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Title: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 03:33:45 PM
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 03:33:45 PM
Hello, future friends!
I have come to the doorstep in order to say hello. I will admit to a certain amount of lurking prior to posting, enough that I see in my near future a post informing me of the general rules and regulations of this little digital home. I'll gladly receive them, and with thanks!
As for an introduction, I have been thinking about this topic, and it is a strange one to approach, I guess, although perhaps easier in the present company. It would be inaccurate to say that I stand here in my four inch heels because of a feeling of dysphoria, a feeling that I was given the wrong skin, or the wrong parts. I've actually always been quite comfortable with who I am, and I continue to be a generally happy (and physically male) soul. As with many things, for me, it seems somehow problematic to seek some sort of compelling or deeply rooted reason for such things.... There is a danger there, not in the things that we are, but in the tendency to perceive something that is different from the majority as, somehow, a failing or a departure that needs to be in some way justified.
I remember a conversation, long ago (I would add another long to that to emphasize my age, but I think this is one of the things that I really must stop doing when wearing these heels), with my mother. We were discussing my long hair, which I have had, essentially, all my life (since I was in charge of my haircuts, anyway, having come from conservative but loving roots). At the time, she was having trouble moving past my long hair as message- that somehow, I was growing my hair long to be rebellious, to speak against the appearances that surrounded me. I can remember so clearly thinking (introspectively searching and cross checking) that I really did want my hair long because I liked it. Not because it made someone else uncomfortable, not because I was thumbing my nose at those who knew and loved me and pulled the unfortunate card of needing to discipline me, but because, simply, I liked the way long hair looked on me (still do!).
I can also remember wrestling with that at the time, almost cutting my hair simply because it made my parents uncomfortable. And I am thankful to my younger self for standing his ground on that one. I learned then, and on many occasions since, if you have integrity, strength, and respect, and you treat yourself and others with those things, the great majority of times you will be rewarded with their return. Not always. There are some bad things and bad people out there, and one needs to be careful. But I have moved through many false initial perceptions into deep and rewarding friendships and interactions, and I hope to continue to do so.
And, I guess, if there is a surface based reason to be found for me and my "departure" into the world of high heels and skirts, it may lie somewhere in that world of perception. I enjoy challenging (without conflict) the perception of those around me. All of us (to some extent, certainly including myself) face the world with a whole host of preconceptions and prejudices. And, in fact, I don't think those are always negative things in themselves (they can help us navigate the world efficiently, and they can sometimes keep us from harm). But once we become too convinced of those things, once they become things that can't be changed or reexamined, then the learning stops and we become entrenched. And why (oh why) would anyone want the learning to stop? It is one of the great joys of being human.
So, I do have to admit that I love the illusion of it, the jarring of preconceived notions, the surprise of the unexpected. But I am still learning about why I have chosen this as an outlet. It would be easy, and true, to say that I have always had more than my share of some traits that society would call "feminine". Compassion. Lack of aggression. Sensitivity to others. But I can't say that I have ever felt those things to be female. Rather, they are human, part of who I am and hope always to be. And it is sad, I think, at some level, that our society does assign gender to so many things, when that assignation, in many cases, is purely a sociological construct. I think it probably causes more angst than it should, when a young sensitive boy is (intentionally or unintentionally) made to feel that something is amiss, when he may really just like being sensitive.
At any rate, I guess that is what we are here for, right? To speak, or be, or feel in ways that are our own, and to support others that do the same in constructive ways.
And besides, these heels look GOOD.
;-)
Muah!
-Kelsey
I have come to the doorstep in order to say hello. I will admit to a certain amount of lurking prior to posting, enough that I see in my near future a post informing me of the general rules and regulations of this little digital home. I'll gladly receive them, and with thanks!
As for an introduction, I have been thinking about this topic, and it is a strange one to approach, I guess, although perhaps easier in the present company. It would be inaccurate to say that I stand here in my four inch heels because of a feeling of dysphoria, a feeling that I was given the wrong skin, or the wrong parts. I've actually always been quite comfortable with who I am, and I continue to be a generally happy (and physically male) soul. As with many things, for me, it seems somehow problematic to seek some sort of compelling or deeply rooted reason for such things.... There is a danger there, not in the things that we are, but in the tendency to perceive something that is different from the majority as, somehow, a failing or a departure that needs to be in some way justified.
I remember a conversation, long ago (I would add another long to that to emphasize my age, but I think this is one of the things that I really must stop doing when wearing these heels), with my mother. We were discussing my long hair, which I have had, essentially, all my life (since I was in charge of my haircuts, anyway, having come from conservative but loving roots). At the time, she was having trouble moving past my long hair as message- that somehow, I was growing my hair long to be rebellious, to speak against the appearances that surrounded me. I can remember so clearly thinking (introspectively searching and cross checking) that I really did want my hair long because I liked it. Not because it made someone else uncomfortable, not because I was thumbing my nose at those who knew and loved me and pulled the unfortunate card of needing to discipline me, but because, simply, I liked the way long hair looked on me (still do!).
I can also remember wrestling with that at the time, almost cutting my hair simply because it made my parents uncomfortable. And I am thankful to my younger self for standing his ground on that one. I learned then, and on many occasions since, if you have integrity, strength, and respect, and you treat yourself and others with those things, the great majority of times you will be rewarded with their return. Not always. There are some bad things and bad people out there, and one needs to be careful. But I have moved through many false initial perceptions into deep and rewarding friendships and interactions, and I hope to continue to do so.
And, I guess, if there is a surface based reason to be found for me and my "departure" into the world of high heels and skirts, it may lie somewhere in that world of perception. I enjoy challenging (without conflict) the perception of those around me. All of us (to some extent, certainly including myself) face the world with a whole host of preconceptions and prejudices. And, in fact, I don't think those are always negative things in themselves (they can help us navigate the world efficiently, and they can sometimes keep us from harm). But once we become too convinced of those things, once they become things that can't be changed or reexamined, then the learning stops and we become entrenched. And why (oh why) would anyone want the learning to stop? It is one of the great joys of being human.
So, I do have to admit that I love the illusion of it, the jarring of preconceived notions, the surprise of the unexpected. But I am still learning about why I have chosen this as an outlet. It would be easy, and true, to say that I have always had more than my share of some traits that society would call "feminine". Compassion. Lack of aggression. Sensitivity to others. But I can't say that I have ever felt those things to be female. Rather, they are human, part of who I am and hope always to be. And it is sad, I think, at some level, that our society does assign gender to so many things, when that assignation, in many cases, is purely a sociological construct. I think it probably causes more angst than it should, when a young sensitive boy is (intentionally or unintentionally) made to feel that something is amiss, when he may really just like being sensitive.
At any rate, I guess that is what we are here for, right? To speak, or be, or feel in ways that are our own, and to support others that do the same in constructive ways.
And besides, these heels look GOOD.
;-)
Muah!
-Kelsey
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: Michelle_P on September 20, 2016, 04:12:24 PM
Post by: Michelle_P on September 20, 2016, 04:12:24 PM
Hi, Kelsey!
I think you'll like it here. My quick, inexpert read is that you might be from the cross-dresser part of our transgender universe, as you sound secure in body, but enjoy a more feminine presentation. There's a fairly active community of kindred souls here.
I'm one of the folks busily changing my body to better match my identity, but that's just me (and a number of other folks here, as well). Susan's Place is a wonderfully open and welcoming community for all of us. I think one of the official moderators will be along shortly with the official welcome package and links for you, but I just wanted to say "Hi!"
And hey, any tips for those of us who are high-heel challenged? I just wobble a lot, and can't get the hang of walking in a straight line. :)
- Michelle
I think you'll like it here. My quick, inexpert read is that you might be from the cross-dresser part of our transgender universe, as you sound secure in body, but enjoy a more feminine presentation. There's a fairly active community of kindred souls here.
I'm one of the folks busily changing my body to better match my identity, but that's just me (and a number of other folks here, as well). Susan's Place is a wonderfully open and welcoming community for all of us. I think one of the official moderators will be along shortly with the official welcome package and links for you, but I just wanted to say "Hi!"
And hey, any tips for those of us who are high-heel challenged? I just wobble a lot, and can't get the hang of walking in a straight line. :)
- Michelle
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: V M on September 20, 2016, 06:10:14 PM
Post by: V M on September 20, 2016, 06:10:14 PM
Hi Kelsey :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Here's a few quick links to help you along
Please be sure to review
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Here's a few quick links to help you along
Please be sure to review
Things that you should read
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 06:55:28 PM
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 06:55:28 PM
"And hey, any tips for those of us who are high-heel challenged? I just wobble a lot, and can't get the hang of walking in a straight line. :)"
Hi, Michelle! I assure you, I am in no position to offer tips on anything! I am sure there are ladies here that could. :-)
For me, heels are about practice, there are few things as enjoyable as finding the right cadence and line for a new set of heels. And practice is half the fun!
Your "inexpert" read is probably right on target, my small little roar came from the crossdressing part of the world. I just saw this section as being the place to say hello in general, so I leapt!
(Luckily, I had taken my heels off, so the leap did not result in injury.) :-)
In any case, I thank you for making me feel welcome!
-Kelsey
Hi, Michelle! I assure you, I am in no position to offer tips on anything! I am sure there are ladies here that could. :-)
For me, heels are about practice, there are few things as enjoyable as finding the right cadence and line for a new set of heels. And practice is half the fun!
Your "inexpert" read is probably right on target, my small little roar came from the crossdressing part of the world. I just saw this section as being the place to say hello in general, so I leapt!
(Luckily, I had taken my heels off, so the leap did not result in injury.) :-)
In any case, I thank you for making me feel welcome!
-Kelsey
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: Devlyn on September 20, 2016, 07:06:02 PM
Post by: Devlyn on September 20, 2016, 07:06:02 PM
Hi Kelsey, welcome to Susan's Place! I like wavers, lurkers, and jarrers. Glad you decided to come join us inside. :)
See you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
See you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: V M on September 20, 2016, 07:29:39 PM
Post by: V M on September 20, 2016, 07:29:39 PM
Quote from: Michelle_P on September 20, 2016, 04:12:24 PM
And hey, any tips for those of us who are high-heel challenged? I just wobble a lot, and can't get the hang of walking in a straight line. :)
- Michelle
Hi Michelle
I was pretty wobbly when I first started wearing heals but yeah, it just takes practice to get your balance
I tend to prefer wedge sandals though, small steps inline with the heal directly in front of the toes of your last step, land on the ball of your foot, the heal while always fallow
A practice that seems to help is to walk barefoot just using the ball of foot and toes, you know, like tip toeing around
Best of luck
Hugs
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: DawnOday on September 20, 2016, 07:42:40 PM
Post by: DawnOday on September 20, 2016, 07:42:40 PM
Just study Gisele Bundchen walk the walk during the Olympics. http://www.nbcolympics.com/video/gisele-bundchens-stunning-opening-ceremony-walk
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 08:22:34 PM
Post by: Kelsey on September 20, 2016, 08:22:34 PM
Thanks, Devlyn Marie and V M for the gracious welcome, and thank you for the work you do Administering and Moderating! (Wait.... is it correct to say that an administrator in action is administering? I think so. Lol. I love the English language.)
In any case, I know that is a chunk of work, and I'm grateful for the opportunity for guidance and support (and fun) that your work provides!
-Kelsey
P.S. Yes, DawnOday. That was a heck of a strut, wasn't it?
In any case, I know that is a chunk of work, and I'm grateful for the opportunity for guidance and support (and fun) that your work provides!
-Kelsey
P.S. Yes, DawnOday. That was a heck of a strut, wasn't it?
Title: Re: Kelsey waves hello
Post by: gennee on September 21, 2016, 10:53:38 AM
Post by: gennee on September 21, 2016, 10:53:38 AM
Hi Kelsey and welcome to Susan's. There's something exciting about challenging society's conventions. I've always been curious as I always felt I was different. When I discovered my own ->-bleeped-<- eleven years ago. the final piece to the puzzle was put in. Life's been wonderful ever since.
:)
:)