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Title: Intro
Post by: Kat-lady on December 22, 2016, 05:34:32 PM
Hi!  It's so nice to find a source of help and information such as this.

I'm in my forties, been cross dressing off and on most of my life.  Only recently started to feel like there was more to it than that.

I've always been "sensitive", "feminine", even frequently mistaken for gay. 

I've come looking for help figuring out who I am and what I can do about it.
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 22, 2016, 06:58:20 PM
Quote from: Kat-lady on December 22, 2016, 05:34:32 PM
Hi!  It's so nice to find a source of help and information such as this.

I'm in my forties, been cross dressing off and on most of my life.  Only recently started to feel like there was more to it than that.

I've always been "sensitive", "feminine", even frequently mistaken for gay. 

I've come looking for help figuring out who I am and what I can do about it.

I would strongly recommend you to seek counselling, either public (with wait list, yuck) or private (expensive, but can be covered by independent benefits) to help you uncover the answers you need. You may like what you find, you may not, it may not phase you at all. But there *IS ALWAYS* a way forward, and it may not be easy, but nothing worth doing ever is.

That aside, Welcome! :3
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Dena on December 22, 2016, 07:07:47 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. A gender therapist can be very useful but while you are waiting, I have a couple of links you might want to look at. The first is our WIKI  (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transgender) where you will learn about the various flavors of ->-bleeped-<-. The second link is  "the transition channel"  (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfO3B57E6NpIn-KsVjvmLLw) where you will be asked questions by a gender therapist that may help you understand yourself. Feel free to ask any questions you might have and we will do our best to answer them.

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Title: Re: Intro
Post by: maraesque on December 22, 2016, 10:09:43 PM
Hi Kat-lady, welcome to the site! I've only been a member for a very short time, but everyone here has been so open and helpful, so I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for to help you on your journey! :)
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: V M on December 22, 2016, 10:39:09 PM
Hi Kat-lady  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Kat-lady on December 22, 2016, 11:48:56 PM
Thanks so much for the warm welcome ladies and thanks for the advise.

I checked the transition channel and am still uncertain.  One of the primary indicators is dysphoria and I haven't really experienced much of that.  I'm fine with whatever the truth is.  I'm me and can only continue being me.  It just so happens that includes dressing and feeling like a girl.  The compulsive part of me just wants so badly to put the correct label on it.

There aren't many mental health professionals here in rural nowhere.  I've been waiting months to get to see a therapist just for my anxiety and depression.  I'd be shocked if there were any nearby that specialized in gender issues.

Kat
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Janes Groove on December 23, 2016, 12:00:07 AM
Welcome to Susans. I was a crossdresser  for a long time too before I needed something more.  I finally decided transition was right for me last year.  Sounds like you may need to travel some to find a therapist. But it's so worth it.  I hope things work out.
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Dena on December 23, 2016, 12:36:15 AM
There are options on therapist. Some therapist are willing to work over Skype. This would allow you to have therapy sessions in the comfort of your own home. All you need is a video capable computer and an internet connection.
Title: Re: Intro
Post by: Cure Bunny on December 23, 2016, 01:51:25 PM
Hello Kat-lady.

I do hope you enjoy yourself here, and may you find someone to help you work through your self discovery.

I know my work offers therapy over the phone but I don't know if this is something that you have access to.




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Title: Re: Intro
Post by: gennee on December 23, 2016, 02:00:43 PM
A hearty welcome to Susan's, Kat-lady.

:)