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Title: First visit with parents since coming out
Post by: p on March 30, 2017, 11:59:59 AM
Post by: p on March 30, 2017, 11:59:59 AM
My parents are visiting this weekend--the first time I will see them since coming out to them. However, I am still incredibly nervous about how they will react / treat me. I am a very sensitive person, so I'm trying to make "Don't overreact" my mantra for the weekend. I think part of what might help me do that is to anticipate some things that might happen. So, does anyone have advice for what to expect--the good, the bad, the irritating, the things that changed, the things that didn't? Any tips for things I can do to help make things easier or to manage my reaction?
Title: Re: First visit with parents since coming out
Post by: JeanetteLW on March 30, 2017, 02:23:57 PM
Post by: JeanetteLW on March 30, 2017, 02:23:57 PM
My dear p,
First thing that comes to my mind is that they will love you for who you are. You have already come out to them and they are coming to visit you still. Even if coming out to them was strained they have had some time to absorb it and it isn't stopping them. You are their child and they have loved you how long? Well even if the circumstances are a bit different I believe they still love you and just want to see you happy.
There may be questions to answer and explanations to make to help them gain a better understanding of who you are, but ultimately you are their child. They brought you into this world and want nothing more than for you be be who you need to be. Help them to understand and love them back.
Hugs,
Jeanette
First thing that comes to my mind is that they will love you for who you are. You have already come out to them and they are coming to visit you still. Even if coming out to them was strained they have had some time to absorb it and it isn't stopping them. You are their child and they have loved you how long? Well even if the circumstances are a bit different I believe they still love you and just want to see you happy.
There may be questions to answer and explanations to make to help them gain a better understanding of who you are, but ultimately you are their child. They brought you into this world and want nothing more than for you be be who you need to be. Help them to understand and love them back.
Hugs,
Jeanette
Title: Re: First visit with parents since coming out
Post by: Elis on March 31, 2017, 07:02:36 AM
Post by: Elis on March 31, 2017, 07:02:36 AM
I would just keep talking as if you told them nothing to make the situation less awkward. With my dad he doesn't like to mention the trans subject and I think many parents are often the same way. Just try to keep the conversation flowing and act the same as usual; once you've done that a few times it becomes much easier :)