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Title: Worry about my teacher stopping supporting me
Post by: Harry_1 on March 18, 2017, 05:11:21 PM
Post by: Harry_1 on March 18, 2017, 05:11:21 PM
This post is probably very specific and therefore not very relatable, but hopefully some people will have ideas anyway :)
I'm an FtM in college and came out to my teacher a month and a half ago, who was very supportive. None of the other adults I know have been supportive at all so this really meant a lot. The teacher is my English teacher, and since then I've (sort of by accident) made both creative assignments I've been set subtley trans-related. I'm for some reason getting very worried that my teacher is going to get tired of me going on about my gender, and start finding me irritating. This is making me hesitate to go talk to him again for advice and support, even though I'd like to. I'm also worried that, if I do seek his support again, I will accidentally say things which aren't appropriate to discuss with a teacher, and he will get uncomfortable. So basically, I'm too worried by the idea of this teacher going off me to seek his support again, even though I've no real reason to think this might happen. I guess I'm just used to negative reactions from adults, so expecting another one. The teacher did say I can come and talk to him again if I need to.
So, does anyone have ideas as to whether I'm just naturally worrying, or if there's a genuine risk that I will bore or annoy this teacher? Also, do you think that dysphoria is an appropriate topic to discuss with a teacher? Thank you :)
I'm an FtM in college and came out to my teacher a month and a half ago, who was very supportive. None of the other adults I know have been supportive at all so this really meant a lot. The teacher is my English teacher, and since then I've (sort of by accident) made both creative assignments I've been set subtley trans-related. I'm for some reason getting very worried that my teacher is going to get tired of me going on about my gender, and start finding me irritating. This is making me hesitate to go talk to him again for advice and support, even though I'd like to. I'm also worried that, if I do seek his support again, I will accidentally say things which aren't appropriate to discuss with a teacher, and he will get uncomfortable. So basically, I'm too worried by the idea of this teacher going off me to seek his support again, even though I've no real reason to think this might happen. I guess I'm just used to negative reactions from adults, so expecting another one. The teacher did say I can come and talk to him again if I need to.
So, does anyone have ideas as to whether I'm just naturally worrying, or if there's a genuine risk that I will bore or annoy this teacher? Also, do you think that dysphoria is an appropriate topic to discuss with a teacher? Thank you :)
Title: Re: Worry about my teacher stopping supporting me
Post by: Kylo on March 18, 2017, 05:14:25 PM
Post by: Kylo on March 18, 2017, 05:14:25 PM
A college counselor might be someone who can give you more time on the topic, if they have one.
Title: Re: Worry about my teacher stopping supporting me
Post by: Angela Drakken on March 18, 2017, 05:18:30 PM
Post by: Angela Drakken on March 18, 2017, 05:18:30 PM
Quote from: Kylo on March 18, 2017, 05:14:25 PM
A college counselor might be someone who can give you more time on the topic, if they have one.
This, or depending on where you are, a lot of campuses for universities/colleges have programs and groups directed towards peer outreach for LGBTQ individuals.
Title: Re: Worry about my teacher stopping supporting me
Post by: Denise on March 19, 2017, 09:20:29 AM
Post by: Denise on March 19, 2017, 09:20:29 AM
Quote from: Angela Drakken on March 18, 2017, 05:18:30 PM
This, or depending on where you are, a lot of campuses for universities/colleges have programs and groups directed towards peer outreach for LGBTQ individuals.
The group maybe called "diversity" or "student support" or "multicultural". The last one might sound a little strange, but the local university here has a number of people who have/are transitioning who work there and some who seek their support and guidance. Multicultural support is not too far off from trans support since we face a lot, but not all, of the same issues.
The other thing that I did (I'm much older) is I found a few people who supported my transition and I would round-robin through them as my 'unpaid therapists'. That way I only had a "it's all about me" session with them once per month and other times I wouldn't mention it unless they brought it up.