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I frequent another forum for transgendered women and this topic comes up frequently. Is it really so strange to identify as a woman but have no desire for SRS? There have been many times where I've been seen as somehow less of a woman because I don't want the surgery and don't have genital dysphoria. To me getting the surgery wouldn't make me feel any more if a woman than I already do and I would rather spend that huge amount of money on ffs instead. I''m wondering if there are ogjwra out there that feel the same or if I'm the oddball.

You are not alone.  I feel the same way.  That may change in x years but for now, I don't need it either.

I suspect instead of body dysphoria, you have social dysphoria. You are uncomfortable in the male role and comfortable in the feminine role. Others on the forum feel this way and there is no reason to get a surgery that you don't desire. You are far from being and oddball and are just a normal part of the transgender family.

Quote from: Dena on December 14, 2016, 05:01:20 PM
I suspect instead of body dysphoria, you have social dysphoria. You are uncomfortable in the male role and comfortable in the feminine role. Others on the forum feel this way and there is no reason to get a surgery that you don't desire. You are far from being and oddball and are just a normal part of the transgender family.

I think it's both. There are definitely things about my body I dislike and they make me uncomfortable. But you're spot on about social dysphoria. I've never ever liked socializing male and it always felt like I was just pretending and imitating what I thought a guy might say or do instead of what came natural.

I feel similarly.  I don't actually want any surgeries, just hormones.  I could take whatever changes my body is capable of making to itself, dress in a cute outfit, and that would be all I need to feel right.  My opinion is that every single one of us is different, but all very similar.


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Quote from: Amanda_Combs on December 14, 2016, 06:47:51 PM
  My opinion is that every single one of us is different, but all very similar.

Agreed!

I don't think it would help to make me feel any more of a woman.
I always have been a woman.
Its the cost of it and risks that put me off for now.
It would be so nice to be smooth down ther. I'm not disforic per say, but it does kind of annoy me and get me down how it looks.
I would rather spend that money on an R34 GTR. Lol
Maybe that will change as I am out more and dress up more often!

It is totally completely and utterly normal to not want surgery.

It is non-diagnostic, it is not a characterisation among TG groups.

It is an utterly meaningless parameter.

Some people want it, and can never afford it, some people want it and can't due to other health issues. Some people want it and just can't get it.

Some people are happy with their social transition.

They are no lesser a woman or a man because of surgery or lack of it.

I'm asked if I have had surgery, I refuse to answer.

That is my right.

Oh if anyone wants to call me out for what my gender is -- go for it >:-)

Cindy

I am the odd one out...my fear is that I won't be able to have GRS and I will be stuck with feelings of Dysphoria that quieten but very rarely leave me. I will most likely never ever use the equipment with a man as I am married but that is of no consequence to me. I make no judgments about others decisions it is totally a personal and private thing.

Many times I hear ...I wish I could have SRS but " X "  reason prevents me... "x" reason is a perfectly valid choice because it is your body your choice.

Liz 

For pretty much all my life SRS was never on a Wish-List for me. The odds of a Crocodile Dundee panty check happening are slim to none. However, these last few years now that I have a body I am comfortable living in, thoughts of SRS do creep in. Especially with guys looking sexier and a LOT more desirable then ever before