Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I have been asking my parents to socially transition for a long time.  They knew about me feeling like that pretty much my whole life, but since a while ago they heard about the word transgender.  LITERALLY every moment of the day I am thinking about that and I am never happy ever.  The thing that I am most scared of is this will keep going on until I am an adult.  I never will have gotten to experience being a kid and havjng a normal level of happines at the same time, and every day I am worried about that. I am also not quite developing like a boy should because it seems like I am intersex, which you would think should convince them to let me.  But as long as they can think of crazy excuses like me eating too much soy, its not working.  I would rather have anything happen to me then this.

You may be limited as to what you can do. You need to talk with a doctor about this so try to get an appointment with one. If you can't, you school may have a therapist that could help you with your parents. If that's not possible, you need to spend more time on the site learning everything you can so you can find an argument that your parents will accept. Some problem's aren't solvable now and you will have to wait until you are in control of your life.

If you are unable to deal with your parents, your parents are welcome to join the site and discuss this with us. Of course this will mean you will have to talk them into this but you might be able to pick the one that is most receptive to your argument.

I've known I was trans before I even knew there was a word for it, and my mom has even said I told her I wanted to be a boy as young as 3 or 4, so I understand how you feel in regards to feeling like you're "missing out". But sadly, there's really nothing that can be done about what has already happened, and dwelling on that kind of stuff only makes it worse. Instead of regretting what you don't have, try instead looking forward to what could happen in the future.

As far as your parents go, try sending them some resources about being transgender/having a transgender child and start gradually pushing them in the direction of supporting your transition. It can be a difficult process, but you have to understand this is something extremely drastic that can take a while to come to terms with.

We all, with few exceptions, miss out on much of the life we should have had, and the life we're given to replace it seems more like a sentence than a consolation prize. I think this is true even for those, like me, who had no idea that they were trans growing up. (I speak in generalities I'm sure some will take exception to.) The only shining light I've seen is that we seem to keep our youth just a little longer than cis people, perhaps because our hormones are administered and we don't HAVE to go through menopause or it's male equivalent. It's not much, and it certainly doesn't make up for what school should have been, but it's something. If you're in the US you'll be an adult at 18. Prepare as best you can, save money, learn, make contacts, so that you can transition just as soon as possible. Take some solace in the fact that women come in all shapes and sizes and that testosterone doesn't complete it's work until about 26.