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Title: My parents know or just wondering.
Post by: Larisa on January 27, 2017, 08:24:10 AM
Post by: Larisa on January 27, 2017, 08:24:10 AM
Last night is one of those times that I wonder if my mom wonders or knows she has a daughter, not a son. First the waitress comes by and says sir to me. Yes shes just being polite but than my mom was like letting her know I do not like being called sir. I was shocked that my mom said this. I was glad also.
Than with other people, the issues of transgender came up and one guy there said he thought it was partly a mental illness. My mom right away said she did not think it was. The guy was not trying to be rude but just misinformed about it all.
These 2 things last night makes me wonder if she does know or just wonders again. She like my dad have in the past actually have asked me if "I wanted to be a girl" so it's a wonder obviously. There's been a few times where they seemed to be questioning to themselves.
Than with other people, the issues of transgender came up and one guy there said he thought it was partly a mental illness. My mom right away said she did not think it was. The guy was not trying to be rude but just misinformed about it all.
These 2 things last night makes me wonder if she does know or just wonders again. She like my dad have in the past actually have asked me if "I wanted to be a girl" so it's a wonder obviously. There's been a few times where they seemed to be questioning to themselves.
Title: Re: My parents know or just wondering.
Post by: josie76 on January 27, 2017, 08:28:28 AM
Post by: josie76 on January 27, 2017, 08:28:28 AM
I'd say your mom is letting you know she knows who you really are. Congrats ;)
Title: Re: My parents know or just wondering.
Post by: Paige on January 27, 2017, 08:37:50 AM
Post by: Paige on January 27, 2017, 08:37:50 AM
Quote from: Larisa1983 on January 27, 2017, 08:24:10 AM
Last night is one of those times that I wonder if my mom wonders or knows she has a daughter, not a son. First the waitress comes by and says sir to me. Yes shes just being polite but than my mom was like letting her know I do not like being called sir. I was shocked that my mom said this. I was glad also.
Than with other people, the issues of transgender came up and one guy there said he thought it was partly a mental illness. My mom right away said she did not think it was. The guy was not trying to be rude but just misinformed about it all.
These 2 things last night makes me wonder if she does know or just wonders again. She like my dad have in the past actually have asked me if "I wanted to be a girl" so it's a wonder obviously. There's been a few times where they seemed to be questioning to themselves.
Hi Larisa,
Sounds like you have supportive parents just waiting to help you. You should give them a big hug.
Paige :)
Title: Re: My parents know or just wondering.
Post by: Denise on January 27, 2017, 09:22:57 AM
Post by: Denise on January 27, 2017, 09:22:57 AM
I agree with the other's responses here. BUT, let me add, the same way that you are nervous to talk to them about it, they have the same nervousness to mention it to you.
Take a breath and tell her you feel that way. If you want to be non-committal you could say something like, "Mom, I would like to see a therapist about ..." from there you can go with all sorts of things like:
1) my uncertainty of being a boy/girl
2) some stuff
3) some stuff specifically gender identity
4) possibly being transgender
5) ...
Here's a question - is it possible you were born Intersex and/or a "decision" was made.
You could approach your mom from that direction. "Mom, is there something about my you know but are not telling me?"
You are probably too old to ask the way I did. When I was 4 I walked up to my mom and asked "Mom, was there a mistake made? Am I supposed to be a girl?" (I remember this like it was this morning!) That was in 1966 or 1967 so the answer was... "Ha Ha...." (the rest didn't matter) and I buried the question for 50+ years.
Take a breath and tell her you feel that way. If you want to be non-committal you could say something like, "Mom, I would like to see a therapist about ..." from there you can go with all sorts of things like:
1) my uncertainty of being a boy/girl
2) some stuff
3) some stuff specifically gender identity
4) possibly being transgender
5) ...
Here's a question - is it possible you were born Intersex and/or a "decision" was made.
You could approach your mom from that direction. "Mom, is there something about my you know but are not telling me?"
You are probably too old to ask the way I did. When I was 4 I walked up to my mom and asked "Mom, was there a mistake made? Am I supposed to be a girl?" (I remember this like it was this morning!) That was in 1966 or 1967 so the answer was... "Ha Ha...." (the rest didn't matter) and I buried the question for 50+ years.