Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: SailorMars1994 on April 11, 2017, 07:51:45 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Its the small things...
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 11, 2017, 07:51:45 PM
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 11, 2017, 07:51:45 PM
Hey everyone. I was looking for advice about the mental slip ups. I had a coffee and window shopping date with a girly-friend. It went overall great. I spent that time feeling like I belong of the pink team. Especially when she says stuff like ''Omg one day when we have money we are going to get lunch and shop like crazy'' and just things like that, small things that i pick up on that allows me to feel connected into female world/girl talk :) I love those small things, we also went window shopping for cute mini-dresses and tops. These are moemnts I cherish
But the other small things... The things that could have made me had a meltdown not just a few months ago.. My mental slips. They are getting better these days, but sometimes I notice that my voice will crack to a lower/more masculine tone, or I will do a small reaction to something and a behavior i picked up from a male growing up will slip out. These moments have ruined good times before. Today i had a couple slip ups, like with my voice.. I would be reminded of the ''masculinity'' of it and notice i started to feel real anxious and gross. i even felt a indigestion like feel, as if i was going to throw up (tho not gag happily). Thes moments didnt ruin my good night as i kept calm i refcused on the fact I AM a woman, but they are still annoying.. What steps have you all taken to minimize these slips to nothing? Thanks!!
But the other small things... The things that could have made me had a meltdown not just a few months ago.. My mental slips. They are getting better these days, but sometimes I notice that my voice will crack to a lower/more masculine tone, or I will do a small reaction to something and a behavior i picked up from a male growing up will slip out. These moments have ruined good times before. Today i had a couple slip ups, like with my voice.. I would be reminded of the ''masculinity'' of it and notice i started to feel real anxious and gross. i even felt a indigestion like feel, as if i was going to throw up (tho not gag happily). Thes moments didnt ruin my good night as i kept calm i refcused on the fact I AM a woman, but they are still annoying.. What steps have you all taken to minimize these slips to nothing? Thanks!!
Title: Re: Its the small things...
Post by: JeanetteLW on April 11, 2017, 08:35:32 PM
Post by: JeanetteLW on April 11, 2017, 08:35:32 PM
Hi Ashley,
Like you said those bad times are getting less and less often. Just look at all the progress you have made in such a short time. The more you continue to work at it and focus on those small good things the less of those bad time you are going to have. Keep remember those girl times with your girlfriend and you'll be okay.
Hugs,
Jeanette
Like you said those bad times are getting less and less often. Just look at all the progress you have made in such a short time. The more you continue to work at it and focus on those small good things the less of those bad time you are going to have. Keep remember those girl times with your girlfriend and you'll be okay.
Hugs,
Jeanette
Title: Re: Its the small things...
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 11, 2017, 08:40:14 PM
Post by: SailorMars1994 on April 11, 2017, 08:40:14 PM
Thanks for the encouragement! Yes, tonight was a good night. Shes also introducing me to one of her other girly-friends, and this other friend is bisexual so it is safe to assume I will be among open minded peoples and may even make a new friend ^.^ . My seeds of femininity and womanhood have been growing a lot lately, I just wana make sure they keep growing. This is going to sound cliche but this is the life I wish I had always experinced. And I am happy I am able to ^.^