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Title: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: redhot1 on January 26, 2017, 05:47:24 AM
Post by: redhot1 on January 26, 2017, 05:47:24 AM
I am in my 20s now and I lived with a balance and coordination difficulty my entire life. I had to deal with being excluded from the mainstream at certain points in my life.
I am a guy and I really want to find a girlfriend (not thinking about being a girl right now) so I really want a good job, and I mean right now. I'm not going to wait for anything. I hope the vocational services of my state respond quickly.
I'm so discouraged by the double standard that men must have employment. Women have it so easy. Why didn't God just create men equal to women? :)
I feel very depressed, but I'm not really suicidal. Even though I said it to myself sometimes, I don't really mean it.
I am a guy and I really want to find a girlfriend (not thinking about being a girl right now) so I really want a good job, and I mean right now. I'm not going to wait for anything. I hope the vocational services of my state respond quickly.
I'm so discouraged by the double standard that men must have employment. Women have it so easy. Why didn't God just create men equal to women? :)
I feel very depressed, but I'm not really suicidal. Even though I said it to myself sometimes, I don't really mean it.
Title: Re: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: audreytn on February 26, 2017, 09:22:22 PM
Post by: audreytn on February 26, 2017, 09:22:22 PM
Get your class a cdl and drive a truck. it oays good
Title: Re: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: Raell on February 26, 2017, 09:34:22 PM
Post by: Raell on February 26, 2017, 09:34:22 PM
These days women are expected to have employment as well, but you are correct that females choose males who can provide well for them. In fact, the dating measuring stick includes just how well prospective male partners can do that.
Why put up with men, give them sex, clean up after them, share their space with them, etc., if they can't improve the woman's social and/or financial status? After all, most cis women simply toss under-performing males out the door and move on to better prospects.
As a female, that's how I was.
Yet, as a partial transmale (unknown to me), my male partners soon found themselves in a fight to compete with me financially, as my jobs and income quickly outstripped theirs. I couldn't stop myself resenting them for trying to help me, wanting to do everything for myself.
I wasn't very good being like other females, who typically encourage their men with admiration and compliments for their efforts.
Now that I'm allowing my male side to express more equally, I can see those opposing gender trends in me.
Perhaps you are also experiencing perspectives from more than one gender. After all, most cis males, want more than anything to provide for their females, and it's a source of pride. I undercut this natural need in my male partners with my own competitive male traits.
Why put up with men, give them sex, clean up after them, share their space with them, etc., if they can't improve the woman's social and/or financial status? After all, most cis women simply toss under-performing males out the door and move on to better prospects.
As a female, that's how I was.
Yet, as a partial transmale (unknown to me), my male partners soon found themselves in a fight to compete with me financially, as my jobs and income quickly outstripped theirs. I couldn't stop myself resenting them for trying to help me, wanting to do everything for myself.
I wasn't very good being like other females, who typically encourage their men with admiration and compliments for their efforts.
Now that I'm allowing my male side to express more equally, I can see those opposing gender trends in me.
Perhaps you are also experiencing perspectives from more than one gender. After all, most cis males, want more than anything to provide for their females, and it's a source of pride. I undercut this natural need in my male partners with my own competitive male traits.
Title: Re: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: SailorMars1994 on March 21, 2017, 09:20:56 PM
Post by: SailorMars1994 on March 21, 2017, 09:20:56 PM
Quote from: redhot1 on January 26, 2017, 05:47:24 AM
I am in my 20s now and I lived with a balance and coordination difficulty my entire life. I had to deal with being excluded from the mainstream at certain points in my life.
I am a guy and I really want to find a girlfriend (not thinking about being a girl right now) so I really want a good job, and I mean right now. I'm not going to wait for anything. I hope the vocational services of my state respond quickly.
I'm so discouraged by the double standard that men must have employment. Women have it so easy. Why didn't God just create men equal to women? :)
I feel very depressed, but I'm not really suicidal. Even though I said it to myself sometimes, I don't really mean it.
I feel for your situation and that is crappy. Nonetheless, women do not have it easy.
Title: Re: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: Lady Sarah on March 21, 2017, 10:40:34 PM
Post by: Lady Sarah on March 21, 2017, 10:40:34 PM
Quote from: redhot1 on January 26, 2017, 05:47:24 AM
I am in my 20s now and I lived with a balance and coordination difficulty my entire life. I had to deal with being excluded from the mainstream at certain points in my life.
I am a guy and I really want to find a girlfriend (not thinking about being a girl right now) so I really want a good job, and I mean right now. I'm not going to wait for anything. I hope the vocational services of my state respond quickly.
I'm so discouraged by the double standard that men must have employment. Women have it so easy. Why didn't God just create men equal to women? :)
I feel very depressed, but I'm not really suicidal. Even though I said it to myself sometimes, I don't really mean it.
I knew your pain. I tried to make it as a male, and failed miserably. I tried so hard, that I wound up on disability at age 20. I am 50 now.
I would suggest looking inside yourself, and thinking hard about what you really want to accomplish, and who you really need to be. You just might surprise yourself.
Title: Re: I never had real employment and it's making me depressed
Post by: redhot1 on May 02, 2017, 07:54:55 PM
Post by: redhot1 on May 02, 2017, 07:54:55 PM
I just don't know what I really want to do in life. Besides, I want money to chase after my dreams. My SSI sucks. Still depressed because I can't find a good woman who will accept me even if I don't work. At least I'm volunteering and going to go to school soon, but it's not enough is it?