Community Conversation => Non-binary talk => Topic started by: Dienza on April 07, 2017, 10:35:50 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: Dienza on April 07, 2017, 10:35:50 PM
Post by: Dienza on April 07, 2017, 10:35:50 PM
Hi, just wondering if it's fine to create different names for each of your genders?
Examples
Female: Valina
Male: Valdez
Androgynous: Dienza
Is this normal or does it seem weird to have names to your different genders?
Btw my actual name is just a plain Val.
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Examples
Female: Valina
Male: Valdez
Androgynous: Dienza
Is this normal or does it seem weird to have names to your different genders?
Btw my actual name is just a plain Val.
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Title: Re: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: Cailan Jerika on April 09, 2017, 06:26:26 PM
Post by: Cailan Jerika on April 09, 2017, 06:26:26 PM
It seems to be common. Even the Wikipedia article references this trend for those who have multiple genders. It's just easier to refer to your different sides by a name. I tend to say "Cailan is my guy side, Jade is my girl side, and together they make me (my birth name, which happens to be unisex)."
I personally began simply referencing them by the names of two characters in a book as being representative of who my gender personalities were. Eventually I decided I didn't want to use specific characters, and picked names for each of them, much like MtFs and FtMs pick new names for their new genders. It was important that each was to a degree unisex, but each name would lean in a different direction. Cailan is old Celtic and depending on the spelling can go either way, but most uses are masculine. Jade tends to be thought of as a feminine name, but there are a lot of male Jades out there too (according to the US Census Bureau, nearly as many as females).
Long, long before I realized I was trans/bi-gender, I had a tendency to try on other names. I knew my name didn't fit, quite, but I had no idea why. It drove my mom nuts. Now I tend to be overly sensitive to name change because I did it so often as a kid/young teen it became a source of irritation from my friends and relatives. Therefore I'll probably just stick with my given name for general purposes. Plus legal name changes are a lot more painful and difficult once you're a "mature" adult and have mortgages, credit ratings, contracts and a known career name to deal with. Powerful people know and trust me professionally as AJR and will answer their phone with certain expectations. The same people might not even take a message from CJR.
I personally began simply referencing them by the names of two characters in a book as being representative of who my gender personalities were. Eventually I decided I didn't want to use specific characters, and picked names for each of them, much like MtFs and FtMs pick new names for their new genders. It was important that each was to a degree unisex, but each name would lean in a different direction. Cailan is old Celtic and depending on the spelling can go either way, but most uses are masculine. Jade tends to be thought of as a feminine name, but there are a lot of male Jades out there too (according to the US Census Bureau, nearly as many as females).
Long, long before I realized I was trans/bi-gender, I had a tendency to try on other names. I knew my name didn't fit, quite, but I had no idea why. It drove my mom nuts. Now I tend to be overly sensitive to name change because I did it so often as a kid/young teen it became a source of irritation from my friends and relatives. Therefore I'll probably just stick with my given name for general purposes. Plus legal name changes are a lot more painful and difficult once you're a "mature" adult and have mortgages, credit ratings, contracts and a known career name to deal with. Powerful people know and trust me professionally as AJR and will answer their phone with certain expectations. The same people might not even take a message from CJR.
Title: Re: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: Mikka55 on April 10, 2017, 05:48:03 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 10, 2017, 05:48:03 PM
I want my legal name change to be Mikayla
I always liked the name Makayla but I was always afraid it would be too feminine, but I always liked the name Mikka.
So I did some name searches...and I was afraid Mika can be used as male too(but in my case I dont feel male so...agender), So I combined Mika with Makayla = Mikayla...
Agender: Mika
Female: Mikayla
So I tell people call me Mika/Mikayla..Doesnt bother me
I always liked the name Makayla but I was always afraid it would be too feminine, but I always liked the name Mikka.
So I did some name searches...and I was afraid Mika can be used as male too(but in my case I dont feel male so...agender), So I combined Mika with Makayla = Mikayla...
Agender: Mika
Female: Mikayla
So I tell people call me Mika/Mikayla..Doesnt bother me
Title: Re: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: JakeMarley on April 14, 2017, 10:55:56 PM
Post by: JakeMarley on April 14, 2017, 10:55:56 PM
A lot of people on bi gender dot net have different name for when they're in male or female mode. It's a personal choice. Myself, I chose to just go by a shortened version of my female name that can be either male or female. Jake Marley isn't my real name. I just use that online.
Title: Re: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 15, 2017, 06:04:15 AM
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 15, 2017, 06:04:15 AM
If people already have a birth name that is unisex then there may be little need or want to have a 2nd one. On the other hand is someone is born Bob then they would probably wana look up a more feminine name for there feminine self
Title: Re: Is it normal to give your alter gender a name?
Post by: Cailan Jerika on April 16, 2017, 03:13:34 PM
Post by: Cailan Jerika on April 16, 2017, 03:13:34 PM
Quote from: SailorMars1994 on April 15, 2017, 06:04:15 AM
If people already have a birth name that is unisex then there may be little need or want to have a 2nd one. On the other hand is someone is born Bob then they would probably wana look up a more feminine name for there feminine self
My mom went out of her way to pick out a unisex name. Yet my female and male personas are very binary. Neither are happy with a unisex name. My girl side is very girly, my guy side is very dude. Having a unisex birth name is slightly dysphoric no matter which gender is in charge at the moment.