Susan's Place Transgender Resources

(the title will make perfect sense i swear)

I'm not yet out to most of my family, but I've mentioned to my parents before that I have transgender friends at my college and that sometimes I participate in their respective student group. Today my mom and I were talking about the stressfulness of my first semester of college and the pros and cons of going to college, and one of the pros that she brought up was the transgender student group I was involved in (I had not mentioned to her at this point that I'm trans... just that I have trans friends).

I felt kind of nervous at this point about her bringing it up, because my family is Christian and my dad, grandma, and most of my church are very Conservative, so I asked her "Are you OK with me being part of this student group?"

(Not because I thought I needed her approval, I just wanted to know her opinion)

And she basically said "Of course it's OK with me! I'm a lot more open-minded about transgender and neutral-gender than a lot of other Christians."

Which she then followed up with "And I know that sometimes you don't quite like being a little girl, and that for a long time you've tended to stay away from feminine things in favor of things that are more traditionally masculine, and I just want you to know that whatever you want to be is fine with me!"

(which is especially meaningful because I have a traditionally masculine haircut and fashion sense and she knows that I chest bind)

AND later on we both acknowledged that if I were ever to transfer to another college closer to home, that it would be important for me to find another LGBT student group for me to be a part of.

So even if neither of us overtly acknowledged that I'm transgender, the implication was still kinda there and she was perfectly fine with that and I'm so happy!!! And I'm hoping i can get the chance to formally come out to her.

It almost sounds like she outed you.  :)

Quote from: Jane Emily on January 13, 2017, 02:51:42 PM
It almost sounds like she outed you.  :)

Hey, saves me a lot of work :P

(Though my mom and I were the only ones in the room so it was a bit of a "If a tree falls in the forest and no-one is around to hear it" situation.)

Holey Moley! That's awesome.  I'm trying to imagine having that conversation with my mother and it's just not working the same.  Mind if I borrow yours just to get through the closet-exiting?  Thanks in advance. 

Erin

Quote from: Dayta on January 13, 2017, 03:03:30 PM
Holey Moley! That's awesome.  I'm trying to imagine having that conversation with my mother and it's just not working the same.  Mind if I borrow yours just to get through the closet-exiting?  Thanks in advance. 

Erin

Absolutely, whatever makes your life easier! I'm sure I'm not the only one who's used some variation on the "so I have this friend..." conversation.

No question here, she knows.  I think she was making an opportunity for you to talk about it.

Congratulations.

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UPDATE: I actually, for-real, no-beating-around-the-cush came out a few hours ago. She took it well!

I'm very happy for you that it went well. X