Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I just told my wife I still crossdress and feel like I'm trans. She did not know I was still crossdressing during our 12 years relationship but she already know that I have already done it before. She told me to leave the house and never come back. That I lied to her all those years. That she will keep the house and I will never see my children again. Not a good day... She will seek a layer monday. Damn I thought she was open minded but when it is in your garden I guess it is not the same. 😢

Without knowing where you live, some of the advice I give may not apply. if you are still in the house you shouldn't leave until you see a lawyer because it might be considered abandonment and could make your legal position more difficult. If you are in a community property state, the property needs to be fairly divide so your wife will not receive anything unless you are both in agreement to the division. As for the children, joint custody is normally the rule as long as you don't give up your rights to the children. Promise your wife nothing until you talk to the lawyer. If you have a bank account in your name only, you will need it as your wife could attempt to clean out a joint account. It wouldn't be a bad idea if everything is in both names to have sufficient cash available to take care of you until you receive your next pay check. If you check is electronically deposited to a joint account, you need to open an account and have your payments sent there. Right now you need to protect yourself from any actions your wife might take. After you see the lawyer you will be able to work out a better plan to deal with your family.

A long time ago my wife told me the same thing one time after finding my clothes.  We had a huge fight and she tried to walk out and leave.  That time I physically restrained her until she calmed down a bit and began to be rational again.  (No violence involved). Not saying that was the right thing to do but I was nearly in a panic mode myself.  We did get over that crisis and now several decades later are still married.

So maybe with a little time your wife will not follow through.  I hope that that's the case.  But if not, Dena's advice is very good.


Conform and be dull. —James Frank Dobie, The Voice of the Coyote

It is very easy to be "Open Minded" when your life is not directly affected. Or, as I like to say living in the liberal utopia of the NYC metro area, PC on the outside, still the bigots on the inside when you get them away from the PC Police