Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everybody,

hopefully you have a nice day!

Anyway, I'm writing a piece about tips for TG people who are not ready to come out yet, on how to ease the feeling of dysphoria in their (our) everyday lives.

So far, I got these:

-voice
-gestures and posture
-appearance
-small wearables to make you feel better
-looking into mirror and imagine your features change/what's good now and what's not
-let it all out/start a diary
-connect on forums (susan's place)

So I guess, I'm asking what helped you when dysphoria stroke and you weren't out yet?

Take up a hobby or interest that lets you express your true gender.

Thats a great suggestion, thank you!

Explode at people who annoy me. Mm, mainly getting really angry at people, especially ones who put pressure on me.

These all fit under the appearance section, but these help me..
Hair removal (temporary or otherwise)
Taking care of your nails
Tucking/binding
Mindfulness - understand the dysphoria and what creates it...

Sno.

I keep any and all traces of facial hair perfectly and smoothly shaven away at all times. However, I am nearly without any beard growth naturally.
I always keep my underarms hairless.
I never let any pubic hair grow.
I do not own any men's underwear.
I am purging, gradually. Purging men's clothing, that is. I still own some, but I would have to say that maybe two thirds of the clothing that I own is women's clothing.
I wear a bra every day to work under my polo shirt uniform. In the mornings the bra, usually a racer back or t-back, is not padded, but I increase the amount of bump under my shirt as the day goes on.
Soon I will wear a very small silicone bra insert every day to work.
I wear a trace amount of foundation makeup every day to keep my face looking as healthy and smooth as possible.
I wear nude barely detectable lipstick to work every day. By the afternoon I have enhanced my lipstick with increasing traces of color.
I come out, one by one, to select trusted people short of making full disclosure to my HR department.
What I am trying to do is gradually increase the circle of trusted people who know my secret until the circle is so large that virtually everyone knows.
I have another doctor appointment scheduled, this time for a foot issue and nothing to do with gender identity, and of course I will go to my doctor visit with my silicone bra insert in place making me look like the transgender person I am.

Find ways to self-feminize / self-masculinize that you don't have to show in public.  I'm clearing the hair from my body, for example.

Find places where you can safely present as female in the short term while gaining comfort with it and experimenting.

Tops on my list was fixing myself from the inside

We all spent a lifetime accuumulating a ton of negative emotional baggage about being TG. We all came up with various means to handle, or really Not Handle, being TG. It took a lot of hard work to actually learn who the Real Me is. It took a lot of hard work to even see all the little things that were unhealthy in how I acted, responded to the world, and thought about myself.

I have a trans friend who has moved to living as a female without surgery, and one who is only thinking about it, but hasn't come out yet, so heard their struggles as they tried to work things out.

I see myself as non-binary, or partial trans-male, but before I discovered the Thai gender-blending, anti-dysphoria herb, derris scandens, dysphoria pressure kept me leaning toward a more masculine-ish presentation.

My compromise, after feeling blended, is to wear only clothes I make, which are ambiguous, but could be considered feminine enough for teaching ESL in Thailand.

I use beautiful Thai cloth to make shirts that are cut like shaped T-shirts, totally plain, with hems that scoop up to side slits to allow me more freedom of movement, then wear a plain, thin black belt that could be for either gender, and local handmade jewelry of the sort that either gender Thai wear.

I made several pairs of plain black lycra material loose slacks with pockets. These look sleek and ambiguous but again, don't restrict movement as I hike, or ride my motorbike to work.

If a school requires me to wear a skirt I usually ask my agent to choose a different school.

I wear men's rubber slip-on sandals, since I seem the most dysphoric about my shoes..I must have comfort and durability, and most female shoes aren't about that. Besides, Thai bathrooms often have Thai squat toilets, and use sprayer hoses instead of T-paper, and and bathrooms are usually an awash in water.

Usually, people remove shoes before entering a building, so most Thai wear slip-on shoes anyway.