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Title: Awkward talk about body parts.... TMI?
Post by: #glitterflamingo on March 17, 2017, 01:33:16 PM
Post by: #glitterflamingo on March 17, 2017, 01:33:16 PM
Okay so...i just started seeing a new partner and we're filling out one of those cool Consent Worksheets before we actually get down and dirty [communication is the best~ ;D] and I got to the place where I write out how I want my "naughty bits" referred to and I'm like, ....damn I never thought of that....
Like, I'm FTM[started T but no surgery] and I would never want to use "anatomically correct" words because just NO, but I don't know what I want them called exactly. Are there and words that are more "neutral" or trans-friendly I could use instead? Arg. Anyone else ever have this same problem? I feel like a lone sailor on a ship of confusion. >. < halp?
Like, I'm FTM[started T but no surgery] and I would never want to use "anatomically correct" words because just NO, but I don't know what I want them called exactly. Are there and words that are more "neutral" or trans-friendly I could use instead? Arg. Anyone else ever have this same problem? I feel like a lone sailor on a ship of confusion. >. < halp?
Title: Re: Awkward talk about body parts.... TMI?
Post by: kings joker on March 17, 2017, 01:54:40 PM
Post by: kings joker on March 17, 2017, 01:54:40 PM
well really general words like: junk, hole, cum-mand center usually get the point across but can sometimes sound funny when you're trying to be alluring. I find "g-spot" is pretty neutral seeming and lips is ok for me sometimes. Usually I just use very masculine and mildly aggressive verbs to compensate like "<not permitted> me." or "Suck me off". I find that its directive enough that there is no question as to what body party I want my partner to engage with. This does fall flat when it comes to dirty talk though. That tends to be very descriptive and these phrases are pretty general.
Title: Re: Awkward talk about body parts.... TMI?
Post by: groudon18 on March 18, 2017, 02:19:06 AM
Post by: groudon18 on March 18, 2017, 02:19:06 AM
i usually use front hole or just hole
Title: Re: Awkward talk about body parts.... TMI?
Post by: Alexthecat on March 18, 2017, 02:35:56 AM
Post by: Alexthecat on March 18, 2017, 02:35:56 AM
Why not ask <your partner> to try out different names for them? Once you hear them it will become clear which ones you hate and which ones are alright. Same with nicknames or petnames.
Moderator edit: I don't think we are sure of your partner's gender.
Moderator edit: I don't think we are sure of your partner's gender.
Title: Re: Awkward talk about body parts.... TMI?
Post by: Jacqueline on March 20, 2017, 12:01:31 PM
Post by: Jacqueline on March 20, 2017, 12:01:31 PM
Welcome to the site.
Tough question. I think it becomes what you are comfortable with. I would have troubles as well.
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With warmth,
Joanna
Tough question. I think it becomes what you are comfortable with. I would have troubles as well.
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Joanna