Susan's Place Transgender Resources

As many of you are aware, I have only attained self discovery in the last year.  As such, I am still sorting through many of the details about who I really am.  I spent much of the year considering myself to be GenderFluid, or more specifically FluidFlux.  Needless to say, I have been feeling much more transsexual in recent months.

I would say that this is where my head is at presently:  I do exist on FluidFlux scale where I can move to/from male/female in varying intensities.  While I'm still working through my identity, I'll say that I find it unlikely that I'll ever move away from fluidity entirely.  But here's the catch...I LIKE when I am female much more.  I can feel male and though I don't hate it, I just don't like it as much.  I am happier and more content as a female and I think I am also a better person during those times.

My question is this. Is there such a thing as being DMAB, being GenderFluid but wanting to identify as female in daily life.  In other words, being GenderFluid but wanting to be the opposite of your assigned gender as your primary identity.  I ask, because the logical side of me says 'heck, if you're GenderFluid, take the easy route and live male and just experience gender how you feel'.  But ultimately that's not what I want at this stage of my life.

I know that in the broad spectrum of humanity, every combination is possible.  I just wonder what the group thinks.  Is this a thing, or would it seem as part of my evolution towards choosing between being MtF or perhaps remaining a GenderFluid Male.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.

What you are suggesting is very possible and I know of several site members who felt like you and have undergone surgery. If you think you will desire surgery, the catch is you need to be sure you are far stronger on the feminine side than you are on the masculine side.

As for the term transgender, that includes people who are gender fluid. It might be possible the term you are searching for is transsexual which is also a subset out transgender.

Quote from: Dena on February 26, 2017, 09:45:55 PM
As for the term transgender, that includes people who are gender fluid. It might be possible the term you are searching for is transsexual which is also a subset out transgender.

Ah, yes, thank you for the clarification.  I changed it.  Still learning so much.  ;)

I guess i could relate. I at one point found decent amount of ok-ness as a more femme-boy then go to girl. However, there is always that stupud voice that tries to make me masculine and manly. My issue is i dislike very much being put into the male box (specifically the masculine box), though the doubts of my mind like to sheep herd me that way. And I am a far better person as a female.  Sorry, not sure how much of that you can relate to, but i have had those feelings too

Sure. Everyone is on the gender spectrum. Nobody is totally one gender or the other.

In my case, I'm comfortable letting my male side have his place beside my female mode. Luckily, a Thai herb I take seems to blend the two sides and block dysphoria.

If I were more male, I could take T and overwhelm my female side, though, but I don't want to.

Of course. If you're any nb gender identity you're still a part of the trans community. And some nb people decide to medically transition just the same as some binary trans people decide to medically transition.

For me I identify as 90% male and the rest agender. Because my brain is mostly wired male I need T to get rid of social as well as body dysphoria. l would feel happier being referred to as nothing and being androgynous but I also feel much more comfortable in a slightly typically male looking body and much more comfortable if people refer to me as male rather than female. So I live as male which is the best compromise for me.