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Title: Changes since partly coming out to coworkers
Post by: Mirath on January 28, 2017, 12:06:33 PM
Post by: Mirath on January 28, 2017, 12:06:33 PM
For background - I've told my team leaders, managers, and one close co-worker that I'm trans, and all seemed to take it well, even if they admit to not knowing much about it.
I've found around these people it's easier to talk about now, I feel more at ease around them and like I can be more of myself. My coworker even asked me what I'd change my name to, and her guess closely matched what I'd chosen, and so we can discuss and laugh about things.
It makes me chuckle, our team leaders have a calendar with everyone's name written down on, mine included. So if by chance I legally change my name before my birthday, they'll have to change their calendar haha. Or put a sticky label over it.
The first few days did seem a bit rough, I'll admit. Like anything new.
Worrying about people eavesdropping is the highest of my concerns...
How about you all, any changes you've noticed by telling people? Perhaps a more relaxed state, or maybe more tense?
I've found around these people it's easier to talk about now, I feel more at ease around them and like I can be more of myself. My coworker even asked me what I'd change my name to, and her guess closely matched what I'd chosen, and so we can discuss and laugh about things.
It makes me chuckle, our team leaders have a calendar with everyone's name written down on, mine included. So if by chance I legally change my name before my birthday, they'll have to change their calendar haha. Or put a sticky label over it.
The first few days did seem a bit rough, I'll admit. Like anything new.
Worrying about people eavesdropping is the highest of my concerns...
How about you all, any changes you've noticed by telling people? Perhaps a more relaxed state, or maybe more tense?
Title: Re: Changes since partly coming out to coworkers
Post by: Veda on January 30, 2017, 04:58:47 PM
Post by: Veda on January 30, 2017, 04:58:47 PM
I haven't told any coworkers yet, although I did come into work with my ears pierced today, can't tell if they are busy or just avoiding asking me about my new earrings...
Title: Re: Changes since partly coming out to coworkers
Post by: JeanetteLW on January 31, 2017, 01:44:49 AM
Post by: JeanetteLW on January 31, 2017, 01:44:49 AM
Tell someone??? My ex knew I liked to cross dress (that's all it was I thought at the time) .... That didn't work out so good in the long run. She vindictively outed me to our friends just prior to the divorce. I no longer live in that area. My little sister caught me en femme. And I've told my doctor. Coming out fills me with dread. Since I now have these sore bumps developing on my chest I'll soon have to tell the sister I currently live with.
I've had my youngest grand daughter "notice" my dual ear piercings but I was able to chalk that up to my wild youthful days. I talked her out of seeing if they still went through. She also made a commotion one visit when I was applying some tinted flavored chapstick. She was sure it was lipstick. Darn kids.
I am happy you are making progress with your coming out Mirath. Good for you.
I've a ways to go yet
Jeanette
I've had my youngest grand daughter "notice" my dual ear piercings but I was able to chalk that up to my wild youthful days. I talked her out of seeing if they still went through. She also made a commotion one visit when I was applying some tinted flavored chapstick. She was sure it was lipstick. Darn kids.
I am happy you are making progress with your coming out Mirath. Good for you.
I've a ways to go yet
Jeanette
Title: Re: Changes since partly coming out to coworkers
Post by: JeanetteLW on January 31, 2017, 08:03:05 PM
Post by: JeanetteLW on January 31, 2017, 08:03:05 PM
Quote from: JeanetteLW on January 31, 2017, 01:44:49 AM
Coming out fills me with dread. Since I now have these sore bumps developing on my chest I'll soon have to tell the sister I currently live with.
I don't think this is going to go well... In response to a TV news story that mentioned "LGBT", she commented "Whatever that is. Overhearing her I told her that it stood for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered. Her next comment was, " well why don't they just say the weirdos?" I almost told her that I was one of them, but only said , "They aren't weirdos."
No, this will not be easy when the time comes. Not easy at all. >:(
Jeanette
Title: Re: Changes since partly coming out to coworkers
Post by: Michelle_P on January 31, 2017, 11:22:18 PM
Post by: Michelle_P on January 31, 2017, 11:22:18 PM
Yeah, Jeanette, I know what you mean. Several months before I crashed and came out, my wife was watching TV (I was reading a book next to her), when a promo about Caitlyn Jenner appearing on some show ran. She just sneered, and said "Freak!" I didn't say anything, but I sure felt it.
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