her brand of ugliness infect your self esteem.  If ever you're in doubt, look me up, and I'll remind you again how freakin' pretty you are!

you are very cute, honestly

I think you're quite attractive actually and you're lucky your husband supports  you. As for me, i'm afraid that i'll be the ugly woman repelled by men. I feel so comfortable when dressed, but i don't like what i see in the mirror.

Laura

You look beautiful, that in-law is blind. Blind and stupid. Blind because she can't see how beautiful you are outside, and stupid because she can't see how beautiful you are inside too.

I also like the way you look.

OK What ever, Has she seen some of the natural women?? Talk about getting beat with an ugly stick. We all think you look GREAT !!! Ive seen some around my town, you want to walk up to them with God and  say "I'm sorry he said he goofed on you...snap gone back to the drawing board. >:-)

That is just plain wrong...I see a very happy ATTRACTIVE young woman...its probably jealousy  ;)

Liz

Quote from: ElizabethK on August 12, 2016, 08:47:52 PM
That is just plain wrong...I see a very happy ATTRACTIVE young woman...its probably jealousy  ;)

Liz

you know I sometimes think I feel jealousy in those looks some cis women throw at me on the street

Quote from: Soli on August 12, 2016, 09:11:07 PM
you know I sometimes think I feel jealousy in those looks some cis women throw at me on the street

I don't imagine anyone being jealous of me but I have felt it mainly when I was younger in the past when looking at women...I don't know how common it is for women to get jealous looks from guys...probably not very...but I am certain I gave out a few unintentional ones along the way. Especially if they had what I thought of as "MY Look" which was the way I imagined I would be as a girl ;D

Liz

Such a sad statement to make of anyone, maybe she was looking at a mirror. Ugly attitude makes ugly person, my mother said this to me once 5 years ago whe I first tried to come out, needless to say I hid away again until now, I live in another country and do with my life, as I wish!
Do not listen to that crap, unfortunatly for most of us ther will be plenty more of it, but I'v begun looking past all that and with pride and confidence, they are left in my wake!

What a horrible thing to say and totally wrong!  You are a quite attractive young lady. 

That is a terrible thing to say, but I would consider the source and ignore it

Blow it off, such comments are designed to elicit a response and who hasn't heard of the 'evil in-laws'?

If she ever comes at you in a public setting walk proud and give her the silent 'Talk to the Hand' response as you walk away

I would like to add my support to the others here.  It constantly saddens me how some people can be so negative about everything and everyone.  Even if you were ugly (which, for the record, I think quite the opposite), what possible benefit is there in just indiscriminately telling you?  We all face challenges wherever we are headed on the TG spectrum but supportive people (and there are plenty around) would give help and advice, not behave like this.

I do hope you can brush this off and draw strength from the universal opinion here that you are a very beautiful lady.

Amanda x

Just adding my support too.  That is a horrible and insensitive thing to say. Sorry you have to go through this. :(

Thanks so much everyone. You don't know how much I needed to hear this. I want to confident about who I am, whether people can tell I'm transgender or not, but it's hard. But you make it easier.

Hearing from so many people who accept who they are on the inside really reminded me of why I finally decided to transition. Trans is beautiful. Thank you!  :D

No way.... i,m still male and i love woman .....i think you look great ....dont worry about gutter sniping comments  like that , thats all they are
Contrived  from jealousy  or just malicious .... i know these sort of people well
you look good and i,m well known for being bluntly honest so i wouldn't  say it if i didnt think it .....:)
Mmm make me laugh my female coworker said I'd  make an ugly woman  too but it was an off the cuff humourous remark ...but iwould in my present confxiguration ...hmmm
Chill sweetie
I just enlarged your photo and you have a beautiful  feminine face shape lovely lips and great eyes ....i can see your female soul  shining through them

Some people are ugly on the inside. What kind of a person could say such a thing, I'd not listen to a word she says.

You are beautiful!

Hugs
Heather

The inlaw is crazy.  You are cute! 

Well his aunt is stupid or blind then because your an attractive woman. Some people just can't get over their own problems and turn bitter because of it.

"An in law" can go and get stuffed! You are lovely.

You have a passing resemblance to my sister-in law... and other than her personality and habits she is relatively attractive.

You look cute.

Your mother in law has some inner ugliness.

I'd respond with "I'm beautiful! You're the one who's ugly!"

And to be honest, I'd probably go and internalize what she said. But don't do that!

PS: When I say "," I mean Fabian, like the name. ;) Okay, not really...




*No Veiled Profanity Allowed Either Please*

Quote from: AnonyMs on August 13, 2016, 08:07:09 AM
Some people are ugly on the inside.

THIS.

 I would've told her she makes an ugly woman too :P

You are most definitely cute! Your in-law was just being mean. You make a lovely couple.

Quote from: Kelseyness on August 13, 2016, 05:13:45 AM
Thanks so much everyone. You don't know how much I needed to hear this. I want to confident about who I am, whether people can tell I'm transgender or not, but it's hard. But you make it easier.

Hearing from so many people who accept who they are on the inside really reminded me of why I finally decided to transition. Trans is beautiful. Thank you!  :D

I photoshopped your picture to see what you would look like with facial feminization  surgery. Dang nice. Really to get to dang nice you have to have something to work with and you have nothing to be ashamed of. I don't know how far along you are in transition but you are young enough to get the best effects from the surgeries. So hang in there. Live your life and don't worry about others. They have made their decisions on where they want to go in life. You deserve respect for your decision.

Ignore toxic remarks from cruel people.  You  are attractive.  Very desirable by any measure of femininity adn feminine beauty.  The cis vs. trans issue is irrelevant.  You don't "make" a beutiful woman, you are a beautiful woman.

The correct response:
Roll your eyes,  ::)
Walk away.
and Never deal with them again.

Quote from: DawnOday on August 14, 2016, 06:05:18 PM
I photoshopped your picture to see what you would look like with facial feminization  surgery. Dang nice. Really to get to dang nice you have to have something to work with and you have nothing to be ashamed of. I don't know how far along you are in transition but you are young enough to get the best effects from the surgeries. So hang in there. Live your life and don't worry about others. They have made their decisions on where they want to go in life. You deserve respect for your decision.

Thank you! FFS would be a dream come true for me. I'm 5 months in to HRT, but I'm still on a low dose. Hopefully my endo will change that soon.

http://imgur.com/a/zuFhJ     Show them this. They'll have to eat their words.

Kelseyness, are you convinced of your beauty now?  Dawn, you are an artist!  This is spectacular!

I think you're bloody gorgeous. People hide their insecurities by being ->-bleeped-<-s and putting everyone down. Remember that you're brave, strong, beautiful and confident, qualities I'm sure she does not possess.

Quote from: Kelseyness on August 12, 2016, 01:01:11 PM
My husband posted this picture to facebook and his aunt said I make an ugly woman.  :'(

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I know it was a mean thing to say, but honest opinions are welcome.

You are FAR from ugly!  In fact, you're the very image of beauty.

I typically respond with something simple like, "Thanks! You too!" Then grin and walk away.

Really, though, it seems that everybody before me has said that it's internalized ugliness, on her part. I think she only said that due to her own disapproval of you. She had nothing better to say, so she chose to throw her crappy attitude at you to see if it would stick. Hopefully, it didn't.

Jesus loves the little children
All the children of the world
Whether yellow, black and white
They are precious in his sight
Jesus loves the little children of the world

Everything is beautiful in it's own way
Like a starry summer night
Or a snow covered winter's day
And everybody's beautiful in their own way
Under God's Heaven
The world's gonna find a way

There is none so blind
As He who will not see
We must not close our minds
We must let our thoughts be free

For every hour that passes by
You know the world gets a little bit older
It's time to realize that beauty lies
In the eyes of the beholder

And everything is beautiful in it's own way
Like a starry summer night
Or a snow covered winter's day,
Everybody's beautiful in their own way
Under God's Heaven
The world's gonna find a way

We shouldn't care about the length of His hair
Of the color of His skin
Don't worry about what shows from without
But the love that lives within

And we're gonna get it all together now
Everythings gonna work out fine
Just take a little time to the look on the good side my friend
And straighten it out in your mind

And everything is beautiful in it's own way
Like a starry summer night
Or a snow covered winter's day,
Everybody's beautiful in their own way
Under God's Heaven
The world's gonna find a way,

And everything is beautiful in it's own way
Like a starry summer night
On a snow covered winter's day

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Quote from: Kelseyness on August 12, 2016, 01:01:11 PM
My husband posted this picture to facebook and his aunt said I make an ugly woman.  :'(

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I know it was a mean thing to say, but honest opinions are welcome.

Perhaps they are just jealous. You looks fine for me. Both cute and passing as a cis woman. You're not ugly.

Quote from: DawnOday on August 17, 2016, 07:50:45 PM
http://imgur.com/a/zuFhJ     Show them this. They'll have to eat their words.

Oh my god I love it! Thank you for this.

*crying tears of joy*

Wow !!