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Had my GRS three weeks and one day ago... here are a few things that have kind of surfaced for me since then...

- I feel much more positive about myself than I expected.
- I don't miss the little dude at all... apart from a few weird "flashback" memories at the week 2 mark, it's almost as if that part of me never existed.
- Tucking...don't miss it at all!
- Clothing...really nice to have pants, shorts, jeans, etc finally fit properly.
- Dilation... it is the drag I expected it would be, but watching Netflix on my iPad really helps pass the time!

I might add to the list as new things surface. I expect that it will be a different experience for everyone but that's mine.

I'm much more positive and happy for sure myself too. Yeah what was done to me down below I don't miss and have almost forgotten it was there before.  I never needed to tuck but don't miss having to using items the were tight on the area to ensure it looked flat. Clothing definitely does fit better. Yeah the long and winding drag of dilation, but it is worth it. I think that is the big though really forgetting what and how things were like before like this is how it always was feel to things especially mentally Hugs
Mariah

First of all, I would be remiss not to tell you that it is good to have you back on the forum. Your absence was keenly felt.

I am very happy for you!!  I will, however, admit to being a bit jealous, since I am months away from SRS.  Going full-time made me nervous, but has turned out to be much less of big deal than I thought it would be, other than having to get up 15-20 minutes earlier every morning to get ready for work, and the forehead-slapping realization I needed to drop a load of cash on new outfits, lingerie, makeup, etc. if I have to dress every day.

Genital dysphoria is still a huge issue for me. I never could tuck, and even though a year-plus of HRT has resulted in some "shrinkage" I have to be careful with the clothes I buy, lest something show down there.  It sucks.

But less about me, and more about you!  Congratulations again on a job well done.  I know you have truly earned it.

With kindness,

Terri   

Hi Grace,
   I will admit to having similar feelings to Terri. I am glad you are back, you were missed, and I don't like it about myself but I find myself jealous as well. I have to wait my time, so I try not to indulge that feeling for long.
   The question I might ask you and some of the "new ops" is is your self concept changed after the surgery? Do you view yourself (as a whole) any differently? This question stems from my own prediction of what it might be like. I love everything I have done with my transition. When I take the clothes off though, and despite having an A cup, it is hard for me to not be upset that "that is a male body still." I see potential but I haven't made a mental leap in how I view the body. Has there been a change small or large in how you see yourself?
   Thank you for posting this Grace. For those of us who haven't been "up to bat" yet, your insights are helpful and appreciated.
Moni

Definitely whole HappyMoni. Complete, whole or whatever term you would like to use. Takes time and you will get there. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: HappyMoni on December 19, 2016, 05:35:45 PM
Hi Grace,
   I will admit to having similar feelings to Terri. I am glad you are back, you were missed, and I don't like it about myself but I find myself jealous as well. I have to wait my time, so I try not to indulge that feeling for long.
   The question I might ask you and some of the "new ops" is is your self concept changed after the surgery? Do you view yourself (as a whole) any differently? This question stems from my own prediction of what it might be like. I love everything I have done with my transition. When I take the clothes off though, and despite having an A cup, it is hard for me to not be upset that "that is a male body still." I see potential but I haven't made a mental leap in how I view the body. Has there been a change small or large in how you see yourself?
   Thank you for posting this Grace. For those of us who haven't been "up to bat" yet, your insights are helpful and appreciated.
Moni

It's nice that you are back and feeling good about your GRS, Grace.  Nothing you said about your post-op feelings is a bit surprising to me.  There are some who, unfortunately, have a tough time in recovery with pain and/or depression.  Thankfully, that's not the case for you or most women. 

I know that we are women even before GRS, but, personally, having a vagina at long last was what I needed to feel completely confident as one.  For a lot of us, completing this momentous step marks the end of our physical transition.  It also signified for me, in no uncertain terms, that I was never going back. It was the finally affirmation of my sex and gender.  I had reached a critical milestone.  I was thrilled and wanted the world to join in the commencement celebration.  Congratulations on your most joyous accomplishment.  :)

Hi Everyone.
I'll be 3 weeks post op tomorrow. I'm still a bit sore down there but I definitely feel better, I'm much happier seeing myself in the mirror every morning.

I haven't gone back to wearing skinny jeans or tight leggings yet but even the loose fitting ones look better.

"Dilation... it is the drag I expected it would be." Couldn't have said it any better. At least the 3 ad 4 times daily won't last forever! One or both of my cats have taken to laying across my chest to keep me company.

I think I'm starting to get a bit of the post op depression in the last week, although it may just be from being cooped up in the house during the winter. I'm starting to go out for diner or drinks with friends every 2 or 3 days, it seems to help.

I'll be really happy when the soreness is gone and I don't tire out so easily.

It's been so long now I've honestly forgotten how much dilation there was immediately after SRS.  So there's a forgetfulness y'all can look forward to.

But not that I think of it, I remember something.  I never found dilation a chore or a drag.  I cherished it.  Every time I dilated I always felt so lucky, so grateful, so amazed that it was all finally real.  Sure, there was soreness and aching and pain, but even that would simply remind me of my new embodiment. Such joy. 

Today, I've gone days and days and days (weeks, months) having forgotten it was ever otherwise.  So strange, the forgetfulness.  And then it comes like a flash, Wow! That happened! Then it fades again into the background. 

Life is so, so weird.

I would add to the list that : I feel like im a teen again . Im getting turned on constantly  for almost nothing . i feel it down there but there is no random erection  :laugh:. Just some pleasure feeling. I enjoy this so much.

I am about 2 years post op and I cant imagine my life as a guy, it feels like I was born with a vagina. My vagina healed nicely and I get good sensations.

Having a vagina made me feel complete and I love the fact that I can wear anything. I love to wear tight clothing and not having to worry about tucking is such a plus. In the summer months I wear a bikini in full confidence. After I healed I joined a gym (I need to keep a bikini body) and I can wear a gym outfit and not feel ashamed in the women's locker room. My vagina from appearances looks just like any other women's (Not like I stare intentionally), but some women are not shy to walk around the locker room..

Dilation was a drag and painful at first, but as time went on, it got better. I use the time to read or just watch tv so i become a time for me to relax. Vaginal sex is amazing, just don't think its gonna be wonderful the first time and actually felt weird the first time I was penetrated ..  and at least regular sex cuts down on dilation time.

I'm newer. Here my name is Jasmine.  So jealous right now but I know I must wait.  I just started HRT.   I am so glad you feel well and surgery went well for you.   Please keep us updated as this will be great information for me and other gals to look into. I hope your recovery and dilation go well.  Thank you so much for sharing. 


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Today will kick off my 18th day post op and I have to say that I agree with a lot that you are saying.

-I felt normal and right as soon as it was gone
-I am a lot more positive and am looking forward to more in life
-I am in love with life and I love my body for once
-I am enjoying life more
-I am happier
-I am more confident, I went without makeup in front of family and a day without shaving because I finally right as me
-I am my open to the idea of letting others in my life
-Dilating isn't that bad and actually I just browse on Facebook while I do it.
-everything fits better
-it feels so alien to even think about having what I had below bellow, like another life
-female pronouns feel to fit sooo much better. Think of shoes have having your size but they were a little lose, now those shoes are just right.
-I have to pinch myself everyday that I did it, it's so surreal and amazing being correct
-my drive to help others in their journey is stronger
-Finally, I want to live. It's a simple statement but honestly, it's the truest it's ever been.

I feel your pain but am glad that it has been turned to joy. Keep that positive attitude and you have and will continue to do great things. 


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You ladies make it sound so magical. Yet I know you all probably went thru some pretty long, arduous journeys to get there.    I really do celebrate your joy.