Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Just wondering if there have been any meet and greets with the people on this forum. I'm in central Florida and would love to meet people here that live near me. To be honest, the generic LGB meetings are not that inspiring.

If any of you here have met, how did it go?

Post if you would like to attend/organize a meet and greet. :icon_chick:

It would be so awesome to meet any of you fine girls and know that I'm 100 percent accepted, and in turn, know you are as well. :)

Well I'm in Australia but I have met several of the Aussie girls on Susan's. It has always been great.

In Adelaide we also have a monthly meet up for people, trans or not, newbie or oldie, we get about 20-30 people and it is always fun. Some of the new people are naturally nervous but since there are others who have been transitioned for years we can help each other.

Oh, I'm so jealous! I wish I could participate in a meet-up. I'm currently living in a southern Thailand town so that's not likely, but I suppose that could change at any time.

Because of the Thai Buddhist culture I'm actually surrounded by people of mixed gender, but here it doesn't seem to be any kind of an issue worth mentioning. I see transmales with their girlfriends and transwomen with their boyfriends but there aren't any support groups because they just get on with their lives as is.

One of my friends is a pretty Filipino transmale, but he doesn't seem to care about it, although openly admitting that's what he is.

Cindy, that is awesome, like Raell, I'm Jealous!

I feel so isolated at times ... there are zero pure trans groups here in central Florida where I can meet and talk with people like me.

Well I started to organise it until I found people willing to run with it. You can do that as well.

Are you seeing a therapist or an endo?

In which case you tell them that you are organising a meet up group and can they help spread the message. Most therapists will jumper joy. Then ask if they know some solid people who may be interested to help and give them your contact email. Organise a meeting in a coffee shop and get to know each other and decide if you want to do this.

If you are interested so far I'm happy to take you through the whole process step by step. It's good fun!

Would love to meet anyone from here. Would also love to live where I don't need gloves & an overcoat

Quote from: Cindy on February 25, 2017, 11:55:21 PM
Well I'm in Australia but I have met several of the Aussie girls on Susan's. It has always been great.

In Adelaide we also have a monthly meet up for people, trans or not, newbie or oldie, we get about 20-30 people and it is always fun. Some of the new people are naturally nervous but since there are others who have been transitioned for years we can help each other.

Can vouch for these as I attended the meet Yesterday. There was 17 or so I think, it was the 2 year Anniversary for the group so we had a raffle and a cake...nice!!

Quote from: ElizabethK on February 26, 2017, 02:12:35 AM

Quote from: Cindy on February 25, 2017, 11:55:21 PM
Well I'm in Australia but I have met several of the Aussie girls on Susan's. It has always been great.

In Adelaide we also have a monthly meet up for people, trans or not, newbie or oldie, we get about 20-30 people and it is always fun. Some of the new people are naturally nervous but since there are others who have been transitioned for years we can help each other.

Can vouch for these as I attended the meet Yesterday. There was 17 or so I think, it was the 2 year Anniversary for the group so we had a raffle and a cake...nice!!

I was there at 2pm but was a little too ill to stay. But they are fun!

Missed you...by that much...I must have got there about 2:30 or so just after the cake was cut.

I hear there's a regular trans group in Sydney, organised through meetup.com.

I really need to start looking into stuff like this around where I am. It'd probably do wonders for my confidence.

I would very much like to start one in Chicago.  If anyone is interested PM me or reply to this thread if you don't have enough posts yet.

I meet with a bunch of ppl at our monthly pflag meetings, but it seems that most of the meetup groups around here are oriented to the mtf not many guys, not sure why

Know where your coming from as cant find any one around here, there was a meetup group started in Oct but its folded as no one wants to run it , I don't have time as work 6 days with only Sunday and one day every 2 weeks off.

Not people from Susan's, but we have FTM social groups in DC in addition to support groups.

You could also try Meet Up. I've never looked into what might be available on there that's trans related, but I'd be surprised if there wasn't something in a decently populated area.

Quote from: Cindy on February 26, 2017, 01:34:14 AM
Well I started to organise it until I found people willing to run with it. You can do that as well.

Are you seeing a therapist or an endo?

In which case you tell them that you are organising a meet up group and can they help spread the message. Most therapists will jumper joy. Then ask if they know some solid people who may be interested to help and give them your contact email. Organise a meeting in a coffee shop and get to know each other and decide if you want to do this.

If you are interested so far I'm happy to take you through the whole process step by step. It's good fun!

Since my insurance changed in January I have a new doctor who I'm still getting to know, which sucks.

I'm not very outgoing, I'm more the girl in the corner nervously twirling her hair.  ::) Perhaps I'll try and create a meet-up thingy. My kingdom to meet a girl like me here to talk to in person ... that would be awesome!

I know there are several of us up here in the Pacific Northwest. Surprisingly I can find very few support groups here in the Portland, Oregon metro area.

Quote from: patrick1967 on February 26, 2017, 11:36:11 AM
I meet with a bunch of ppl at our monthly pflag meetings, but it seems that most of the meetup groups around here are oriented to the mtf not many guys, not sure why

I have to admit we get very few men attending the meet ups and my personal opinion is it just reflects the standard gender norm. Women tend to like sitting around talking to each other and guys don't.

If you look at the forum stats (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=stats) you will find the men are badly outnumbered. Either there aren't that many of them or they prefer to transition in private. I don't really know the answer to that one.

I have met some of my very best friends here that happen to also be transgender.  One girl and I realized we were only 8 miles apart and became nearly inseparable during early transition.  We needed each other and never tired of talking trans, unlike our spouses and other friends.  I also met Julie here, a couple of em :D  I am traveling to Scottsdale next month to support her during GCS and recovery.  I love my friends and feel so very fortunate to have them.

Quote from: JeanetteLW on February 27, 2017, 10:48:51 PM
I know there are several of us up here in the Pacific Northwest. Surprisingly I can find very few support groups here in the Portland, Oregon metro area.

Jeanette, I am heading to Portland this Friday and dare you to meet me at the Portland Q Center for the 7 PM trans women's group.  I have not been for months as my girlfriends and others started our own Q Center out here in Astoria.
You have my info girl.   

We are everywhere and we just have to smile and say; Don't I know you from Susan's Place?  Why yes, I go there to get my nails done..... ;D

Quote from: Tessa James on February 28, 2017, 01:23:48 AM

Jeanette, I am heading to Portland this Friday and dare you to meet me at the Portland Q Center for the 7 PM trans women's group.  I have not been for months as my girlfriends and others started our own Q Center out here in Astoria.
You have my info girl.   

  How did you know I just looked at that meeting last night? I've heard of the Q Center but never been to it of any place like it. You being there may just be the incentive I need to go. Someone to hold my hand so to speak. Do they allow "guy mode" attendees?  omg  Just thinking about actually going is triggering my fight or flight center and since I've never wanted to fight.... I am going to try to remember it and go. My forgetter has always been good. :(
 
  Hugs,
    Jeanette

Quote from: JeanetteLW on February 28, 2017, 11:31:51 AM
  How did you know I just looked at that meeting last night? I've heard of the Q Center but never been to it of any place like it. You being there may just be the incentive I need to go. Someone to hold my hand so to speak. Do they allow "guy mode" attendees?  omg  Just thinking about actually going is triggering my fight or flight center and since I've never wanted to fight.... I am going to try to remember it and go. My forgetter has always been good. :(
 
  Hugs,
    Jeanette

I am happy to meet you there, share a ride and/or literally hold hands as we walk in.  Parking is horrid but the people are great.  The group is quite diverse with some folks just questioning and in male mode, others a decade in.  Folks often go out after the meeting.  Some folks say very little and some, like me, are hard to shut up ;)  Groups work best when facilitators help everyone feel included IMO.  We are welcome and safe there, we are on the Board of Directors there.  Consider yourself invited please.  I have been doing groups since forever and find it fun and often enlightening.  No pressure, when you're ready is the right time! :D

Quote from: Tessa James on February 28, 2017, 01:36:13 PM
I am happy to meet you there, share a ride and/or literally hold hands as we walk in.  Parking is horrid but the people are great.  The group is quite diverse with some folks just questioning and in male mode, others a decade in.  Folks often go out after the meeting.  Some folks say very little and some, like me, are hard to shut up ;)  Groups work best when facilitators help everyone feel included IMO.  We are welcome and safe there, we are on the Board of Directors there.  Consider yourself invited please.  I have been doing groups since forever and find it fun and often enlightening.  No pressure, when you're ready is the right time! :D

   Tessa.
      You are taking away all of my excuses, except for the parking one. My  pickup can be a pain finding parking and parking I consider safe. I'm not a fan of the area the Q is in. But I have survived worse.  The meeting itself sounds reminiscent of an AA meeting and I have been intimately familiar with them.
    I am leaning hard on being there to meet you, if for no other reason. I even entertained ideas of driving out to the coast just to do so. I do like driving and consider the coast just down the road and around the corner.

  Hugs,
Jeanette

Quote from: Cindy on February 27, 2017, 11:11:42 PM
I have to admit we get very few men attending the meet ups and my personal opinion is it just reflects the standard gender norm. Women tend to like sitting around talking to each other and guys don't.

I don't know about that.  Our local groups frequently have a majority of trans men.  It varies a lot, but there have been times when I was the only trans woman there.

My impression is that groups that are dominated by trans women tend to be places where trans men and non-binaries don't feel comfortable.  And, much as being the first or only African-American in an all-white space can be very uncomfortable, I suspect being the first trans man in an all trans feminine space can be pretty daunting, too.

There's also often an age difference.  In our area, the trans men and NBs tend to be younger (teens and twenties), while there are a lot of older trans women in groups.  This can be intimidating for the younger people.

I've noticed that the Phila. Trans-Health conference has a huge number of trans male sessions and events and attendees.  (There are also a lot of NBs, but fewer sessions :( )


I'd be interested in hearing from the guys here.

Quote from: Asche on February 28, 2017, 03:09:23 PM
There's also often an age difference.  In our area, the trans men and NBs tend to be younger (teens and twenties), while there are a lot of older trans women in groups.  This can be intimidating for the younger people.

Age difference indeed... This can be intimidating for the younger people.   Just as the opposite can be true. In researching trans resources I found 2 or 3 sites that seemed to cater exclusively to the youthful side and only one that were multi functioned open to all with things organized for everyone.

   It looks like I'll be at that one Friday  The Q Center in Portland, Oregon

  Hugs,
    Jeanette