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Title: Should I undergo FFS?
Post by: itschristina on December 28, 2016, 02:25:19 PM
Post by: itschristina on December 28, 2016, 02:25:19 PM
Hello everyone, I'm 21 and I'm a trans girl.
For the longest time I wanted to get plastic surgery to be more feminine and feel more comfortable with my appearance. About a month ago I actually booked a rhinoplasty but soon after booking I decided to cancel. You might ask: why? Because in that particular moment I was feeling quite confident, I started to like the way I looked and I felt very feminine since no one had ever clocked me. Also, I wanted to stay as natural as possible because I told myself that I wanted men to like me for the way I am and not for the way I look. I was sure I had made the right decision.
However now I'm on an emotional rollercoaster. I don't know if I'm just very stressed because of uni but I started feeling a bit down lately. With that feeling of "general sadness" my confidence went down. I don't feel that ugly, but I feel clockable and I wish I could look prettier. I look at pictures of FFS and I'm like "I wish I could look that feminine".
It's hard. One part of me says "stay natural, plastic surgery will make you fake" and another part of me says "get FFS, you'll look stunning and passable". I don't know what to do. Any advice?
For the longest time I wanted to get plastic surgery to be more feminine and feel more comfortable with my appearance. About a month ago I actually booked a rhinoplasty but soon after booking I decided to cancel. You might ask: why? Because in that particular moment I was feeling quite confident, I started to like the way I looked and I felt very feminine since no one had ever clocked me. Also, I wanted to stay as natural as possible because I told myself that I wanted men to like me for the way I am and not for the way I look. I was sure I had made the right decision.
However now I'm on an emotional rollercoaster. I don't know if I'm just very stressed because of uni but I started feeling a bit down lately. With that feeling of "general sadness" my confidence went down. I don't feel that ugly, but I feel clockable and I wish I could look prettier. I look at pictures of FFS and I'm like "I wish I could look that feminine".
It's hard. One part of me says "stay natural, plastic surgery will make you fake" and another part of me says "get FFS, you'll look stunning and passable". I don't know what to do. Any advice?
Title: Re: Should I undergo FFS?
Post by: Kadence1 on December 28, 2016, 02:30:08 PM
Post by: Kadence1 on December 28, 2016, 02:30:08 PM
The best advice I can give is do what makes you happy!! There's no need to rush into such a big surgery. Take your time and really think about it!! Have a plastic surgeon photoshop a picture of what you would look like after FFS, and see if you like it! They cost money.. usually around $100. Good luck, and cheer up!! A smile makes anyone 10x beautiful[emoji8]
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Title: Re: Should I undergo FFS?
Post by: Dena on December 28, 2016, 04:28:20 PM
Post by: Dena on December 28, 2016, 04:28:20 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. I had my nose worked on because it had a huge hump in it but I wouldn't have done it if my atoms apple hadn't needed work. I had both addressed at the same time and while my goal was fixing my neck, I really like what was done with my nose. It comes down to what you are comfortable with but the result will be better if you don't put all your hopes on the surgery. If you expect the surgery to be the solution to all your problems, it won't be.
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