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Title: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 01:21:57 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 01:21:57 PM
Decided best to dump my thoughts and updates into a thread of their own so I don't spam Sarah's or others.
So far so good.
20161110
Give serious thought to Thailand and decide it's best for me.
Find out Suporns calendar for 2017 (he was the first to spring to mind) was booked solid.
20161111
Sent enquiry to Chettawut
20161113
Got a reply with a tentative date of 9th February 2017
Scream OMG repeatedly while marvelling at the possibilities
Talked to Mum and sister both ok but mum wants to research (good)
20161114
Wonder how the hell I can afford it
Cunning plan of big loans etc
Check my credit score (not impressed but MY credit history is less than a year)
Log onto my bank and have a big message above my account offering a £4k overdraft so yeah that's a perfect start
I reply to Chettawut email saying I want to proceed and giving info asked of me
Received email back for making deposit payment (no money available though)
Picked up passport application form
Got passport photos
Ordered birth certificate online (looking forward to having one in my name in March)
20161115
Spontaneous overdraft offer from my bank worked!!!!
Paid the deposit (yay)
Emailed transaction details to Chettawut
Chose The Vertical Suite (looks awesome and heard great things)
So far so good.
20161110
Give serious thought to Thailand and decide it's best for me.
Find out Suporns calendar for 2017 (he was the first to spring to mind) was booked solid.
20161111
Sent enquiry to Chettawut
20161113
Got a reply with a tentative date of 9th February 2017
Scream OMG repeatedly while marvelling at the possibilities
Talked to Mum and sister both ok but mum wants to research (good)
20161114
Wonder how the hell I can afford it
Cunning plan of big loans etc
Check my credit score (not impressed but MY credit history is less than a year)
Log onto my bank and have a big message above my account offering a £4k overdraft so yeah that's a perfect start
I reply to Chettawut email saying I want to proceed and giving info asked of me
Received email back for making deposit payment (no money available though)
Picked up passport application form
Got passport photos
Ordered birth certificate online (looking forward to having one in my name in March)
20161115
Spontaneous overdraft offer from my bank worked!!!!
Paid the deposit (yay)
Emailed transaction details to Chettawut
Chose The Vertical Suite (looks awesome and heard great things)
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: jfong on November 15, 2016, 01:36:06 PM
Post by: jfong on November 15, 2016, 01:36:06 PM
Congrats. Just make sure you are aware of how much that overdraft gonna cost you and consider it in the budget.
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 02:39:43 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 02:39:43 PM
When maxed I think it's £60 a month in interest but even if it's double it's ok.
I rarely use credit but it's a means to an end in this case so I'll let myself do it.
Expecting to pay maybe a grand or so in interest and fees over everything.
Got enough month to month in order to maintain it and all the debts should be clear by the end of next year.
Just been a bit too extravagant in 2016 since I got back so need to stop spending so much money but I can handle that. If I considered Thailand as a possibility sooner I could probably have had it ready in cash but this years money has just been so much fun to spend.
Love all the posts with people tracking their experiences so hope to be very well prepared when the time comes.
I rarely use credit but it's a means to an end in this case so I'll let myself do it.
Expecting to pay maybe a grand or so in interest and fees over everything.
Got enough month to month in order to maintain it and all the debts should be clear by the end of next year.
Just been a bit too extravagant in 2016 since I got back so need to stop spending so much money but I can handle that. If I considered Thailand as a possibility sooner I could probably have had it ready in cash but this years money has just been so much fun to spend.
Love all the posts with people tracking their experiences so hope to be very well prepared when the time comes.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 03:43:05 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 15, 2016, 03:43:05 PM
Brand new heart attack when I made a countdown timer.
It's not 4 months as in Nov, Dec, Jan & Feb it's 2 months 3 weeks and 4 days which is freaking insane.
With stuff needing to be paid say a month in advance that gives me less than 2 months to get a small fortune sorted.
Wow this is way heavy but I can do this although I'm gonna need my luck to hold a wee bit longer.
It's not 4 months as in Nov, Dec, Jan & Feb it's 2 months 3 weeks and 4 days which is freaking insane.
With stuff needing to be paid say a month in advance that gives me less than 2 months to get a small fortune sorted.
Wow this is way heavy but I can do this although I'm gonna need my luck to hold a wee bit longer.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 17, 2016, 05:25:16 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 17, 2016, 05:25:16 PM
Good news after a few restless nights worrying about money I've fixed it all ;D
So now I have the time & the money with the deposit paid (confirmation pending for receipt and date)
Once date is set in stone I'll be booking the flights (prices via skyscanner then booking through airline direct)
One consideration I didn't take into account is travel insurance for the trip as normal travel insurance wont usually cover surgery abroad. I've sent an enquiry to a company called Medical Travel Shield which seems to specialise in this niche market. If it's not too expensive I'll take it just in case.
Also getting a TravelEx Supercard for spending on over there. Pretty cool set up they bill your accounts at home in sterling using Mastercards wholesale rate with no extra charges because it's then a domestic payment instead of foreign. It looks and works like any other Mastercard so should be good for saving a bit here and there especially for the likes of hotel costs.
Waiting for Docs letter to get passport
Waiting for date confirmation
Waiting for new credit card to arrive to pay for flights
I really suck at waiting but will get plenty practice over the next couple of weeks as I turn my money projections into reality.
So now I have the time & the money with the deposit paid (confirmation pending for receipt and date)
Once date is set in stone I'll be booking the flights (prices via skyscanner then booking through airline direct)
One consideration I didn't take into account is travel insurance for the trip as normal travel insurance wont usually cover surgery abroad. I've sent an enquiry to a company called Medical Travel Shield which seems to specialise in this niche market. If it's not too expensive I'll take it just in case.
Also getting a TravelEx Supercard for spending on over there. Pretty cool set up they bill your accounts at home in sterling using Mastercards wholesale rate with no extra charges because it's then a domestic payment instead of foreign. It looks and works like any other Mastercard so should be good for saving a bit here and there especially for the likes of hotel costs.
Waiting for Docs letter to get passport
Waiting for date confirmation
Waiting for new credit card to arrive to pay for flights
I really suck at waiting but will get plenty practice over the next couple of weeks as I turn my money projections into reality.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 18, 2016, 04:27:29 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 18, 2016, 04:27:29 AM
Price back for insurance is £629.64 it's a lot but heaven forbid something goes wrong or I get hit by a bus etc I think I'll try to get the extra money to get the insurance just in case.
Also asked about a price for him to fix my trach but doubt I'd be able to afford any more work getting done.
No confirmation of funds being received yet but I know it can take a week.
That way you're saying to yourself "You know you made a big international payment on the strength of a gmail to buy the promise of a dream right!?!" followed my brain being sarcastic with "Wanna buy a unicorn?".
If not for the reassurances at Susan's and others I'd be worried :)
Also asked about a price for him to fix my trach but doubt I'd be able to afford any more work getting done.
No confirmation of funds being received yet but I know it can take a week.
That way you're saying to yourself "You know you made a big international payment on the strength of a gmail to buy the promise of a dream right!?!" followed my brain being sarcastic with "Wanna buy a unicorn?".
If not for the reassurances at Susan's and others I'd be worried :)
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 20, 2016, 04:44:37 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 20, 2016, 04:44:37 PM
My essential reading list to help plan things out (will add more as I go along)
All wonderful threads that will help immensely with my mental preparations as well as physical.
Thank you to all.
Really loved Mel's spirit and style especially the crazy bits (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,169918.0.html)"
A monkey is on the loose and her name is Mel" - Awesome
Susan's post helped me get a feel for Supporn & Chettawut to help make the choice confidently (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=199989.0)
Packing List (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,199989.60.html)
Carrie's for the feel of being off hormones (aka my worst nightmare) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=199989.0)
Carrie's channel (https://www.youtube.com/user/cheetaking243/videos) (Hope this is ok to link)
All wonderful threads that will help immensely with my mental preparations as well as physical.
Thank you to all.
Really loved Mel's spirit and style especially the crazy bits (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,169918.0.html)"
A monkey is on the loose and her name is Mel" - Awesome
Susan's post helped me get a feel for Supporn & Chettawut to help make the choice confidently (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=199989.0)
Packing List (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,199989.60.html)
Carrie's for the feel of being off hormones (aka my worst nightmare) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=199989.0)
Carrie's channel (https://www.youtube.com/user/cheetaking243/videos) (Hope this is ok to link)
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: zancii on November 20, 2016, 06:25:13 PM
Post by: zancii on November 20, 2016, 06:25:13 PM
I'll be seeing Dr. Preecha on February 10th, 2017. It's coming up pretty fast. >.<
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 21, 2016, 08:05:12 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 21, 2016, 08:05:12 AM
It's fun knowing it's coming but feels like forever away and soon at the same time ;D
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 21, 2016, 08:07:41 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 21, 2016, 08:07:41 AM
Got Doctors letter and birth certificate all I need now is an appointment at the passport office to get a passport in my name with a female marker. Yay!!!
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 22, 2016, 08:18:08 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 22, 2016, 08:18:08 AM
Som confirmed my deposit and date today for 9th Feb 2017 ;D
Just to be sure I'm checking my arrival date for Saturday 4th Feb is ok giving me a wee bit of time to get settled and still have 4 full days before surgery.
That way I don't want to mess up arrangements so best to ask.
Just to be sure I'm checking my arrival date for Saturday 4th Feb is ok giving me a wee bit of time to get settled and still have 4 full days before surgery.
That way I don't want to mess up arrangements so best to ask.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: AnonyMs on November 22, 2016, 08:41:09 AM
Post by: AnonyMs on November 22, 2016, 08:41:09 AM
Just in case you haven't seen this
http://bambi.site88.net/guide.html
http://bambi.site88.net/guide.html
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 22, 2016, 09:22:55 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 22, 2016, 09:22:55 AM
Oh thank you. I'd bookmarked it and then forgotten about it so I'm very glad you linked it ;D
Defo adding to my reading list with loads of great info in it.
Defo adding to my reading list with loads of great info in it.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 23, 2016, 05:03:41 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 23, 2016, 05:03:41 AM
Passport application accepted. A lot easier than I expected to have my proper name and gender on it.
Birth certificate, Deed of Name Change, drivers licence, signed photos and letter from GP just saying "gender change LIKELY to be permanent".
So cool that it can be changed before/without SRS as I'd feel awkward as hell when my passport got looked at if it were otherwise.
Birth certificate, Deed of Name Change, drivers licence, signed photos and letter from GP just saying "gender change LIKELY to be permanent".
So cool that it can be changed before/without SRS as I'd feel awkward as hell when my passport got looked at if it were otherwise.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: jujubes1986 on November 23, 2016, 07:14:23 AM
Post by: jujubes1986 on November 23, 2016, 07:14:23 AM
congratz... and enjoy the experience..... it is a rollercoaster ride...
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 24, 2016, 06:50:30 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 24, 2016, 06:50:30 PM
Thank you. I'm looking forward to it so much even knowing some of the pains and trials involved.
There is sure to be so much more both good and bad but definitely be a once in a lifetime experience that I wouldn't miss for the world.
So much to learn and prepare for defo not a book and forget affair for me. Need to work on my lists for before and after surgery then my return to UK stuff (extra donuts, liners, lube etc the mundane necessities). More prep now while at my strongest will save much worry once I'm at my weakest.
I've heard no matter how good you think your healing is before you're going to take a serious beating after surgery reducing power levels substantially for a good while. My healing is generally pretty good but best to stick to the tacticians motto "Hope for the best and prepare for the worst".
There is sure to be so much more both good and bad but definitely be a once in a lifetime experience that I wouldn't miss for the world.
So much to learn and prepare for defo not a book and forget affair for me. Need to work on my lists for before and after surgery then my return to UK stuff (extra donuts, liners, lube etc the mundane necessities). More prep now while at my strongest will save much worry once I'm at my weakest.
I've heard no matter how good you think your healing is before you're going to take a serious beating after surgery reducing power levels substantially for a good while. My healing is generally pretty good but best to stick to the tacticians motto "Hope for the best and prepare for the worst".
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: jfong on November 25, 2016, 12:10:50 PM
Post by: jfong on November 25, 2016, 12:10:50 PM
And to add to that "take it one day at a time" tackle each day of the recovery as best as you can and let tomorrow's recovery be tomorrow's problem.
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 25, 2016, 03:53:27 PM
Post by: Rebecca on November 25, 2016, 03:53:27 PM
Definitely jfong :)
I'm honestly looking forward to that part the most. To temporarily be outside of normal time with no burdens placed on me beyond healing. It'll be no picnic for sure and I expect recovery will need every bit of focus and energy I can muster but it will be so nice to forget about everything outside my room for a while.
My life and head are usually so busy looking after everyone else and work while dealing with my own stuff last it's draining but that's life as a mum I guess.
It'll be nice to just be in the present for a time. To be able to just do what I'm told for a bit while someone else is in charge.
I'm honestly looking forward to that part the most. To temporarily be outside of normal time with no burdens placed on me beyond healing. It'll be no picnic for sure and I expect recovery will need every bit of focus and energy I can muster but it will be so nice to forget about everything outside my room for a while.
My life and head are usually so busy looking after everyone else and work while dealing with my own stuff last it's draining but that's life as a mum I guess.
It'll be nice to just be in the present for a time. To be able to just do what I'm told for a bit while someone else is in charge.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: jujubes1986 on November 25, 2016, 05:50:38 PM
Post by: jujubes1986 on November 25, 2016, 05:50:38 PM
It's gonna be really painful... and uncomfortable for awhile... I say a month
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on November 26, 2016, 02:34:41 AM
Post by: Rebecca on November 26, 2016, 02:34:41 AM
Pain and discomfort we are guaranteed and like the money side we'll pay what we expected then so much more.
Pain I'll take if the reward is great enough. My pride will be left at home in UK along with my almost perfect normal albeit busy life and I'll allow whatever that has to happen happen. Humility, obedience and acceptance will be the order of the day.
For the longest and shortest month of my life it will definitely be a live in the now phase with focus probably no further ahead than what I am to do next. Anything better than that will be considered a blessing.
Until then it's research and make plans as best I can. The littlest details can make all the difference.
Great unexpected tip last night to not freak out if you regain consciousness with a pipe down your throat to just focus and prove you are awake enough to breathe for yourself.
I want my mind to be prepared for the worst and my body to be in the best possible condition prior to surgery for recovery. I am confident Chet will do everything in his power to give me what I ask for so for my part I can do no less.
Pain I'll take if the reward is great enough. My pride will be left at home in UK along with my almost perfect normal albeit busy life and I'll allow whatever that has to happen happen. Humility, obedience and acceptance will be the order of the day.
For the longest and shortest month of my life it will definitely be a live in the now phase with focus probably no further ahead than what I am to do next. Anything better than that will be considered a blessing.
Until then it's research and make plans as best I can. The littlest details can make all the difference.
Great unexpected tip last night to not freak out if you regain consciousness with a pipe down your throat to just focus and prove you are awake enough to breathe for yourself.
I want my mind to be prepared for the worst and my body to be in the best possible condition prior to surgery for recovery. I am confident Chet will do everything in his power to give me what I ask for so for my part I can do no less.
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on December 03, 2016, 09:19:50 PM
Post by: Rebecca on December 03, 2016, 09:19:50 PM
Good news for me they use the PAL system in Thailand so I can take an xbox 360 to keep me amused. Used to love games so here's hoping I still do. Worst case it will do as an overweight media player so win:win.
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on January 04, 2017, 05:14:15 PM
Post by: Rebecca on January 04, 2017, 05:14:15 PM
Flights booked and main payment received.
Just graft contingency, neck scar revision and spending money to go.
At least the big stuff is paid now so that's a relief still need to work out reasonable spending money to take. Was going to take £1000 at first but considering I'm running out of money and that I could live really well in Scotland for 25 days with that combined with the rep of Thailand being cheap for food etc I'm reckoning I can trim my spending money a bit.
Big question though what is a reasonable amount to get by on?
I'll need to do some more digging.
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Just graft contingency, neck scar revision and spending money to go.
At least the big stuff is paid now so that's a relief still need to work out reasonable spending money to take. Was going to take £1000 at first but considering I'm running out of money and that I could live really well in Scotland for 25 days with that combined with the rep of Thailand being cheap for food etc I'm reckoning I can trim my spending money a bit.
Big question though what is a reasonable amount to get by on?
I'll need to do some more digging.
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on January 13, 2017, 08:03:20 AM
Post by: Rebecca on January 13, 2017, 08:03:20 AM
Balance confirmed as received and blood tests all sent.
Just my X-ray to get sent then all boxes are ticked.
Bigger news I'm switching to the cosmetic variation so faster healing and no dilation for me ;D
If I heal fast enough I might be able to enjoy a bit more of my trip as a vacation which is a bonus.
Everything all paid so just my spending money to sort then waiting............ I suck at waiting :P
Just my X-ray to get sent then all boxes are ticked.
Bigger news I'm switching to the cosmetic variation so faster healing and no dilation for me ;D
If I heal fast enough I might be able to enjoy a bit more of my trip as a vacation which is a bonus.
Everything all paid so just my spending money to sort then waiting............ I suck at waiting :P
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on January 19, 2017, 01:24:04 AM
Post by: Rebecca on January 19, 2017, 01:24:04 AM
Yay they let me change my surgery choice. I seriously love how nice and accommodating they are. If I was dealing with me I'd probably be a bit grumpy by now between questions and requests but Som is always lovely.
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Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: annquance on January 19, 2017, 09:09:46 AM
Post by: annquance on January 19, 2017, 09:09:46 AM
Hi, Really pleased all's going well for you. I'm out in August for srs with Dr Chett. What do you mean by changed your surgery to cosmetic so no dilation. Only curious, does this mean you will have no vagina?
Kind Regards
Ann
Kind Regards
Ann
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on January 20, 2017, 02:52:13 AM
Post by: Rebecca on January 20, 2017, 02:52:13 AM
Yup I'll have all the appearance stuff but just won't be able to be penetrated (everything except a vagina canal so I'll look "normal" naked). Given its only the occasional guy that catches my eye and not in a serious way so it's not much for me to give up versus the time needed for dilation as odds are 99% for my being with another woman if my marriage doesn't survive.
A bigger question I plan to answer soon is whether lesbians are even interested in me. If they aren't then I'm screwed and not in the good way lol
A bigger question I plan to answer soon is whether lesbians are even interested in me. If they aren't then I'm screwed and not in the good way lol
Title: Re: Preparing for Thailand (Chettawut)
Post by: Rebecca on January 25, 2017, 03:55:51 AM
Post by: Rebecca on January 25, 2017, 03:55:51 AM
Got my answer...... Looks I can catch the eye of my type of woman. Was lucky enough to get hit on by a gorgeous girl with the right sparkle in her aura.
If not for my wife having just a mega breakthrough with me that night (making out at the bar - she loves me ♡) I would definitely have gone further than a peck on the cheek with her.
That and nobody outed me or set me on fire for smuggling a penis into a lesbian group. Given how easily I usually see trans people I feared they might too. Nice just to be another lesbian in the bar.
After surgery I'll consider myself just female so anyone that could read me as trans would hurt and probably have limited my dating pool even further.
If not for my wife having just a mega breakthrough with me that night (making out at the bar - she loves me ♡) I would definitely have gone further than a peck on the cheek with her.
That and nobody outed me or set me on fire for smuggling a penis into a lesbian group. Given how easily I usually see trans people I feared they might too. Nice just to be another lesbian in the bar.
After surgery I'll consider myself just female so anyone that could read me as trans would hurt and probably have limited my dating pool even further.