Susan's Place Transgender Resources

In the past few months I have been coming to terms with coming out as genderqueer to the people in my life. I consider myself "both/and", and typically present androgynously. I have small aspirations of getting top surgery. I feel as though my masculinity is starting to show in public. I feel strange and don't want to make the effort to explain myself to certain people. I just came out to a friend that I used to date and I felt the need to open up space for them to "feel weird" if needed. But the conversation had no middle, and it was a blasé reaction. It's just "interesting".

I feel unreal and different. It's a heavy feeling, one that's challenging but also giving me strength. Any advice on how to handle these feelings?

Welcome to the site.

It's a freeing but scary spot to be in, isn't it. My oldest just came out as non-binary a little bit ago.

I am not sure I can help you at all but to say to have some fun experimenting. Try different looks and behavior out as you feel. You might get some funny looks but everyone on the trans spectrum should expect a little of that.

I  plan to split your post off and move it to the introductions area. I think you may get more hits there.

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Once again, welcome to Susan's. Look around, ask questions and join in.

With warmth,

Joanna

Hi  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Gender Fluid is a term that was not used when I was young. Recently, people who feel a need to express them self differently at different times has become more common.

I would recommend to not have any surgery until you are sure of what you want. Counselors today have more experience with people who express a more fluid gender identity. Support groups for teens should be helpful.

I was under the impression fluid meant going back and forth and not staying in a fixed gender.

welcome to the family; hope you find all the answers to your questions and this is the best place to find it :)