Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: AshleyC on December 29, 2016, 10:49:34 PM Return to Full Version
Title: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: AshleyC on December 29, 2016, 10:49:34 PM
Post by: AshleyC on December 29, 2016, 10:49:34 PM
I DID IT!
Yesterday, SK and I got dolled up and went on a shopping excursion; my first trip outside of the house as myself. We spent the day at the mall trying on and buying me clothes to start up my wardrobe.
Final tally:
2 dresses
2 tops
5 t-shirts
3 pants
3 bras
11 panties
Plus a full suite of makeup
An expensive but AWESOME day. I'm so damn lucky to have SK by my side through all of this. She helped me pick out my makeup basics, gave me her opinions on stuff when I tried it on, and took me out for a celebratory dinner after we were done :D
We were both on the lookout for glares and/or weird looks, but neither of us really noticed any. There was one dude at the restaurant who gave us some side eye as we walked by, but SK thinks it was probably just because he was upset that her girlfriend was hotter than his ;)
I took some pictures!
My makeup for the day:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FzNopyEf.jpg&hash=b322d4b9e83a6e4ea783e5d718a2ef14dfa7a752)
My super awesome lady!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2Fp8FsNZ4.jpg&hash=96e46e274a17ef19a864df9fa2c9342e28dd2b41)
In the car! Time for ADVENTURE!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FenVfqM5.jpg&hash=0a9c88cf09f2389cc61f27904e4d6591bb6fbb49)
Specifically, adventure with my sexy lady!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FVoXgDPq.jpg&hash=2f1ba01eb91bae6b5551f87e0419b9224ca9a3f5)
Holy ->-bleeped-<-! I'm in public! There are people EVERYWHERE!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FAADVsXL.jpg&hash=7655727790fe8ec48cec92061e7d625808a8908e)
Star Wars shirt! #GeekGirl
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FOhKZSDy.jpg&hash=a171c8dcb9058660e5f3c8f0a3cffe07769249ca)
Star Wars pt 2
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FeufcieP.jpg&hash=40c84bd10e7474253840b48853e5c23fdf436f68)
It was the best day. I'm so happy.
Yesterday, SK and I got dolled up and went on a shopping excursion; my first trip outside of the house as myself. We spent the day at the mall trying on and buying me clothes to start up my wardrobe.
Final tally:
2 dresses
2 tops
5 t-shirts
3 pants
3 bras
11 panties
Plus a full suite of makeup
An expensive but AWESOME day. I'm so damn lucky to have SK by my side through all of this. She helped me pick out my makeup basics, gave me her opinions on stuff when I tried it on, and took me out for a celebratory dinner after we were done :D
We were both on the lookout for glares and/or weird looks, but neither of us really noticed any. There was one dude at the restaurant who gave us some side eye as we walked by, but SK thinks it was probably just because he was upset that her girlfriend was hotter than his ;)
I took some pictures!
My makeup for the day:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FzNopyEf.jpg&hash=b322d4b9e83a6e4ea783e5d718a2ef14dfa7a752)
My super awesome lady!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2Fp8FsNZ4.jpg&hash=96e46e274a17ef19a864df9fa2c9342e28dd2b41)
In the car! Time for ADVENTURE!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FenVfqM5.jpg&hash=0a9c88cf09f2389cc61f27904e4d6591bb6fbb49)
Specifically, adventure with my sexy lady!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FVoXgDPq.jpg&hash=2f1ba01eb91bae6b5551f87e0419b9224ca9a3f5)
Holy ->-bleeped-<-! I'm in public! There are people EVERYWHERE!
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FAADVsXL.jpg&hash=7655727790fe8ec48cec92061e7d625808a8908e)
Star Wars shirt! #GeekGirl
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FOhKZSDy.jpg&hash=a171c8dcb9058660e5f3c8f0a3cffe07769249ca)
Star Wars pt 2
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FeufcieP.jpg&hash=40c84bd10e7474253840b48853e5c23fdf436f68)
It was the best day. I'm so happy.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Ms Grace on December 29, 2016, 11:17:08 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on December 29, 2016, 11:17:08 PM
There's nothing like a good shop with a gal pal to liven the spirits! Congrats!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 12:02:15 AM
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 12:02:15 AM
Oh, my goodness! What a beautiful couple you are! I mean both physically ( wow for both of you ), but what a sweet romantic duo you make.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Veronica J on December 30, 2016, 12:20:05 AM
Post by: Veronica J on December 30, 2016, 12:20:05 AM
wow u look good, and as said good looking couple
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Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: KathyLauren on December 30, 2016, 07:42:32 AM
Post by: KathyLauren on December 30, 2016, 07:42:32 AM
What a lovely couple! Nothing like clothes shopping with the spouse to make a girl feel good!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 08:12:28 AM
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 08:12:28 AM
Tell me you guys went to see rogue one >.< was it good? I havent been able to take the time yet Y.Y
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Raell on December 30, 2016, 08:16:06 AM
Post by: Raell on December 30, 2016, 08:16:06 AM
Aww! You guys look so sweet!
I saw Rogue One twice, and it was GREAT!
I saw Rogue One twice, and it was GREAT!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Denise on December 30, 2016, 08:18:13 AM
Post by: Denise on December 30, 2016, 08:18:13 AM
Beautiful - I would agree that the guy was "checking you both out!"
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: CoriM on December 30, 2016, 10:34:16 AM
Post by: CoriM on December 30, 2016, 10:34:16 AM
Oh, I'll admit to jealousy now. You two look so good together!
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Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 12:40:03 PM
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 12:40:03 PM
Quote from: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 08:12:28 AM
Tell me you guys went to see rogue one >.< was it good? I havent been able to take the time yet Y.Y
It's so good! Treat yourself!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 12:54:15 PM
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 12:54:15 PM
Quote from: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 12:40:03 PMAs of right now its the only plans I have for new years. (Because I'm super cool.)
It's so good! Treat yourself!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Jin on December 30, 2016, 01:46:46 PM
Post by: Jin on December 30, 2016, 01:46:46 PM
Two hotties like you can expect to get a LOT of side glances and double-takes! Take it as a compliment. Flirt a little. Enjoy the attention.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Michelle_P on December 30, 2016, 03:35:21 PM
Post by: Michelle_P on December 30, 2016, 03:35:21 PM
OK, you two are now officially the coolest couple on this site. And you both look so happy in those photos!
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Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Selenakyle on December 30, 2016, 04:17:38 PM
Post by: Selenakyle on December 30, 2016, 04:17:38 PM
Aww, thanks everyone for the kind words! We really had a blast, it was so much fun to go out with my girlfriend as her true self and experience her happiness!
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 04:29:10 PM
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 04:29:10 PM
Quote from: Selenakyle on December 30, 2016, 04:17:38 PM
Aww, thanks everyone for the kind words! We really had a blast, it was so much fun to go out with my girlfriend as her true self and experience her happiness!
D'awwww :3
Seriously, cuteness overload.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:02:16 PM
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:02:16 PM
Today is day three (in a row!) without my boy disguise. Tomorrow SK and I will go to a NYE party; my first social gathering as myself.
Still waiting to figure out how to tackle work before I come out fully, but enjoying the hell out of my holidays for the time being :)
Still waiting to figure out how to tackle work before I come out fully, but enjoying the hell out of my holidays for the time being :)
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 07:06:36 PM
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 07:06:36 PM
Quote from: Selenakyle on December 30, 2016, 04:17:38 PM
Aww, thanks everyone for the kind words! We really had a blast, it was so much fun to go out with my girlfriend as her true self and experience her happiness!
Selenakyle, you are truly a gift to the world, both through your relationship with your darling AshleyC, and also through your warmth and acceptance you show and live. You are a gem, a wonderful gem. You and AshleyC are a pair a gems.
At 64 years old, I am a bit older perhaps, and my wife at 61 years old is also a bit older I assume.
I hope there is as much hope for us old school people as there is for the two of you.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 07:12:24 PM
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 07:12:24 PM
Quote from: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:02:16 PM
Today is day three (in a row!) without my boy disguise. Tomorrow SK and I will go to a NYE party; my first social gathering as myself.
Still waiting to figure out how to tackle work before I come out fully, but enjoying the hell out of my holidays for the time being :)
>.< Yeah, I almost waltzed right into work after Christmas with nail polish and makeup residue still on.
My union steward has enough trouble with people giving me grief (someone carved a homophobic slur into my hardhat at work earlier this year among other incidents and I'm not even 'out' at work yet.)
Depending on what you do, work can likely be one of the slipperiest areas for a smooth transition, for me it will be the last place I out myself.
Just keep 'sleigh' ing it over Christmas break and new years! (get my pun? LAWL) Worry about work when they're paying you and only when they're paying you lol
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 07:12:33 PM
Post by: Donna on December 30, 2016, 07:12:33 PM
AshleyC,
I have had a long and varied career in multiple jobs and professions.
I now work perhaps below my skill level at a union job just for the health insurance benefits for myself and my wife and two adult children. I know very much that my employer would so not want to lose me that they would take me in any gender form I wish to present. I have already outed myself to maybe a quarter of the other people there.
The only thing preventing me from coming out to my employer is that is I am so far such a chicken-s_it coming out to my wife...
A marriage of 41 years would be something that no one would want to risk.
Donna
I have had a long and varied career in multiple jobs and professions.
I now work perhaps below my skill level at a union job just for the health insurance benefits for myself and my wife and two adult children. I know very much that my employer would so not want to lose me that they would take me in any gender form I wish to present. I have already outed myself to maybe a quarter of the other people there.
The only thing preventing me from coming out to my employer is that is I am so far such a chicken-s_it coming out to my wife...
A marriage of 41 years would be something that no one would want to risk.
Donna
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:19:14 PM
Post by: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:19:14 PM
Quote from: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 07:12:24 PM
>.< Yeah, I almost waltzed right into work after Christmas with nail polish and makeup residue still on.
My union steward has enough trouble with people giving me grief (someone carved a homophobic slur into my hardhat at work earlier this year among other incidents and I'm not even 'out' at work yet.)
Depending on what you do, work can likely be one of the slipperiest areas for a smooth transition, for me it will be the last place I out myself.
Just keep 'sleigh' ing it over Christmas break and new years! (get my pun? LAWL) Worry about work when they're paying you and only when they're paying you lol
Oh God, puns! You and SK would be best pals. Her pun game is strong.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 07:20:44 PM
Post by: Angela Drakken on December 30, 2016, 07:20:44 PM
Quote from: AshleyC on December 30, 2016, 07:19:14 PM
Oh God, puns! You and SK would be best pals. Her pun game is strong.
Suns out, puns out. /flex
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: josie76 on December 31, 2016, 09:51:44 AM
Post by: josie76 on December 31, 2016, 09:51:44 AM
Ashley your hair and makeup suits you we well. I'm happy for you being you.
Title: Re: First Day Out (of the house)!
Post by: April_Girl on January 01, 2017, 03:39:38 AM
Post by: April_Girl on January 01, 2017, 03:39:38 AM
You both look amazing and very happy, happy new year and well done! xxx